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Healthcare workers intimidated by ostomies

This has happened to me enough over the past year that I think it must be a real issue. On several occasions now I have noticed how uncomfortable some healthcare workers are when it comes to ostomies. I have seen this with nurses, doctors, and e...

Child protection

It was bound to happen. Following the tragedy at New Town, Conn. the wierdo are after their kneejerk reactions and trying to make some big bucks from parents fears. It seems that some clown has invented a wrist watch that the children can w...

Im deverstated

i used my husbands computer last monday because mine broke down and i saw pictures of him and a pretty young lady naked, i confronted him about it and he said that since iv had my illiostomy iv become unbearable to live with, and he wants ...

Any natural tips for removeing adhesive from the skin..

Has anyone come up with any ideas of uesing natural products, if you have ran out of the adhesive remover. I had to change my bag the other day while i was out, and didnt have any adhesive remover with me,and consequently had to gradually p...

Is......there a purpose

I wonder why some folks drop in on this forum and sit silent and just observe. I see nothing wrong with that. But Have noticed that each time someone post a topic or a reply to a topic, several gazillion folks peek in but seldom post. If that...

How to tuck in a shirt ... guys

ok i am having a heck of a time here.. how do you guys out there wear jeans or slacks with a belt and your shirt tucked in?? i have fought this long enough... i gotta know.. i feel like a slob with oversized t-shirts worn outside my britches ju...

Hallucinations while in septic shock

Hi Yall- I would like to know if any of you who suffered through septic shock from illness or surgery that went wrong had hallucinations durring the time you were septic. While I was in ICU & in septic shock on life support I had hor...

Air ports security.

In the light of the recent news, ie,. bombs USA air flights. I'm flying to Detroit International, this September(I know bad month) and having last flown to USA in 2008 and therefore, know the air port security was getting more intense then. So w...

Are there any lesbians on this site?

Just seeing if there is anyone like me out there!! :)

Irrigation.

I am going to the hospital on Monday to begin irrigation.Any tips please.

Member participation

I have noticed that the member participation in expressing thoughts and ideas is enjoyed by only a few of the thousands of members. Like fishing.......90% of the fish are caught by 10% of the fishermen. I am curious, is it apathy, no intere...

Transverse colostomy reversals

I am fairly new to this site and have posted comments to other's threads and now am posting my own story. My son who is 38 years old and developmentally handicapped is having his reversal done on Monday, March 26th. He is pretty nervous about ...

How do you tell someone your dating that you have an ostomy?

I am a 37 year old, single mom of 3 and I am a colorectal cancer survivor going on 3 years now. I am dating and find it very difficult and stressful to try to tell someone I want to be intimate with, that I have an ostomy. How do you tell someo...

Sad news

Hi all ostomy friends, it is with a saddened heart I break the news of the passing of our dear friend: Carol Dawneagle, who died yesterday from natural causes, I got the message early this morning from her close friend who told me she was found ...

Help please - first experiecence with this horror

I just got out of the hospital after four days of having an N.E.G. tube jammed up my nose, down my throat, and into my bowel to try to relieve a bowel obstruction so I would not have to go into surgery. I never knew there could be such pain wit...

Urostomy recovery time

Hi There, I have to go out of state for a Urostomy. Can someone give me a rough idea of recovery time after surgery, all going well with no complications. I will ask my surgeon but like I said he is out of state and would like a rough ide as I n...

Dear patients:

Dear Patients: You have it very hard, much harder than most people understand. Having sat for 16 years listening to the stories, seeing the tiredness in your eyes, hearing you try to describe the indescribable, I have come to understand that ...

General chatroom

Hey people go in the chatroom it's like the only time I get to talk to people cause I'm too cheap to buy a full membership :) haha Or just message me cause I'm in England and most people I see online here are in the USA and other places. Fran

Looking for bath/shower tips

Hi! I had my colon removed November 17 , 2011. I am pretty comfortable with having the ostomy, however, I have an issue...when I am showering and need to shave my legs, well, I can do my left leg just fine, but when I go to shave my right one, I...

Count down to reversal...

Hello everyone. I just found and joined this site a few days ago. I wish I had discovered it sooner. So many helpful tips and hints that even the hospitals dont seem to know. Anyway, with that being said I begin the count down to my ileostomy...

Discharge/stool from anus

I had eliostomy in November 2011. So far, I experienced discharge from my anus about 5 times. Why? One time, it was real stool. other times, watery things. Sometimes, just gas. Did anyone experienced the same things? I do not understand. My anus...

