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Intimacy & Dating with an Ostomy |
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How do you bring up an ostomy?
I have a date this weekend and am not sure how to
bring up the subject of my ostomy. I don't think
anything is going to happen, but it was a fairly
important event in my life....and something that I
should probably tell her about.
I'm not secretive about it and not ashamed of it
by any means...but I also tend to be a little
flippant..."oh yeah, four years ago i almost
died. Spent a month in the hospital...I'm better
now though. Well, mostly. Had another surgery
last summer and probab...
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Re: earlier post on "does anyone ever meet"
Well I have chatted with a couple of people, but
have yet to land a date. I thought I was
articulate, pic was ok, profile short and sweet.
OH WELL. RAY.
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Ostomate males age 18-24 == where are you!?!
For Girls who are reading this- its no prejudice
against you- and if you are a female my age and
wanna contact me- SURE! I'd love to connect. But
in overall I am more interested in talking to
boys. No offence to girls, but i've had a hard
time even as a kid getting along with females. Im
sure its no secret that most of them can be over
emotional and lacking a backbone. I've been
friends with guys all my life and would LOVE to
meet more guys on Ostomate to connect with.
I would love to say im no...
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You say you never hook up in here?
I suppose wearing a bag does not mean I need to
date someone else who wears a bag. After the bag
talk, is there anything else? ray
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Love after an ostomy !
For those of you still looking for love after your
Ostomy ....don't give up! One day when you least
expect it there will be a message in your
inbox....always remember that when your not
looking life has a brilliant way of surprising you
with someone in your life you have so much in
common with and either your make a great new
friend or you will find the person you were always
looking for ! I for one thank God I found this
website ........I was in a low place when I first
started and now I've nev...
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Why do guys want to cheat after sex with a female ostomate?
Guys, especially the thin, athletic and handsome
ones, why do y'all cheat after being intimate with
a female ostomate? Am I just meeting the creeps
out there? Then they lie 'cause they
"...don't want to hurt our feelings" how
gentlemenly of them! Guys, what do you think?
Interview your guy friends to investigate what
that's all about, especially the ones that
introduce us to their families, say they love us,
take us out to nice dates before sex then after
they get it...run? Where are ...
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Wish me luck
going on my first date since hubby left, so im
very nervous,
he dosnt know about my iliostomy ,and im not going
to tell him on our first date,
iv 24 hours to prepare myself ,think ill stick to
protiens in the resteraunt HELP.
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Id like a companion
since my hubby left 6 moths ago (has flown by)
i feel the need to go out and enjoy some nice
evenings out of the house,
i go out with my grown up children and
grandchildren but its not the same,
id like some male company, i miss going out for
meals and to the dogs ect,
im not too sure about internet dating, anyone
tried it?
leah x
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Sex hurts and anyone out there with fap?
I have FAP And by the time they caught my FAP I
was already in stage IV colorectal cancer I have
lost my rectum anus my entire colon I had to have
liver ablations or burnouts and I had to have a
total hysterectomy too. Also my FAP has advanced
i have precancerous polys in my stomach and
precancerous cells in my duodenum. Can you tell
me how you deal with having this disease?
My husband and I have been married over 18 years I
think 19 I can't remember anymore I have chemo
brain and he too te...
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Companion
Wondering if there are Man who looking for a
lady who is in an Electric Wheelchair an Ostomate
plus having an SPC ( SUPERPUBIC CATHETER )with
lots of care 34hrs. a week. I'm high support Lady,
but would like to meet a nice man for chats,
outing and lots more. The week has lots of free
time and I like movies, theater plays, music and
playing cards or other boardgames.
Don't know if this is the right way to go about
it, because in Australia are only a small number
of members. Nevertheless I tho...
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2012 (my year so far)
Hi Everyone,
Just came across this site, and have to say after
reading through many of the forum posts it makes
me feel not so alone This time last year
(December 2011) my life was completely different,
i had a life, lived in Spain, had a job i loved,
had great friends and amazing social life....then
illness took me by surprise.
I didn't understand what was happening; my medical
Spanish wasn't the same as conversational. so i
decided to return to the UK and follow-up tests
that they had...
