Pammer, it has been awhile since you wrote about your leak issue. How is it going? I have some notes on leaks that I am attaching here.
Here are some ideas in the area of skin preparation, wafer products, and lifestyle. I also added a section on fashion (to benefit one of your more recent posts):
SKIN - don't use a moisturizing soap. If you cannot find one that suits you (Dial is good; Ivory may be good), try no soap at all - just as an experiment. You could also rub skin with degreaser or witch hazel.
PRODUCTS - a few things you could try:
Convex wafer - if your stoma is recessed (if your skin goes "in" around your stoma).
Seals (like Eakin) that you mold to your skin. I put a full ring around the hole of the wafer (my skin dips in around the stoma) PLUS a second layer elsewhere where my skin creases and dips. In other words, you have to mold that stuff to the shape of your skin. You don't have to go crazy, but put some seal material in the recessed areas. Paste, in my experience, dries hard and will not work as well.
Stoma collar - see YouTube video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjZPaUiNyck). I don't know anything about this, but it is something to look at and consider if it might work for you.
Stoma seal (very interesting) - YouTube video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHSEIO9s1ZU). Again - I don't know anything about this.
LIFESTYLE - before you go to sleep or go to an important function: don't eat/drink for hours beforehand, empty bag beforehand, take a couple of salt tablets.
FASHION - With the summer coming, I LOVE sun-dresses. Being skinny helps a lot and my bag does not show when it is empty. I also wear leggings with longer blouses over them - I just got a peasant blouse that I love. Also, skirts with elastic waistbands are great because you can check the bag discreetly. There are a lot at Macy's. If you get a puffy one, you can wear a tuck-in blouse. Bathing suits are tough so I use a skirt one, a bloused-over one, or one that is gathered or bunched to the side over my stoma. Bold prints and colors are good, and you can also wear an overshirt or skirt.
Question: Do you have leaks mostly when the output is "thin" like water or "thick" like whipped cream or thicker?
Good luck, Pammers. It seems like you have a lot of support from this site - you are lucky.
Pat