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Ok, let me get this straight ... you have intimate sex without your partner knowing you have an ostomy?

Posted by Bagface, on Fri Jan 24, 2020 6:52 pm
Puppyluv56 wrote:

Guys, looks like Abe is fine. He just posted on someone's picture. Maybe he is thinking on this! Lol

 Puppyluv 


Thanks Puppy; I was wondering about him, too.

Reply by newyorktorque, on Fri Jan 24, 2020 9:20 pm

I was gonna guess maybe he / she was wearing a plug.  And as we have already heard, some folks can come up with a good explanation like abdominal surgery.  Maybe some folks dont have an ostomy and just like the idea of stickin a plug on their belly.  Who knows?  Its only sex Bob...dont freak out!

Reply by d.b. mccrea, on Sun Jan 26, 2020 2:02 pm
Padfoot wrote:

Wild monkey sex on the bearskin rug? Bob, you're killing me!!😂 I can tell that you're sitting on the edge of your seat waiting for an answer, so here goes:  a Tickle Trunk full of sexy lingerie! Bustiers, corsets, crotchless, leather, silk, satin - whatever! Naked isn't quite as enticing as it used to be - in fact, maybe best left to the imagination. You get it now? Bob? You there, Bob? Good grief, he's fainted!


Recently crossed the 15-year mark (in terms of time, that's like walking into class on the first day of first grade and graduating from college). Have not felt the touch of a woman since my surgery. Nor will I. So any ostomate who has the desire and the right partner, you are fortunate indeed. Sorry I wasn't able to answer the question as it was posed. Just wanted to share, and maybe vent a little. 

Reply by w30bob, on Sun Jan 26, 2020 8:01 pm

Now DB.....you can't just throw that out there and not explain at least a little bit.  Why do you say "nor will I"?  You don't consider having an ostomy THAT much of a disfigurement, do you?  I'm getting ready to get back into the dating pool and I'm not worried about the "having an ostomy" thing at all.  It does limit what I can do as compared to before I got my shit-bag, but if someone can't handle that so what?  That just means she wasn't the perfect one for me.  Nothing ventured....nothing gained, as they say.  Talk to me Bro.......what's going on?

regards,

bob

Reply by d.b. mccrea, on Sun Jan 26, 2020 8:22 pm
w30bob wrote:

Now DB.....you can't just throw that out there and not explain at least a little bit.  Why do you say "nor will I"?  You don't consider having an ostomy THAT much of a disfigurement, do you?  I'm getting ready to get back into the dating pool and I'm not worried about the "having an ostomy" thing at all.  It does limit what I can do as compared to before I got my shit-bag, but if someone can't handle that so what?  That just means she wasn't the perfect one for me.  Nothing ventured....nothing gained, as they say.  Talk to me Bro.......what's going on?

regards,

bob


The surgery rendered me impotent. 

Reply by w30bob, on Sun Jan 26, 2020 10:40 pm

DB,

  I sent you a PM.  

thanks,

bob

Reply by d.b. mccrea, on Mon Jan 27, 2020 12:49 am
w30bob wrote:

Now DB.....you can't just throw that out there and not explain at least a little bit.  Why do you say "nor will I"?  You don't consider having an ostomy THAT much of a disfigurement, do you?  I'm getting ready to get back into the dating pool and I'm not worried about the "having an ostomy" thing at all.  It does limit what I can do as compared to before I got my shit-bag, but if someone can't handle that so what?  That just means she wasn't the perfect one for me.  Nothing ventured....nothing gained, as they say.  Talk to me Bro.......what's going on?

regards,

bob


howdy Bob... appreciate the conversation. Even without the secondary complication, just having the bag was, for me, a death sentence for dating. I never dated much anyway, so there's that.

