Ostomy Memories of Fault

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HenryM

WE ALL HAVE OUR FAULTS.  If we didn’t, we wouldn’t take so readily to finding fault in others.  Try as I might to avoid it, I have caught myself being judgmental more than a few times.  What I really try very hard to accomplish is to not cast aspersions at someone who is doing something that I myself have done as well.  Now you have progressed into hypocrisy, one of the grossest, most obnoxious human characteristics going.  The politician who panders; the church-going bigot; the critic of gays who is himself in the closet; Dante had a place for these people in one or the other circles of the Inferno.  Whenever I get “up to here” in disgust with the news cycle, it’s often because of the onslaught of projection and finger-pointing and dubious denials from the subjects of the news.  “It’s not MY fault,” is too frequently heard from people who, from the looks of it, were directly responsible.  The overwhelming majority of former “alleged” wrongdoers end up having the alleged part nullified by a finding of guilt.  Ultimately, whoever is pointing the finger, wherever the fault lies, we hope that time will wash the dirty laundry and history will iron it, fold it, and put it away.

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Bill

Hello Henrym.

Thank  you so much for raising the spectre of ‘finding fault’.
As the first definition of ‘blame’ in the English dictionary is to ‘find fault’   I have used the latter term (Blame) in much of my writing, partly because it is easier to find rhyming words with ‘Blame’ than it is for ‘fault’. 
I have addressed this subject before under the guise of  the postulation that laying ‘blame’ is a classic indicator of bullying tactics.
It goes without saying that I have penned many rhymes on this subject and I thank you for the opportunity to resurrect four of them to complement your own views on the subject

Best wishes

Bill

 

 

BLAME.

Blame can mean hostility.
Or responsibility.
Blame is a reflection.
But mostly a deflection.

Nasty people will lay blame.
When they play the blaming game.
They are biased so will tilt.
Things so you attract the guilt.

Self- innocence they’ll promote.
Whilst looking for a new scapegoat.
They seek to cause another troubles.
So look for weak defensive bubbles.

Now you know the reasons why
They build up their defences high.
They fluster, bluster and condemn.
So the blame won’t stick on them.

Blame’s destructive and at best.
It only serves self-interest.
Blame comes with a basic plan.
To find fault where’er they can.

Laying blame is an instinct.
But nonetheless it’s quite distinct.
When undeservedly unjust.
It engenders much distrust.

Blame’s a kind of conduit.
A refuge of the hypocrite.
As none of us are innocent.
We all must have a blame quotient.

In trying to avoid the blame.
Surely we are all the same.
But if you’re a multimillionaire.
You can lay the blame elsewhere.

                                                B. Withers. 2012 
(in: A Thesis on Constructive Conversations Inversed  2012 p 56)

                

 

BLAME 2.

Who in this world is right to blame?
For I would like to know his name.
We have grown a blame culture.
Now we breed the blaming vulture.

This creature soars way overhead.
Laying blame until they’re dead.
It seems to be a life they choose.
So they can win where others lose.

They’re practiced in the blaming drill.
It’s never them who makes the kill.
So they can wallow in the blood.
Of this fearsome blaming flood. 

Blame is aimed with a great force.
Who knows if it will stay on course.
Sometimes the blame will turn around.
Until some other target’s found. 

That’s why they will on weak folks pick.
Because they want their blame to stick. 
When the blamer takes the blame. 
They wish they’d taken better aim.

Stealth, wealth, power and status.
Form the blaming apparatus.
Hierarchies also play a part.
To keep the rich and blame apart.

Bad or sad it’s still the same.
Rich get pleasure, poor get blame.
Blaming will proliferate.
When we all collaborate.

I suggest we all attempt.
To treat blame with some contempt.
Let not blame pass through our door.
Stamp it out for evermore.

                                                B. Withers 2012
(in: A Thesis on Constructive Conversations Inversed  2012 p57)

 

BLAME 3.

A bully likes to blame a lot.
This is a weapon that he’s got.
He’ll join the army so he can.
Impose his will on fellow man. 

This can be so with many jobs.
Especially with the pseudo-snobs.
They climb the hierarchic pole.
So they can bully and control.

There are so many jobs to name.
That fall into this blaming game.
Police and teachers fit the bill.
Despite the years I feel it still.

They’ll  find fault and criticise.
Blame and shame and traumatise.
They’re so savage in attack.
It’s very hard to fight them back.

So often they will get their way.
And you are left without a say.
And so it seems they must be right.
If no one else puts up a fight. 

By the cunning use of power.
They blame you to make you cower
In future you will be compliant.
And you’ll not be so defiant.

Blame always seems to take a route.
To the bottom of the chute.
As if some form of gravity.
Disguises high depravity.

So those on top to their great shame.
On those beneath they’ll lay the blame.
And they don’t give a second thought.
To any havoc they have wrought.

                                                                B. Withers 2012
(in: A Thesis on Constructive Conversations Inversed  2012 p58)

 

 

BLAME 4.

What is all this blaming for?
Why is it enshrined in law?
What weird reward or claim to fame
Would motivate someone to blame.

Who blames as an expedient?
Who finds it so convenient?
Who utilises privileges.
And blame to gain advantages?

Who blames others all the time?
Who lays blame without a crime?
Who’s the first to litigation?
Who accepts no mitigation?

Who are the ones who won’t confess.
But will blame others with success?
Who never will their blame admit?
Who seems to get away with it?

Blaming raises people’s terror.
Who can deny our human error?
Who spends their lives avoiding blame?
But will put others in the frame.

Who blames because they lack respect?
Who, with power, blame deflect?
Who are these wolves who dress like sheep.
Who blame and blame yet lose no sleep?

Who views everything as blameworthy?
Who has no idea what’s praiseworthy?
Who’s so hateful they can’t live.
Unless they have some blame to give.

Who lays blame without foundation?
Who blames us for their frustration?
Can we not just cease to blame?
And try to learn a different game.

                                                B. Withers 2012
(in: A Thesis on Constructive Conversations Inversed  2012 p59).

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HenryM

Ah, the practical poet... easier to rhyme with "blame" than with "fault."  Halt, malt, salt, vault....  yeh, I see what you mean, Bill.  

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