Rectovaginal fistula and colostomy

I am a neebie and was wondering if anyone has a colostomy due to a rectovaginal fistula. I have had the colostomy since June 2007 and have tried on 4 different attempts to have the fistula corrected. In January I am due to have another repair at...

Removal of rectum

Why do so many folks need to have the rectum etc. removed afer their stoma ops?

Question, men only

it seems the good ladies of this site have posted a "women only" thread concerning errrrr...well never mind. anyhow, in the interest of fair play consider this. having had both radiation and surgery to my lower "male areas&quo...

Question for women only

Back home post op. reversal done!

well that was a tad upleasant! i had my revarsal on the 15th november and today is the first day i have felt any were near ok. there has been a lot of pain and a lot of constipation. i have so far not trusted a fart and for good reson. i ...

Drainable bags

I am new to the ostomy world -- just had my surgery on Nov 14 -- still trying to adapt to all this. Can someone give me some tips on rinsing out the drainable bags? Am using them till I can develop some sort of regularity and I do not like emp...

Popcorn & gas

Hello All - I have two questions and would appreciate any help or advice on both. First one - has anybody with an ileo been able to eat Popcorn - it's one of my fav's and I need food right now that makes me happy - I had a small handful the othe...

When is the right time

Hi to everyone on the site (this is my first post) a newbie so to speak. Never done this before and feeling a bit indifferent doing it, although needs must I suppose , and you guys know the issues and have been through similiar, and hopefully h...

Any successful?

Hi, I'm still really new here and have been reading some of the forums etc. I had a colostomy July 22, 2011 and was told at the time that it would be reversible but that I should wait a year. Since then I've had other surgeons say there is ...

And the bag loses again.

I have commented to others here how being impotent has only changed how things are done and other than that it is not all that important. I also stated that my bag had not affected our relationship that my wife was fine with it all. Without g...

Husband has a stoma rash and i need help please!!!

Hi everyone. My name is Sue and I live in NJ. My husband had a temporary colostomy August 2nd due to a ruptured intestine and bad abscess from a bad diverticulitis attack. Unfortunately at the time, we did not have health insurance, so when h...

Need tips

Hello I have an ileo and permanent diarrhea I have to get up several times during the night to empty my bag. Now I try not to eat or drink at least two hours before I go to bed and I am also on lomotil for the diarrhea which I also take befo...

First blowout

I guess I've done pretty good being able to avoid an ostomy leak/blowout for my fist 6 months with an ostomy. But tonight I had my first. I wear a 2-piece system, and evidently the bag pulled loose from the wafer at the bottom. It was a mess. I'...

Hernia repair and other things ....

Sorry I haven't been around much recently - here in the shadows, but have been having a very down time with loads of added stresses ... anyway guys and gals ..... I need your help. Went for my pre op assessment today ..... (waste of time, but t...

Gay men that are ostomates

OK, So I know I'm different, but now I'm really different after I woke up with an illieostomy. I find I'm even more of a sub unit as the others on this site. Are there any other gay men on here who would like to talk? I have so many quest...

Things that make you go............. hmmmmmmmmmm !!!!

hmmmmmmmm ........ Crazy dates year 1/1/11, 1/11/11, 11/1/11, and 11/11/11.NOW figure this, the last 2 digits the year you were born + the age you will be this year will equal 111 Interesting huh? BEG

Worst possible time to make noise?

What do you think is the worst possible time to 'make noise'? There is a family funeral friday and it just hit me that would be one of the worst possible times for "Pandora" to speak up. What other times do you think would be really aw...

Ranting

I haven't dated since my surgery a year and a half ago. I just can't imagine any woman would or could be interested in me now. I'll just have to accept being alone for the rest of my life. It will be very lonely, but at least no one will worry a...

How do ileostomates empty their pouches?

I have an issue with emptying my pouch at home. I have to stand and straddle the toilet bowl to empty my pouch. This is NOT doing my back any good. It is located slightly to the right and above my belly button - in my ribcage area, as opposed t...

Anyone have experience with remicade? good or bad.......

Hey all :) cheers to each of you, I hope everyone is doing well! I know only a few are comfortable enough to reply on some of these subjects and many are reserved about their privacy, and I totally respect and understand that :) xoxo .... b...