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Pelvic exoneration
I was wondering if any other ladies have had to
have a pelvic exoneration? I had vaginal cancer,
diagnosed in late 2004. After undergoing surgery,
radiation and chemo, and a horrific doctor, I
developed necrosis at the original cancer site,
spreading deep within my body. I then switched
doctors when I realized that something awful was
happening. I took 100 hyperbaric oxygen
treatments and while it did shrink the necrosis,
it was not enough to remedy the situation. I was
told that I only had...
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Std's and stomas
I don’t have any STD's but was wondering now
that I have an ileostomy if there is any that
would cause me particular problems with my stoma.
Maybe i am worrying to much but was unsure if
things like herpes or even crabs would get under
the adhesive part of the pouch, possibly on the
stoma itself and be a lot more difficult to deal
with than if they where just on the skin in a
normal person.
I don’t really want to live the life of a monk
to avoid this happening so I thought I'd ask.
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Im deverstated
i used my husbands computer last monday because
mine broke down and
i saw pictures of him and a pretty young lady
naked,
i confronted him about it and he said that since
iv had my illiostomy iv become unbearable to live
with,
and he wants a divorce.i cant stop crying ,he
walked out on tuesday and i havnt seem him
since,iv called him and left messages ,but
nothing,
we have been married for 11 years,i had my op 2
yeasr ago.
im so hurt and confused,
thank you for listening,
leah,
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Another quip from "just for laughs"
1. "YOU ALWAYS
HURT_____________________________"
2. "ROMEO,
ROMEO________________________________"
3. "I'M BUSTER
BROWN,____________________________"
4. "WATSON, I
___________________________________"
5. "SHE CROSSED THE GREAT
MOUNTAIN,_____________"
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Loss of a wonderful mother and member misstracyann2484
misstracyann2484 just recently passed away at age
28 a few weeks after giving birth to her 4th child
Emma. I knew her for quite a few years after
chatting with her on this website and I know she
was friends with many others here.
Tracy will be missed, please pray for her childern
and family.
Thanks
Aaron
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Caused by surgery or not?
Hi guys, I'm confused by my body - the background
is: I've known a guy for about seven years, I used
to see him standing very quietly with his mates at
a night club I used to go to, and he'd occasionaly
be looking at me, to cut a long story short, it
took five years for me to be the one to approach
him and say 'hi'. I was married at the time
(getting divorced now), and there was no way I
would be anything more than friends. We danced
occasionally (he obviously plucked up the
confidence!) I gave ...
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Be brave
Hi,
I got my temp ileostomy 6 months ago. I had just
separated (my decision) and thought I might not
have any relationship as long as I have my stoma
(which I still will have at least for 6 months).
Well, so far I've told about my ileostomy for 2
dates. The first date I told some months ago moved
abroad, so we put our relationship on a hold, but
I can assure you, my stoma was never a problem.
I'm still in contact wit him every now and then,
but only as friends.
Now 2 weeks ago I met som...
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1st date after my ileostomy
Hello all I have had my little friend since
December 2011. I did think it was hard enough
finding a fella as a single mum but this makes
things that much more harder.
I met a guy on a dating site so have had the
chance to get to no him and him me before meeting.
Well the time has come to bite the bullet and will
be going on a date tomorrow night. The only thing
im worried about is telling him about my stoma and
have said from the start that I would tell who
ever I go out with about it just a...
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Hard to meet
Hi,
Ive been reading allot of storries abd comennts on
this site and thought i would join as im keen to
meet/chat other people going through similar probs
that i am and have an undertanding of what we have
to deal with. I have had an illeostomy since i was
17, i am now 36 so you could say i am used to my
bag/illeostomy or as i call it Ozzy...I had to
have surgery after just 9 weeks in hospital with
ulcerative colitis, my colon and all of large bowl
had to be removed, i have actually dealt wi...
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First date in 6yrs - wish me luck!
My daughter has been on my case for the last 6 yrs
about dating. Moreso since I've had my ostomy
surgery. I have Familial Andenometous Polyposis
(FaP), so I had everything below the small
intestine removed, Colon, Anus Rectum (wince) I
already had horrible self esteem so, you can
imagine what my self esteem was like after my
surgery
But, God bless my lovely daughter. I was so angry
with her at first, but she went through my closets
at 5 months after the surgery and had me start
trying on t...
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32 and i feel like i'm doomed for a single life.
