In a way, it has been at part of you, since you was borne, Now it is visible and that is the new situation, wich you have to get used to. The history and reasen why people get their ostomy has a great influence og accepting the new situation with ostomy. If you have had time to prepare your mind before the operation, i seems that it is easyer to accept the ostomy. A sudden diagnosis with cancer makes it more difficult to accept the ostomy, because it will bee seen as a lasting sign of the diagnose.
I had Colitis Ulcerosa for 10 yers before my operation, and had four month from the desicion to the operation, so I accepted my ostomy from day one.
It was more difficult to learn how to handle the bags and to get a solid routine in the daily routine. In the beginning I had leaks but after some months I learned the routines and found the perfect pag for my skin.
Today I feel that my ostomy is the most natural part of me and my life.