This is a story about a married couple and relationships . This couple have been married over 20 years.
When they first married, she was small and shapely. the marriage produced two children. During this time, 20 years plus, she has gained a lot of weight. Her husband was complete opposite, he lost weight; and
had two affairs which led to outside children,
I would think the stress of dealing with that and trying to keep the family together aided in her weight gain.
Also there's a new scandal in her life. He's been caught again, seen by others, kissing on another woman who was barely dressed.
There's photos floating around with him and an ex model, clad in a bikin. He had a towel wrapped around his waist. Some are saying, "it's because of her weight gain that has him straying."
Heck, she could have had an illness that caused her to gain weight. However personally speaking, that's not a reason to stray.
A clinical sexologist weighed in on that story and said"men are visual". Geez did he want his wife to see the photo?
Is marriage heathier for women as it it for men? Now, some men will not only cheat on his overweight wife, hell, he'll cheat on a small sexy wife too.
Now listen, this don't just happen to women, men are just as vulnable to the same treatment. He marries a heavy woman, later she losses weight and boom, she's no longer content with him.
Do we really know why? Now, you take the above situation and you add sickness such as becoming an ostomate. Some survive the test and many don't. Some stay because of actual love and some
stay perhaps because they don't want to start all over again.
Lets look at a single couples. They're people that have been dating for years. Suddenly, he or she gets sick and due to that illness, becomes an ostomate. Overtime, it overwhelms many of them and they cant handle it.
Then, there are those who say, "That's part of you and I love you." But its not that cut and dry, all the time. Many are lonely and want companionship, not a ship passing through the night.
When I became an ostomate and joined this site, I didn't understand why one would seek only an ostomate for a relationship. Is it because we as ostomates feel we're not worthy of love by a non ostomate?
Is it because our bodies operate differently? Does that mean we can only be with another ostomate? some may or would say, yes. And they would go on to say,"Because you wouldn't have to be ashamed."
or would you deep down inside feel differently?
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