Hey all, as per the title I'm at a bit of a low
place right now. I've had my permeant stoma for
18 months now (I had a looped ileostomy for 18
months previously) and suffered yet another
pushback for a nice woman. My Crohn's and
subsequent mass of operations ended my previous 7
year relationship.
I have taken my time in getting back into the
"meeting women" scene as I have been
very ill, and it's making me regret agreeing to a
proctocolectomy, which is strange as I know things
had...
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Rejection
Hi all,
being a gay ostomate, i met a really sweet guy.We
got on so well together lots of fun and laughter
plus we had alot in common.Five weeks into our
relationship i told him i had a ileostomy since i
was 13yrs old and told him why i had to have it.
Since i told him i havnt heard from him since.I
now feel stupit for telling him and really really
hurt. having a ileostomy now for 32yrs it dosent
get any easier and the hurt of rejection is still
thereafter all these years.I really hate having...
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Sex now hurts
I had the BCIR surgery 4 months ago with removal
of my large intestine, galbladder, rectum and
anus. I have had sex 3 times but it hurts. It
feels like the inside of my vagina about 3 -4
inches in will not stretch or let anything
through. Is that normal? Swelling ? Just very
frustrating My husband said he can't tell and gets
annoyed since I have to stop. Even with a ton of
lube. Just very odd. nobody else seems to know
why.
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Dating difficulties
Dating with an ostomy pouch can be difficult. If
you're like me and also have Herpes, good luck,
you're gonna need it!
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I have colostmy
I am interested in dating. But when is it the
right time to tell somebody that u have colonstmy.
I just want to know what some people thoughts are
or give me some advice.
Thanks
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How do you tell someone your dating that you have an ostomy?
I am a 37 year old, single mom of 3 and I am a
colorectal cancer survivor going on 3 years now. I
am dating and find it very difficult and stressful
to try to tell someone I want to be intimate with,
that I have an ostomy. How do you tell someone? I
would also like to know how can I hide or keep my
bag from getting in the way during intimacy. I am
so worried that I will never find someone who will
accept the fact that I have an ostomy. I feel so
embarrassed asking these questions, but I don't
...
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Hopeing to garner some insights, a penny for a thought.
Well I'm returning to work next week. Physically
I'm in wonderful shape considering the surgery.
I'm cancer free. My son is doing well, he's
finishing his classes and getting his certificates
in February. My niece has moved in and has been a
blessing the last several months. Both friend and
family have been here for me. I've had so much
support and here I am feeling sorry for myself, I
should be ashamed. I dwell on a fizzled romance
like a silly teenager and I picture my wife
looking down on me ...
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Well i'm certainly exited to be here and share. yes i'm new
Alrighty then I'll spend the money. And a small
price indeed because there is treasure here.
Just been browsing and I'll admit I'm enjoying
this and certainly by this time tomorrow I should
be engaged. I like the opportunity afforded, it
allows for interesting as well as entertaining
threads. Listen to me acting like I know what I'm
talking about. I joined the site about a week and
a half ago. Had my surgery a month and a half ago.
Was dumped by my girlfriend about a month and
three weeks ago....
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Sex and diverticulitis and an ostomy bag
WARNING...THIS IS AN INTIMATE QUESTION AND I AM
ONLY INTERESTED IN A SERIOUS ANSWER..Ok, this is
kinda hard to talk about but im just going to come
right out and ask... does anyone know if having
anal sex could lead to diverticulitis. My husband
enjoys having it done to him on occasion (fisting
to be exact) and now he has diverticulitis..so
much so that he had to have surgery and now has an
ostomy bag on his abdomen. Im not trying to be
funny or to gross anyone out...this is a genuine
question ...
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Trying to have children after a iliostomy surgery??
Iv had my ilio. for some 7 yrs. having this it
blew our chance for having a child till I
recoverred. i also suffered for four years before
it too. So i am looking for some advice about
trying to have a intimate relationship with my
wife and have a child. ??? Im going on 51
and she is starting her 40s so we are getting a
late strart . That is the qqueserion if we can
though So I need some advice So anyone got any
recomendations let me know thank you happy new
yearr to all too.
ma
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First time on here for a long time i thought i was the only
I been wearing a colostomy bag since I was 11
years old than my bladder start to act they gave
me a uriostomy bag had it since I was 17, So I
been going thur this for a long time and I'm still
not use to thses bag ,I am a recovery cancer
patient so I have alot more going on ,I been with
one man now he's cheating and the only reason I
can think why he doing to to me cause of the bags
and my other problem I was ok with now I'm just
depress as a child I miss out on alot now that I
am grown I'm most...