Reply by JudiA, on Mon Jan 27, 2020 10:46 am

Well Bob, that is putting it right out there, good for you! I haven't been intimate with anyone in 8 years, since my hubby and I split.  But I did hear a story from my ET person that he worked with a hooker that had both a colostomy and a urostomy. She used a tube top and just pulled it down over her stomas.  So crotch free and breasts free, and her clients didn't complain. I realize that guys don't usually have this in their wardrobes, but maybe one of those elastic binders, like for hernias??? I used to fold my bag up and tape it to keep it out of the way.  Because mine is a high ileo I am always spurting andI have a lot of gas.  So inimate moments are usually periods than back in my 20's lol

 

Judi

Reply by bryancohnracing, on Mon Jan 27, 2020 12:28 pm

Thanks for the humorous posts with a touch of reality gang! 

 

 

Reply by w30bob, on Mon Jan 27, 2020 7:10 pm

Hi Bryan,

 Got your PM and am sending the pics of Warrior in my bra and panties.  Don't wet yourself looking at them......they are that funny.  And your first thought will be "couldn't the guy shave his damn hairy legs first before putting on the panties?"  Bro........I couldn't agree more, but remember........Everybody!  All together now!!  "He's From Jersey!!!"

 

;0)

bob

Reply by warrior, on Mon Jan 27, 2020 8:18 pm

n o no no ..Bobbo!! YOU were the one hard up for panties and bra's. trying to show off for bagface..  and then u go to burger king and get put on the news..I am sure there will be a follow up from YOUR local news any day now..  You got caught... with your panties.....  hairy legs..  high heels ... and bra.. in town.. (( show off))   I am the one with cowboy pouches that is driving Ange crazy over there in Canada. 

She just wants to see me in a cowboy hat. and a smile.. hmm. now that is the deal a jersey boy can provide.  so stuff that your front butt dude.  carry on dear..  

dls
Reply by dls, on Mon Jan 27, 2020 8:29 pm
JudiA wrote:

Well Bob, that is putting it right out there, good for you! I haven't been intimate with anyone in 8 years, since my hubby and I split.  But I did hear a story from my ET person that he worked with a hooker that had both a colostomy and a urostomy. She used a tube top and just pulled it down over her stomas.  So crotch free and breasts free, and her clients didn't complain. I realize that guys don't usually have this in their wardrobes, but maybe one of those elastic binders, like for hernias??? I used to fold my bag up and tape it to keep it out of the way.  Because mine is a high ileo I am always spurting andI have a lot of gas.  So inimate moments are usually periods than back in my 20's lol

 

Judi


Such an interesting thread....now that I've picked  myself off the floor after falling down with laughter, I think I won the 'no sex' prize...it will be 19 years for me this Novermber...sigh. ...and I'm cute!

Reply by warrior, on Mon Jan 27, 2020 8:39 pm
dls wrote:
JudiA wrote:

Well Bob, that is putting it right out there, good for you! I haven't been intimate with anyone in 8 years, since my hubby and I split.  But I did hear a story from my ET person that he worked with a hooker that had both a colostomy and a urostomy. She used a tube top and just pulled it down over her stomas.  So crotch free and breasts free, and her clients didn't complain. I realize that guys don't usually have this in their wardrobes, but maybe one of those elastic binders, like for hernias??? I used to fold my bag up and tape it to keep it out of the way.  Because mine is a high ileo I am always spurting andI have a lot of gas.  So inimate moments are usually periods than back in my 20's lol

 

Judi


Such an interesting thread....now that I've picked  myself off the floor after falling down with laughter, I think I won the 'no sex' prize...it will be 19 years for me this Novermber...sigh. ...and I'm cute!

hmm   winning a prize  for no sex in a certain amount of time?? hmm.  19 yrs ?? eh??  I dont think a prize would be sufficient.. more like a trophy.. or your hand print.. in this case your your virgin butt print on the hollywood walk of fame.  honk honk..  only from the East coast folks..  oh im going to hell..

Reply by w30bob, on Mon Jan 27, 2020 10:16 pm

Warrior wrote "only from the East coast folks.. oh im going to hell.."

Bob says "don't worry Bro.....you're not going alone. I`m gassing up the jet now....."

 

;0)

 

Bob

 

Reply by Silveradokid, on Fri Jan 31, 2020 8:44 pm

Hey Bob. Getting back to your original question, have you considered Chloroform? As the saying goes,or should go: Knock 'em out, then knock 'em up...