Fools

These fools in England call themselves anarchists. They are not bright enough to be such. They are just people looking for trouble and they have found it. Good job destroying your own domain when you are complaining about the economy. That will ...

Goodbye sex, it was nice knowing you.

Let's start by saying that I don't have, never had, and never will have a body part that is worth my life. Given the choice of "We remove this or you die of cancer" that's not even the beginning of a question for me or for my husband....

Guns

Just another case for the abolition of guns. What a farce this is. 84 dead because some nut had hold of a gun. Why do we have them in the public domain. It is a joke.

A texas opinion, i'd like to hear yours

This was in the Waco Tribune Herald, Waco , TX Nov 18, 2010 Put me in charge . . .. Put me in charge of food stamps. I'd get rid of Lone Star cards; no cash for Ding Dongs or Ho Ho's, just money for 50-pound bags of rice and beans, block...

The five senses

This has been on my mind for several days now, can't get rid of it. Help, if you can. Seems like I heard or read somewhere, that there is nothing or maybe only one object that all five senses cannot identify with. For example, an apple: ...

Any ileos getting fat?

What the heck is going on? Had my ileo Dec 09 ... I'm gaining weight steadily. Not good weight -- past my optimum. My diet has changed -- very little fruit/veg, much less meat, more carbs -- these diet changes are due to how I'm able to pro...

Bodily functions in our dreams

<style>p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal { margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt; font-size: 12pt; font-family: Times; }div.Section1 { page: Section1; }</style> This is a summary from 1991 (9/11 era) of a teaching byJeremy Taylor, a noted...

Biology question

There must be somebody out there who knows something about the makeup of the bowels. So I've got an Ileostomy, lost all my colon, so between the illium and the colon they make up 100%. Now when the complete colon is removed what percentage of th...

Whats the point???

Hi Everyone, Im Niamh...I've been a member for over a year but have been a bit quiet. Just felt I needed to post this... I'm feeling really down at the minute. I've had an ostomy since 2009 after 2 years of hell with UC. I had a boyfriend...

Drinking with an ileostomy

Due to recent events in my life, have been feeling the need to go out and get absolutely sh*t-faced! As previously I have only had a glass or two of wine with dinner (and had no problems) was wondering if I have a few more (and I'm talkin...

What foods will i be able to eat after the ileo

What foods do you eat? Also I don't have a large intestine so that compounds the problem. What foods to stay away from that cause gas and how does the gas come out, does the pouch expand out, I know NOTHING about this. Consult is Fri-13th, yea...

Surgery to remove rectum, post-ileostomy.

I have to have one last surgery to take out the rectum (can't leave it due to cancer risk) as I've decided not to re-attach. Haven't had any issues since my ileostomy 4 years ago and don't really want to go through the recovery and possible com...

More trivia

Never did hear anything back bout starting a new thread, so I'll post this here> Where does the quote, "If a man..............?something in the forrest?? That is all I have, but I know there is more. This kinda stuff dri...

Lets talk about acceptance

Here I am pretty new to this site and I think to myself "WOW", here is my oyster, no longer do I have to hide, I can be open about who I am, these people understand me and what I go through. I am really interested in meeting people lik...

Calling all hollister users - new tail closure

Do you use Hollister New Image Two-Piece or Premier One-Piece Drainable bags? Are you having problems with the new 2010/2011 "Microseal Closure" held together by *one, thin, transparent flap on the outside of the tail*? Hollister r...

Mishaps at night

Hi, Many of you out there having mishaps through the night?? Sure spoils your waking up. It doesn't encourage me to look for a relationship with this happening. :-( Janice

Respect

I dont want to make waves...for that is not my intention..for I truly believe you can deliver a message..convey a thought in a manner that is not vulgar and disprespectful...however I am saddened by the lack of respect some ostomates have for t...

Health care in the us

Hello Hercule: I agree with you in that the health care situation in the U.S has to be improved. Unfortunately, big business, drug companies, and insurance companies, control much of the medical care costs in the US of A. These entities are inte...

Whats with the dull creamy baige colour for the bags?

I have had my Ileostomy for just over 3 years now and the only thing that i dont like about it is that the colour of the bags is eigther creamy baige or clear. They get realy dirty looking and horrible. I know this might sound daft but is it p...

How to drain in a public venue

I have serious misgivings about draining my bag in a public restroom or at a home I am visiting. Does anyone have any suggestions for me to prevent backsplash and of course, the odor eliminator. I can't carry a can of febrez wherever I go. I ...