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One woman's journey: surgery, sex, and painful intercourse
At age 37, Linda Brashier battled Stage 4 cervical
cancer, undergoing grueling rounds of chemo and
radiation. Slowly, she beat back the cancer and
recovered, but realized she would probably never
have sexual intercourse again. The scar tissue
inside her vagina (caused by radiation), made
intercourse too painful and made it impossible for
her to have intercourse without pain. Doctors
prescribed a "dilator" (a phallic type
device), but it burned and stung to use it.
Now age 50, she st...
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Question, men only
it seems the good ladies of this site have posted
a "women only" thread concerning
errrrr...well never mind. anyhow, in the interest
of fair play consider this.
having had both radiation and surgery to my lower
"male areas" i noticed {after i had
recovered enough to notice} that i can no longer
ejaculate. while i can "get there" the
internal piping that delivers "the goods
" was damaged...... "total loss"
damaged.
now, having reached my 12t...
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Anyone else? men out there?
Ok so this is a little difficult to write about
but what the heck. So a little background. I had
diverticulitis, past tense because the 2 surgeries
I had, removed the effected sections. But prior to
that I had a vasectomy in 10/2010, and the
sigmoidectomy 08/2/2011, and emergency operation
on 08/07/2011, and after that i had the temp
colostomy. Well since then, despite my self
confidence, my wife and I have been intimate
around 10-11 times since, and my surgeon says that
it will get better. But ...
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Just want to vent
Hi all! I haven't been on the site for quite a
while and when I was I stayed pretty quiet. Right
now though I feel the need to reach out to people
who just might have a clue about what I am
feeling. I am very lonely these days. I had
problems in the relationship area anyway before
getting my bag but now I feel even more insecure
(if that's possible). I have really only dated
one guy since my surgery and he was actually very
supportive through all of it even though he barely
new me at the t...
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When is the right time
Hi to everyone on the site (this is my first post)
a newbie so to speak.
Never done this before and feeling a bit
indifferent doing it, although needs must I
suppose , and you guys know the issues and have
been through similiar, and hopefully have some
good suggestions.
I have not properly dated since I was diagnosed
and subsequently had my surgery, I am now three
years post op and even though as to-date I have
not been too bothered I am really starting to miss
the comforts of having someone c...
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Gay men that are ostomates
OK,
So I know I'm different, but now I'm really
different after I woke up with an illieostomy. I
find I'm even more of a sub unit as the others on
this site. Are there any other gay men on here
who would like to talk? I have so many questions
and just don't know how to progress.
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Simple truth
It's Not about how many breaths you take. It's
about the moments that take your breath away that
matter.
BEG
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Ranting
I haven't dated since my surgery a year and a half
ago. I just can't imagine any woman would or could
be interested in me now. I'll just have to accept
being alone for the rest of my life. It will be
very lonely, but at least no one will worry about
me when I fly into a fit of rage about my
predicament, which happens alot now. I don't want
any sympathy. I don't need anybody's inspiring
words. I'm posting this to rant and keep from
breaking things or hurting myself for at least
while I'm typing. ...
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Dating with an ileostomy - any advice
hi. i have had my ileostomy for 2 years now. I was
single before my operation and have 2 lovely
girls. I would like to meet some special, male.
I have tried dating and obviously have had to tell
potential new boyfriends. I found that very hard
as I cant really come to terms with it.
They have been reassuring that it makes no
difference.
Why do I feel after telling them I am not good
enough, begin to feel paranoid that
they dont really like and iv put them off.
I cant shake the fee...
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Goodbye sex, it was nice knowing you.
Let's start by saying that I don't have, never
had, and never will have a body part that is worth
my life. Given the choice of "We remove this
or you die of cancer" that's not even the
beginning of a question for me or for my husband.
That said...when I had my urostomy a couple months
ago (and it's taken about this long to be able to
assess the damage), to save my life the surgeon
also removed my uterus and, because of where in
the bladder the tumor was, a substantial part of
my va...