Reply by newyorktorque, on Fri Jan 31, 2020 9:21 pm

Your secrets good w/me Bob

Reply by w30bob, on Sat Feb 01, 2020 12:37 am

Silverado,

  Not sure where to start on that comment........it's soooooo wrong. Of course you're from New York.....you fit right in with Warrior and me.  I guess we just went from Abbott and Costello to The Three Stooges.  Let's not go the "date-rape" route just yet......let's see if anyone has a less illegal way to "get it on" while keeping our frontbutts a secret.  And I see Sky-Hoe is egging you on.....guess there's always room for one more!  Luv you guys! Yes I am laughing my ass off!

Regards,

Bob

Reply by warrior, on Sat Feb 01, 2020 3:00 am
w30bob wrote:

Silverado,

  Not sure where to start on that comment........it's soooooo wrong. Of course you're from New York.....you fit right in with Warrior and me.  I guess we just went from Abbott and Costello to The Three Stooges.  Let's not go the "date-rape" route just yet......let's see if anyone has a less illegal way to "get it on" while keeping our frontbutts a secret.  And I see Sky-Hoe is egging you on.....guess there's always room for one more!  Luv you guys! Yes I am laughing my ass off!

Regards,

Bob


(whispering to Bob)  that guy knows how to party! lets put him on the jet.. --Warrior

Reply by w30bob, on Sat Feb 01, 2020 12:06 pm

Warrior..........Roger that..........I'm wiping a seat down now!!

LMAO!

 

;0)

 

later,

bob

Reply by Silveradokid, on Sat Feb 01, 2020 1:57 pm

Don't bother wiping a seat. Just change the sheets for heavens, and my, sake...

Reply by honestabe, on Fri Feb 21, 2020 9:33 pm

Hello, I noticed my name has come up several times on this issue! Have woman living with me now! We don’t talk about stoma! Forgot, not supposed to use exclamation marks! People on this site can be so critical. As I have already said, i did belong to several dating sites. My spouse of 40 years passed 3 years ago during my cancer treatment. Was by myself and recouping! You get very lonely by yourself, especially from major surgery! Sorry, still using exclamation! Anyway, dating site popped up on my iPad! I joined one and met couple interesting women. I then joined 4 more sites! I got to know lot of the restaurants around OK, city as I always took my date to nice place! I am not a stud, I open doors and am curteous. Had over 30 dinner dates! Had several come to my place in country! Sit outside, have wine or whatever! If chemistry is there, we could care less about shirt being left on! You get the drift? Am not bashful when it comes to intimacy. Now, major back problems! Spinal stenosis. Surgery, shots etc! Hope I’m giving a laugh to a few. Have noticed several men have ED like me! Viagra did nothing! Go to you urologist and get prescription for Trimix compound! Is 99.9 effective! 

Reply by honestabe, on Fri Feb 21, 2020 10:16 pm
w30bob wrote:

Now DB.....you can't just throw that out there and not explain at least a little bit.  Why do you say "nor will I"?  You don't consider having an ostomy THAT much of a disfigurement, do you?  I'm getting ready to get back into the dating pool and I'm not worried about the "having an ostomy" thing at all.  It does limit what I can do as compared to before I got my shit-bag, but if someone can't handle that so what?  That just means she wasn't the perfect one for me.  Nothing ventured....nothing gained, as they say.  Talk to me Bro.......what's going on?

regards, hello Bob, made an entry

bob



Reply by honestabe, on Sat Feb 22, 2020 12:09 am

Hello my 

w30bob wrote:

Folks,

 It's about time this site had a little humor associated with it......glad everyone enjoys our banter!

Warrior.......oh I remember 'old Abe. He is one of the folks I'm expecting to join in this conversation any time now......but you're right in that he hasn't posted in a while. I hope everything is ok. Hopefully he's too busy "gettin' busy" to reply. He probably went out and bought a cowboy hat after reading how much the chicks on here are ya dig cowboy shoes . Yeee-Haaa!

Later Kimosabe,

Bob



Reply by honestabe, on Sat Feb 22, 2020 12:10 am
honestabe wrote:

Hello my 

w30bob wrote:

Folks,

 It's about time this site had a little humor associated with it......glad everyone enjoys our banter!

