Intimate Sex with Ostomy: How is it Possible?

Thanks, Puppy. I was wondering about him, too.

I was gonna guess maybe he/she was wearing a plug. And as we have already heard, some folks can come up with a good explanation like abdominal surgery. Maybe some folks don't have an ostomy and just like the idea of sticking a plug on their belly. Who knows? It's only sex, Bob... don't freak out!

Recently crossed the 15-year mark (in terms of time, that's like walking into class on the first day of first grade and graduating from college). Have not felt the touch of a woman since my surgery. Nor will I. So any ostomate who has the desire and the right partner, you are fortunate indeed. Sorry I wasn't able to answer the question as it was posed. Just wanted to share, and maybe vent a little.  

Now DB.....you can't just throw that out there and not explain at least a little bit. Why do you say "nor will I"? You don't consider having an ostomy THAT much of a disfigurement, do you? I'm getting ready to get back into the dating pool and I'm not worried about the "having an ostomy" thing at all. It does limit what I can do as compared to before I got my shit-bag, but if someone can't handle that so what? That just means she wasn't the perfect one for me. Nothing ventured....nothing gained, as they say. Talk to me Bro.......what's going on?

Regards,

Bob

The surgery rendered me impotent.  

DB,

I sent you a PM.

Thanks,

Bob

Howdy Bob... appreciate the conversation. Even without the secondary complication, just having the bag was, for me, a death sentence for dating. I never dated much anyway, so there's that.

Well Bob, that is putting it right out there, good for you! I haven't been intimate with anyone in 8 years, since my hubby and I split. But I did hear a story from my ET person that he worked with a hooker that had both a colostomy and a urostomy. She used a tube top and just pulled it down over her stomas. So crotch free and breasts free, and her clients didn't complain. I realize that guys don't usually have this in their wardrobes, but maybe one of those elastic binders, like for hernias??? I used to fold my bag up and tape it to keep it out of the way. Because mine is a high ileo I am always spurting and I have a lot of gas. So intimate moments are usually periods than back in my 20's lol

Judi

Thanks for the humorous posts with a touch of reality, gang!

Hi Bryan,

Got your PM and am sending the pics of Warrior in my bra and panties. Don't wet yourself looking at them... they are that funny. And your first thought will be "couldn't the guy shave his damn hairy legs first before putting on the panties?" Bro... I couldn't agree more, but remember... Everybody! All together now!! "He's From Jersey!!!"

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Bob

No, no, no... Bobbo!! You were the one hard up for panties and bras, trying to show off for Bagface. And then you go to Burger King and get put on the news. I am sure there will be a follow-up from your local news any day now. You got caught... with your panties, hairy legs, high heels, and bra in town. (Show off) I am the one with cowboy pouches that is driving Ange crazy over there in Canada.

She just wants to see me in a cowboy hat and a smile. Hmm, now that is the deal a Jersey boy can provide. So stuff that, your front butt dude. Carry on, dear...

Such an interesting thread....now that I've picked myself off the floor after falling down with laughter, I think I won the 'no sex' prize...it will be 19 years for me this November...sigh. ...and I'm cute!

Hmm, winning a prize for no sex in a certain amount of time? Hmm. 19 years? Eh? I don't think a prize would be sufficient... more like a trophy... or your handprint... in this case, your virgin butt print on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. Honk honk... only from the East Coast folks... oh, I'm going to hell..

Warrior wrote "Only from the East coast folks.. Oh, I'm going to hell.."

Bob says "Don't worry, bro.....you're not going alone. I'm gassing up the jet now....."

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Bob

Hey Bob. Getting back to your original question, have you considered chloroform? As the saying goes, or should go: Knock 'em out, then knock 'em up...

Your secrets are good with me, Bob.

Silverado,

Not sure where to start on that comment... it's soooooo wrong. Of course you're from New York... you fit right in with Warrior and me. I guess we just went from Abbott and Costello to The Three Stooges. Let's not go the "date-rape" route just yet... let's see if anyone has a less illegal way to "get it on" while keeping our frontbutts a secret. And I see Sky-Hoe is egging you on... guess there's always room for one more! Luv you guys! Yes, I am laughing my ass off!

Regards,

Bob

(Whispering to Bob)  That guy knows how to party! Let's put him on the jet... --Warrior

Warrior... Roger that... I'm wiping a seat down now!!

LMAO!

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Later,

Bob

Don't bother wiping a seat. Just change the sheets for heavens, and my, sake...

Hello, I noticed my name has come up several times on this issue! I have a woman living with me now! We don't talk about stoma! Forgot, not supposed to use exclamation marks! People on this site can be so critical. As I have already said, I did belong to several dating sites. My spouse of 40 years passed 3 years ago during my cancer treatment. I was by myself and recouping! You get very lonely by yourself, especially from major surgery! Sorry, still using exclamation! Anyway, a dating site popped up on my iPad! I joined one and met a couple of interesting women. I then joined 4 more sites! I got to know a lot of the restaurants around OK City as I always took my date to a nice place! I am not a stud, I open doors and am courteous. I had over 30 dinner dates! I had several come to my place in the country! We would sit outside, have wine or whatever! If chemistry is there, we could care less about a shirt being left on! You get the drift? I am not bashful when it comes to intimacy. Now, major back problems! Spinal stenosis. Surgery, shots, etc! Hope I'm giving a laugh to a few. I have noticed several men have ED like me! Viagra did nothing! Go to your urologist and get a prescription for Trimix compound! It is 99.9% effective!

Abe-ster,

Good to see your ugly mug! We missed you. Hope everything is ok on your end. Save a few ladies for me!

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Bob

You are correct! My stoma prolapsed to 5" and didn't stop me! If chemistry, take off! You are correct! If she can't handle it, get another one!

For sure, I don't want to see a guy in panties! Women, different story

Bob:

I don't have a bearskin, but I do have a cowhide. Does that count?

You guys are absolutely hysterical...

Honest Abe and Warrior,

So glad to see you both back in here! It has been way too long. Hope you are both healthy! Missed you guys!

Puppyluv

Bob, I just wanted to thank you. After reading your post, I haven't laughed that hard in a long time. Thank you again, I needed that.

These guys are a hoot so you get to sit back and enjoy the ride on a thread like this!
Pup

It has been done & unless you think it is only done the way you have maybe try looking at it from another's point of view.

Cannot speak for the women yet like they articulated, there are many pieces & types of clothing available that can easily hide it. nbsp

As for myself, I do not or ever have carried a "bag of shit" in the 46 years since age 15 of having an ileostomy. In my experience nbsp

I have had many girlfriends, women friends long term, short term & otherwise from good to great relationships. Two things. I would tell about being so sick, the hospital, getting worse, then surgery to save my life. Not until I was ready & cared about her as she cared about me. nbsp

Having drinks, feeling good, getting back to my place we both were very lit up. Lots of passionate kissing etc. Went to the bathroom, put on an elastic wrap 6-8 inches wide, sort of very thin beige elastic material I bought in the pregnant women's aisle. I folded my bag up, wrapped it around from my belly button to the top of my pubis bone. Simple. Again we both were 1/2 loaded. nbsp

Maybe, don't carry around a shit bag. Rather carry an ostomy, something that was done to save our sick body & has given us a chance to live life as we choose. Relationships are what we make them. It is who we are, our beliefs & experiences. Bag or no bag, life can be hard. nbsp