Disability tax credit for cdns

Disability Tax credit for Cdns, just to let you know people with ostomies can apply for this, it around a $7,000 tax credit, and can be back dated. Take the form to your Dr, and ask him to sign it. here's the website. http://www.cra-arc.g...

Can anyone answer this question

I hope someone here might know the answer or have other suggestions..the question is IS IT SAFE TO PUT A ROLLED UP PIECE OF GAUZE OR SIMILAR INSIDE THE STOMA ENTRANCE TO PREVENT OUTPUT WHILE CHANGING THE APPLIANCE ? if this is ok...then how f...

Can we eat salad

my stoma nurse said we cant eat anthing raw, nuts. seeds.lettice. tomatoes or friut only bananas,,,,, iv just read on a post that someone ate a salad sandwich, i would love to eat salad, ANY IDEARS.

I am a little miffed .....

I try to be welcoming and as positive as I possibly can on here, and quite often say 'hi' to Newbies on the Forum from all corners of the World. I have made many great friends on this site who have kept me going through some of my harder times....

Dumped because of ileostomy

hello I have just joined this site. Not sure how it quite works yet. I have a ileostomy and I am single. When I seem to meet guys and you tell them you have a Ileostomy they quickly disappear. Just wondering if anybody else has thi...

"all i want for christmas is my 2 front teeth" ...

... well, with the way I'm feeling these days, my version is "all I want for Christmas is my colon back!" Yes - like many of you, my ileo was a life saving op ... but dang I hate it sometimes. Just want to rip the whole mess righ...

Kicking some pommie butt

This post will invoke no passion with anybody outside of Australia and England with the exception of good old Aussie expats like the wonderful Jo Maree. The biggest sporting event between these two fine nations (well one fine nation and the Engl...

Heres an unusual post from me

Lately I have been feeling quite sick. I have had a sinus open up below my stoma but right up against it. It gets filled with excrement and I keep washing it out, along with pus and other crap. Well I have had enough of this battle. nearly 17 ye...

Public restrooms

Does anyone else have a phobia using public restrooms, now that they have an ostomy? I find myself staying home in the morning, until I'm pretty sure I can go out without having to empty my bag. I feel comfortable with my bag, but just don't s...

Suicide 1

I am bringing up this topic for the MeetAnOstomate visitors and members who do not ask for help when they find themselves engulfed in feelings of hopelessness. I believe the suicides we are hearing about in the news would not have happened if e...

Am i doomed from having a partner?

I've already come to the conclusion that the only possibly of becoming intimate with a lady is to make sure she has some sort of an ostomy herself. That's fine and understandable though I wish the door wasn't halfway closed knowing I will never ...

Leve bag off

Is it ok to leve your bag off for a number of hours ????? I was told not to put the stomer in the sun but nothing about just going without the bag. Thanks Faith

Reasons for reversal

I recently had an ileostomy in February. Unfortunately, I had a doctor who completely mislead myself and my mother into believing that I wouldn't need a bag and he could reconnect my colon. He completely betrayed my trust and needless to say, I ...

What to do when showering to keep things dry!

I am sure that this has come up before --maybe many times before, but I guess I have missed those posts!! What do all of you do to keep the pouch and wafer dry when you take a shower? I went on line and bought a contraption that does not do a bi...

Monday at 1 pm aest

Im am booked in for my 6th bout of surgery. This one will mean moving the stoma, ficing hernias, reapairing ulcerated skin, and finding and fixing anything else that has been causing me problems since my June surgery. Man it's been a horrible ti...

Leaking appliance

I have been having a terrible problem with my appliance leaking. I have been seeing an ostomy nurse but to no avail. I have two "dips" on each side of my ileostomy. That is where the leaks occur. I am currently wearing Convatec durahes...

What is wrong with me???????????? :((((

Hi, Yesterday I went to the hospital for a check-up and while I was there a lovely man came up to me and started talking to me and we hit it off straight away, talked for a couple of hour's then he asked me to go out for dinner with him! Anyway ...

Swimming with a stoma

Hi I am trying to contact any one who lives in the UK Blackpool area, to ask them about swimming pools sutable for us with a Stoma.

Masochism and the ostomate

Hey, all ~ I'm a masochist who suffered a ruptured bowel in July. I'm now equipped with a colostomy bag, which (if all goes well) will be removed in a handful of months. Now that I'm largely recovered from the surgery, I'm getting back to t...