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Looking for someone who understands what im going through
Im in highschool and looking for someone who
understands what im going through. I had just
gotten in a relationship when all of a sudden my
doc said i need and illeostomy. I am currently not
with this person anymore because they dont
understand and truthfully no one will until i am
at least 30. So Im looking for a girl who has or
has had an illestomy that i can be comfortable
around and not hiding my stomach all the time. I
know its a long shot but what the hell.
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Whats the point???
Hi Everyone,
Im Niamh...I've been a member for over a year but
have been a bit quiet. Just felt I needed to post
this... I'm feeling really down at the minute.
I've had an ostomy since 2009 after 2 years of
hell with UC. I had a boyfriend all through my
illness but he couldnt accept the bag after the op
and the relationship broke down 9 months later.
I've only recently felt like getting out there and
meeting somebody. I'm a really loving and
affectionate person and miss having somebod...
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Dating success story
Hi All-
I know that having an ostomy is full of
challenging and unpleasant moments, so I thought
I'd share a positive story about my ostomy
experience!
Brief backstory, I'm 26 and have had Crohn's
Disease since age 19. I've had my ostomy since
February 1st of this year. Being in your 20s,
single and with an ostomy can make dating a
harrowing experience to say the least. I was very
worried that women wouldn't find me attractive
anymore. Or if I did meet a woman I really liked,
that she ...
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No more sex drive!
Ok, ok, perhaps ostomates can find a life partner
out there. But what about sex? This is actually
one of the top questions people ask me when they
find out I have an ostomy. "Can you still
have sex?"I tell them oh course I
can.......but underneath my breath I thinking
" NO THANK YOU!
Reasons why my sex life has not improved since
installation of my permanent ileostomy: 1) I am in
pain. I just don't feel up to making love.I have
been to the doctors and had eveything checked
and...
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Thinking
What do you think was happening, and what do you
think each person in this photo was thinking at
the moment the photographer captured this image?
Be careful how you respond because your thoughts
reveal much about your life experiences . . .
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Improving self esteem.
I have had a colostomy now for 3 yrs, and for the
most part I have learned to live with it. But I
cannot seem to feel confident about myself infront
of my husband. He continues to touch me and make
love to me like he use to, and tells me that I am
still sexy, but everytime I stand infront of him
naked, I am very consientious. I get
uncomfortable when he starts touching me
intimately because I am afraid he will
accidentally touch my pouch. Does anybody else
feel this way, or is just me? C...
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17 years one man. one man gone, one colon gone.....now what!
Hello everyone! Well where do I start....both feet
in here we go!!! 17 years with the same partner,
surgery during that time and reassurance that this
is what I needed to do to be healthy. Even words
of encouragement like "if I had of known you
were going to be this healthy I would have
suggested it years ago"......now 9 years
later I find myself single for totally unrealated
reasons and going now what! I've read some of the
posts wrt finding someone who doesn't run when
they hear abo...
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Nice guy's...
I would love to meet a nice guy on this site. Good
Luck everyone...
Sharon !!!
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Break
Well we have just got back from the beach been
there a week no tv good time to read.Had a great
time had one small problem with stoma and it was
my owe fault i had mushrooms for tea that night i
thing to take off the food list.Husband went
fishing and got 21 snapper and gunard that was a
good fish anyone else go away for christmas and
where,i hope every one on this site has a good
year.
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Profile updating
Anyone met someone on here & had a
relationship, but not changed/updated their
profile? Is this odd?
Liz x
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Xmas
Hi All
Hope everyone is well for the christmas season
just would like to wish everyone a MERRY CHRISTMAS
AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR and lets hope next year is a
great one for all of us,love from the kiwi lass in
new zealand
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I *love* sex....
....with my ileostomate husband.
Just felt like sharing. I'm in a
sharing/silly/giddy mood. Probably because
Christmas is coming. :D :D :D
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Sexy underwear
hi there ladies,i just wanted to bring up the
topic of sexy underwear,i have a few questions,do
you girls miss the sexy underwear lingerie
companies such as anne summers and la senza offer?
ive noticed theres a few companies out there that
offer "sexy" ostomy underwear but am i
alone in thinking that the underwear on offer is
pretty and well want for a better word safe? the
colour schemes are bland,do the designers of these
companies believe that just because we have
ostomies that we d...