Warrior.......oh I remember 'old Abe. He is one of the folks I'm expecting to join in this conversation any time now......but you're right in that he hasn't posted in a while. I hope everything is ok. Hopefully he's too busy "gettin' busy" to reply. He probably went out and bought a cowboy hat after reading how much the chicks on here are ya dig cowboy shoes . Yeee-Haaa!

Later Kimosabe,

Bob





Reply by honestabe, on Sat Feb 22, 2020 12:10 am

Hello my 

w30bob wrote:

Folks,

 It's about time this site had a little humor associated with it......glad everyone enjoys our banter!

Warrior.......oh I remember 'old Abe. He is one of the folks I'm expecting to join in this conversation any time now......but you're right in that he hasn't posted in a while. I hope everything is ok. Hopefully he's too busy "gettin' busy" to reply. He probably went out and bought a cowboy hat after reading how much the chicks on here are ya dig cowboy shoes . Yeee-Haaa!

Later Kimosabe,

Bob



Reply by honestabe, on Sat Feb 22, 2020 12:14 am

Sounds like your jealous! Have been busy with back problems! You must not be active! I’m 68! 

honestabe wrote:

Hello my 

w30bob wrote:

Folks,

 It's about time this site had a little humor associated with it......glad everyone enjoys our banter!

Warrior.......oh I remember 'old Abe. He is one of the folks I'm expecting to join in this conversation any time now......but you're right in that he hasn't posted in a while. I hope everything is ok. Hopefully he's too busy "gettin' busy" to reply. He probably went out and bought a cowboy hat after reading how much the chicks on here are ya dig cowboy shoes . Yeee-Haaa!

Later Kimosabe,

Bob





Reply by honestabe, on Sat Feb 22, 2020 12:18 am

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honestabe wrote:
honestabe wrote:

Hello my 

w30bob wrote:  more active now than when 20

Folks,

 It's about time this site had a little humor associated with it......glad everyone enjoys our banter!

Warrior.......oh I remember 'old Abe. He is one of the folks I'm expecting to join in this conversation any time now......but you're right in that he hasn't posted in a while. I hope everything is ok. Hopefully he's too busy "gettin' busy" to reply. He probably went out and bought a cowboy hat after reading how much the chicks on here are ya dig cowboy shoes . Yeee-Haaa!

Later Kimosabe,

Bob







Reply by honestabe, on Sat Feb 22, 2020 12:24 am
honestabe wrote: maybe your not satisfying your partner, 

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honestabe wrote:
honestabe wrote:

Hello my 

w30bob wrote:  more active now than when 20

Folks,

 It's about time this site had a little humor associated with it......glad everyone enjoys our banter!

Warrior.......oh I remember 'old Abe. He is one of the folks I'm expecting to join in this conversation any time now......but you're right in that he hasn't posted in a while. I hope everything is ok. Hopefully he's too busy "gettin' busy" to reply. He probably went out and bought a cowboy hat after reading how much the chicks on here are ya dig cowboy shoes . Yeee-Haaa!

Later Kimosabe,

Bob









Reply by w30bob, on Sat Feb 22, 2020 12:29 am

Abe-ster,

  Good to see your ugly mug!  We missed you.  Hope everything is ok on your end.  Save a few ladies for me!

 

;0)

bob

Reply by honestabe, on Sat Feb 22, 2020 12:32 am

Am not a

honestabe wrote:

Sounds like your jealous! Have been busy with back problems! You must not be active! I’m 68! 

honestabe wrote:

Hello my 

w30bob wrote:

Folks,

 It's about time this site had a little humor associated with it......glad everyone enjoys our banter!

Warrior.......oh I remember 'old Abe. He is one of the folks I'm expecting to join in this conversation any time now......but you're right in that he hasn't posted in a while. I hope everything is ok. Hopefully he's too busy "gettin' busy" to reply. He probably went out and bought a cowboy hat after reading how much the chicks on here are ya dig cowboy shoes . Yeee-Haaa!

Later Kimosabe,

Bob







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