You're a real trooper! I sure do believe you trained horses. I get what you're saying about getting hubby onboard and you're expensive mattress. I have a queen sized bed and my girlfriend at the time didn't want to sleep on the mattress pad.......so I just bought a single (full?) sized topper for my half of the bed. But I did feel bad cutting a big hole in it. The other thing I was thinking about.......and I don't know your insurance or financial capacity.......but you could just change your barrier every morning. When my skin around my stoma was in pretty rough shape I was changing my barrier every morning, which did allow my skin to heal. I reused my bags to keep costs down.......so you might want to consider a daily barrier change, at least to buy you time to try some other things to get a handle on leaks. Just a thought.