Hi Pammer,
To answer your question, is it really possible to date when you have a bag? Yes, yes, yes, it is ABSOLUTELY possible. I left my first husband 6 years after my ileostomy surgery. He begged me to stay, but I divorced him for reasons unrelated to my ileostomy. Well, then I was on a mission, I guess you could say, to prove a point to myself that I was attractive and sexually desirable even though I had an ileostomy. I dated many men and never told them about my ileostomy. They didn't know about it until we had sex, and it did not make any difference to them, I swear. Each and every single one of them continued to date me for a long time, enjoying wonderful sex! For 6 years, I never had a man that didn't want to be with me sexually because of my ostomy, and that included, let's see, Mark, Rudy, Jesse, Ralph, Gary, Pete, Eddie, Bob, Walt, Jeff, Joe, Steve, Darren, Chip, Frank. I am not proud that I had so many relationships with good or great sex, but it just happened that way. I was the one that ended them because I wanted love and marriage, and I simply didn't love them. It was purely physical attraction until I met my second husband and fell in love. You may be thinking I am beautiful or hot or sexy, but honestly, I am an average woman. You have to be confident in who you are on the inside and not let your ostomy define who you are. Trust me, if you feel well and healthy, there are many ways to be sexy and attractive to the men you date. You evidently have only read the negative side of dating on this site. Don't let those people discourage you. Sure, I feel self-conscious and inhibited sometimes, but you can overcome it and laugh and enjoy sex. If a person has a problem with your ostomy, then they are only superficial and are not true loving, caring people. Be thankful for what the ostomy did for your health and enjoy this short life!