Hello Looking forward.
Thank you for your post as it once again draws attention to one of my favourite subjects for rhyming verse. This subject is, of course, ‘bullying’.
Now, there are many different manifestations of bullying and I have written several books about the more overt forms. However, the indications of covert bullying have been grossly neglected in the literature so, in recent years I have tried to rectify this situation by drawing attention to those minor signs in rhyme.
Many covert bullies do not even realise that they are indulging in bullying, or at least they will deny that this is what it is. Thus, placing the phenomenon in rhyme is not so much engaging in conversation with the bullies (who are unlikely to be listening), but helping ‘victims’ to understand what is going on so that they can better manage the potential impact.
The process of compiling my rhymes is quite simple and therefore easy to explain. For instance, with regard to your post I will take each section or concept to try to fathom what it is you are trying to say. Then, I will look for any tiny signs that you are adopting classic strategies used by covert abusers. Fortunately, in this case, your post is brief, so it is easy to break it down into its relevant segments.
1) “I do read your posts” (is a perfectly acceptable and supportive comment, which, I consider, would not fall within the remit of ‘bullying’)
2) “but” (is a word that is often used as a rejoinder to a compliment and a precursor to overturn or undermine whatever has been said before)
3) “There is one person who posts every day, I don’t read any of them (memories of---)” (This statement is, on the face of it, an acceptable statement of fact. As such, it would usually fall outside the concept of ‘covert bullying’. However, it precedes a judgemental statement:)
4) “that is way over the top”. (which, combined with the previous statement, is disparaging and deriding the ‘victim’s’ contribution to society.) This is just one of the many minor signs of bullying that I am forever on the lookout for.
5) “he must find something else to do” (From the perspective of a bully, this sort of comment might seem to be a perfectly acceptable point of view. However, this is a straightforward ‘command’, as illustrated by the word “must”. As such, it is a clear covert attempt to try to ‘tell’ someone else that they are ‘wrong’ and they should change their behaviour to bring it more in line with what the bully desires.
This is a brief overview of the analytic dissecting process I would conduct before compiling a rhyme on the subject. However, some of these concepts repeat themselves so often that I can simply resurrect an old rhyme, rather than writing a new one:
Best wishes
Bill
PS: I was very surprised that you did not mention me in your post as someone whom you do not read, as I nearly always reply to HenryM’s musings, with similar contemplations of my own.
‘TELLERS’.
Teachers, preachers and MP’s
appear to always ‘tell’ with ease.
To them it comes impulsively
to me it comes repulsively.
I must be one of very few
who don’t ‘tell’ people what to do.
I’d no more ‘tell’ them what to think
as I would ‘tell’ them what to drink.
For ‘telling’ is the bully’s role
and its main aim is to control.
The ‘teller’ wants to dominate
manipulate and subjugate.
‘Tellers’ often come on strong
for them, all other’s thoughts are wrong.
They think that they are always right
even though they may talk shite.
‘Tellers’ have a preference
for people showing deference.
If you don’t bow-down to their way
it may be you that has to pay.
‘Tellers’ may criticise and scoff
or may simply tell you off.
‘Tellers’ feel they have importance
thus justifying remonstrance.
The ‘teller’ is an orator
but also is a predator.
They look for people they can ‘tell’
and these become their clientele.
You could say that I’m fella
who does not want to be a ‘teller’.
But equally, you will behold
there is no-way I will be ‘told’.
B. Withers 2012
(in: ‘A Rhyming Cookbook’ p62
& 'A Prelude to Bullying' p255)