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Dating
I'm wondering how everybody handles the issue of
dating with an ostomy. Is this something you
should tell in the beginning or once you have
gotten to know the person better. I'm lost, at
first I thought I should tell up front but then I
was afraid I would be judged based on my ostomy.
On the other hand I was afraid the other person
would maybe feel betrayed that I didn't trust them
up front.
So please help and give me some advice.
Thanks!
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Am i doomed from having a partner?
I've already come to the conclusion that the only
possibly of becoming intimate with a lady is to
make sure she has some sort of an ostomy herself.
That's fine and understandable though I wish the
door wasn't halfway closed knowing I will never be
accepted by someone without one.
Yea I know, there are alot of wonderful, sweet
women out there who will understand. If you
believe that you've watched and read too many love
stories. However, my problem is with me. How can
you have sex with the thoug...
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Are there any married couples, both with a stoma?
To avoid lengthy non-related threads, please only
answer if you do know of a couple, or if you are
in this situation yourself.
Just out of curiosity I would like to know if
there is anybody out there, actually married to
another ostomate?
If so, do you/they both have an ileostomy,
colostomy, urostomy, or a combination of either
one of them.
I have googled this question and did not find an
answer.
Okay okay, if you live together, you can also
expose yourself
Thank you, bye bye
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Masochism and the ostomate
Hey, all ~
I'm a masochist who suffered a ruptured bowel in
July. I'm now equipped with a colostomy bag,
which (if all goes well) will be removed in a
handful of months. Now that I'm largely recovered
from the surgery, I'm getting back to the dungeon.
There are some obvious ostomy-related safety
concerns.
OstomyArmor looks like an excellent and
comfortable system for protecting the stoma, but
the images show that the colostomy bag is exposed.
The same company produces a kevlar bag prot...
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The j-pouch and sex.......?
This Friday I'm due to get a J-Pouch which I am
both excited and nervous about!!
It says in the books I've read that sex can feel
different and painful after having your rectum
removed and I was just hoping to hear from some
people, preferably girls about how they felt after
having a J-Pouch.
I'm a little anxious because I've been with my
boyfriend for over 2 years now and I don't want
everything to change drastically or stop having
sex at all because of the changes I've had. I'd be
glad...
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A women's guide
Found this all of sudden. Pretty interesting
generalization!
[*]If you think the way to a man's heart is
through his stomach you're aiming too high.
[*]Go for younger men. You might as well -- they
never mature anyway.
[*]Scientists have just discovered something that
can do the work of five men -- a woman.
[*]There are a lot of words you can use to
describe men -- strong, caring, loving -- they'd
be wrong but you can still use them.
[*]Men are like animals -- messy, insensitive
and...
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Romeo seeks his juliette--the 1st dating add on this site
Theres not been any dating adds so i though id be
brave and be the 1st to put one on.
Well hello i was wondering what to write as a
punchline 1st
so it was either
romeo seeks his Juliette
or prince charming seeks his princess
they both sound like me so any way lol.
here goes. an dating ad like you never seen before
.
well i suppose I'm like a prince charming that is
seeking his beautiful princess.
i will treat you like a princess show you lots of
love and affection give you l...
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Right timing?
Ive had my ostomy for almost a year now but only
recently got back into dating. My question is...
is there a right time to bring it up? It's not
something Id want to talk about on a first date
but is it something I should mention on a 2nd,
3rd, 4th etc.
Also, any tips on how to broach the subject? I
havent told many about my ileo and I dont even
know really how to go about it.
Any help would be great.
Thanks
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Its messy
I find sex a very natural & beautiful thing,
but its the messy bit at the end I dont
like----You know , when you have to pull your
pants back on , find your wallet ---AND PAY!!!
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I want it.....
I just have to say this outloud....I MISS SEX AND
I WANT IT! *whew* I feel better now, thanks.
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Intimacy with ileostomy
I would like to share tips, secrets, anything that
helps intimacy be more alluring to others. Dont
be shy, I need answers.
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A christmas poem {about sex??}
now a disclaimer first.....this is purely fictious
and only for laughs. so please dont write !!!
twas the night before christmas...here in
kentucky
ole G was a thinking...that he might get lucky
i hung all the lights and took out the trash
now pull up that nighty and show me some a$$
wife turned her back..with a quick toss
"why dont you.... go out and get lost"
it`s christmas i said...my sweet little lamb
she pulled up the covers...."i dont give...
