Hello all. I would say that I am looking for advice here, though I really am not. More reassurance, I believe. My wife of 21 years has had an emergency ileostomy this week. This was combined with a full hysterectomy. While this was unexpected, I could never have been ready for what was next. The last few days, she has been kissing me like we kissed 20 years ago, started making sexual advances towards me, and really trying to initiate that activity. I love giving her these deeply intimate moments. Deep passionate kissing and, while right now only in words, I reciprocate her advances through words and texts. Keep in mind, though, she is straight up still in the hospital. This is pretty out of character for her, and I'm concerned that this sudden life change could be affecting her psyche. It makes me sad to think that because of these changes, she has a need to chase me. I would rather her focus all her energy on healing and let me get back to chasing her. I believe it may be worthwhile to seek out a therapist. But I don't want her to know that I've noticed a change. I'm afraid I will feed her insecurities if that is what it is. I love her now as I loved her all those years ago, and I think she is just as beautiful now. Seriously, this lady hasn't changed in 20 years. Any advice would be most appreciated.
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