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Beans, not brain food
One day last fall our daughter decided she would
make us up a crock of homemade beans, damn but
they were good, so good I had two (or three)
helpings. You all know whats coming. Three
O"clock in the morning, up to go to the
bathroom but the pouch was three feet ahead of me
laying on the floor, just like jet propulsion. So
her I am at 3am changing pouches and cleaning up
the mess. My wife and daughter still heckle me
when the subject of beans come up. I now stick to
one serving.
It is n...
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I just need to vent!
Is it just me or it is hard to convince ourself
that the surgery have not played a part in the
choice of someone to go with someone else rather
than you eh...?
Lol Really... 24 yrs old trying to live my life
fully... as I wish I could lol, well I think I do
pretty well... but is it just me that feel like, I
can't be a beast with someone that is just not
aware of my situation eh? I mean, I am pretty
impressed, most people deal well with it and won't
make you feel bad or what not about it......
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Ostomy vs iliostomy
what is the difference between an ostomy and an
iliostomy--I feel so stupid for asking. I am four
months post op. I had my colon removed and I am
new on your link.
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Is it just me??
Okay, I'm going to put myself out there with this
one. I really miss sex. I know I'm married, but
sex with my wife and I has gone the way of the
dinosaur. It very rarely happens, I mean I can
count on one hand how many times in a year..... I
can't help but think it is the ostomy. Every time
I try to talk about it, I get the "nothing's
wrong" answer, yet nothing changes. I admit
that we never had a wild sex life, but since 2005,
not so much. I even work out on a regular basis to
try to ...
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Does anyone out there have a recto-vaginal fistula?
Hi, I don't think I have been so active on the
Forum scene, but do read a lot of your posts, many
of which by the way have me in stitches!
I have had an ileostomy since 2004, and only have
one in order in theory to enable the repair of a
recto-vaginal fistula.
Does anyone else out there have the same condition
- would love to know, as I am feeling a bit of a
rarity!
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Yes please
Hi to the ladies: :oops:
Love that heading, and thanks.
bostomy
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Dating
Sometimes, i think it would be easier to wear a
sign that says:
I have a colostomy, if still interested call.....
Dating is hard enough!! lol
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Gets in the way!
Hi,
First post on here so, please be gentle. I was
wondering has anyone found a way of keeping that
darn bag out of the way when they are having on of
thier most intimate moments? I've used techniques
such as holding it under a t-shirt ect... What do
you do? It just plain can get in the way
sometimes...
thanks in advance
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What do men think?
What do men think of women who tell them they are
hooked up to a colostomy? I'm speaking mainly of
those men who are potential dating partners. How
do I get up confidence to start dating again?
It's been over 2 years.
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Motorbikes
Hi i am seeking a motorbiker in the south west for
friendship first,i am a good pillion (the
best)been on
1200bandit,v-max,dragstar,blackbird,hyabusa,xjr130
0 to name but a few.I live near yeovilton single
no ties,wouls love to meet a like minded person
for rideouts shows racing etc.If you feel i am
seeking you please contact.
Safe riding
Feel the Road
Celia x
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Ostomy preparedness
An ostomate should not have problems during sexual
intercourse, unless he/she is neglecting proper
maintenance of ostomy appliance. The pouch itself
may create some discomfort during intercourse;
however, smaller pouches are available to lessen
the interference of longer pouches! :)
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Why so shy
[/color:b294e38fc3] :D
I don't often look at this site, if at all but for
some reason, may be the heat getting to me, I
decided to dip in. I was surprised to see that
nothing was posted up on the dating bit.
Now I ask, is this because no-one outside of
Milton Keynes with an enhancement is dating, or is
it that you all are in happy relationships and
don't want to talk about it.
Sorry, I don't buy either explaination.
I have been an ostomate for 9 years and have been
in a couple of rel...
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Is there any secret in here
It's me again :D
Shall I share my secrets with you guys :wink:
No... I'd prefer to share nice and funny
/painless/ stories or to take an advice ;-) about
... How to be the perfect lover!
From Me, Myself and I
:wink:
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