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Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:37 pm
This is a great community. Consider joining.
now pete thats a story i wanna hear!!!
These are the top 5 issues ostomates face:

1. Dating and relationships
2. Concealing the pouch
3. Foods to eat and avoid
4. Losing or gaining weight
5. Pouch ballooning

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Mon Sep 22, 2008 11:35 pm
Hey guys!!!! Miss me? I missed you guys...I'm back and still full of it so all's good with the universe.I got a new computer..WOW!!! what a difference..Now I have to learn a few things all over again...Wish me luck...How's the other Angel's doing? And anyone heard from Mazz yet? ok take care and bring on the fun...xxxx Cool
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Tue Sep 23, 2008 6:37 am
ok miss T, i wondered why you were so quiet. of course we missed you. fiesty is almost back to normal from the storm. havent heard from meg, i think she is real busy right now..  you know how it is,we all been in that situation Wink
Tue Sep 23, 2008 3:35 pm
Two Nuns taking a bath together, one Nun says where's the soap, the other nun says , Yea doesn't it!!! Evil or Very Mad
Tue Sep 23, 2008 10:38 pm
Awe!! just too funny... Shocked
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Wed Sep 24, 2008 10:36 am
question: why do women close their eyes during sex

answer: they hate to see a man having  fun!!!
                     Wink  Wink  Wink
Wed Sep 24, 2008 4:51 pm
Q) Why dont women blink during sex?
  A) We dont get enough time.
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Wed Sep 24, 2008 6:54 pm
question: name 1 food proven to make a woman frigid

answer: wedding cake!!!

Thu Sep 25, 2008 11:34 am
Hi Everyone---just got out of the hospital --in for 9 days--bad kidney infection again! Am home on iv antibiotics for 2-3 weeks-- I'm not up to much chat yet, but will be soon. I have NOT deserted my on-line friends! I'm reading forum today to catch up! Very Happy  Very Happy  Very Happy --------meg
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Thu Sep 25, 2008 12:58 pm
well shuck my corn!! welcome back meg... thank goodness.. i was thinking we were going to have audition for that 3rd angel spot.
hope you get back on your feet quickly.  Smile
Fri Sep 26, 2008 6:14 pm
mmsh----gone 9 days and you were going to audition for a replacement!
i'm mad at you!  Okay I'm over it----BUT---you will have to do some serious groveling to get back in my good graces--anytime your ready...
If your feeling bad, i do like roses and chocolates. If your feeling REALLY bad, I accept visa and mastercard.-------------------------- Very Happy  meg
Fri Sep 26, 2008 6:23 pm
Walt--thank you for your kind words----we are a family here---and I liked the big hug idea, thanks everyone!  ---------------meg
Tue Sep 30, 2008 5:22 pm
Walt---thank you again-- I've never been one to share when I feel like #@#$!! So, here goes I feel like@#$%$#-- This is quite liberating!!
I HATE THIS IV, (pic line) they could only put it in my right arm- it's sore. it itches, i have trouble sleeping with it-- the antibiotic is so strong I am constantly nauseous, run down and exhausted! I have two more weeks to go--and will have it removed the day before I go to myrtle beach on vacation.
So, thanks for listening and I look forward to becoming my old self again in a couple weeks. We all have our ups and downs, this is my down time.
Tue Sep 30, 2008 11:19 pm
OH MY GOODNESS!! Meg darling girl.....Walter,why didnt you say mazz,(duh),silly me was getting people mixed up...So sorry I havent been on to greet you back and see how you are and give you my best wishes...Gee, I feel a terrible Meg, sorry but been in my own little space lately...Out of it now so all good...So GLAD to have you back. Very Happy So sorry to hear your doing it yukky at the moment, but as you can see your support group/friends/new family.....are really pleased to see you back...Keep on smiling and we will chat soon...MWAH!!!! Cool
Tue Oct 07, 2008 4:31 pm
pisceschild wrote:
Hello everyone. I have had an ostomy now for almost 22 years and I have to say I don't use anything extra and I've never had any major issues!

When it comes to bathing suits I do wear ones that either have a skirted bottom or nowadays the bottoms that look like shorts. Both work well and hold my pouch in place.

If any of you have any questions feel free to ask me!

I know and have been constantly told that it's cool to swim with one of these.  I've had mine for about 2 mo's now.  It just doesn't seem feisable.  Wont the water and movement just let the bag pp off?   I on't get it.  I know taking showers are ok, but I really like taking that OK?  Spas too...are getting in spas ok.  I would think the hot water would make it come loose....I just dont know.  This is all so new to me.  As far as sex and feeling comfortable and how to make it unoticable...I HAVE NO CLUE.  I's difficult for me to even masturbate, let alone someone else see that bad and want them vomit on me.

I suppose after time I will get more comfortable, but as of 2:30 PM PST,  I despise thjis thing and it's ruined my self image(gawd, that sounds like girl
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 7:13 am
hey man, interesting first post. belive i would avoid long hot baths and the spa, just jump in the shower and be quick about it and you wont have any trouble. things will get better, most things in this life are about attitude.. so get a positive one and work to keep it. everybody has something wrong with them, the point is to overcome it.... ever heard the saying..."who dares..wins"    Wink
Thu Oct 09, 2008 3:57 am
Hi there, yes it is a bit of a hard road your on at the moment but Mr Mild said it perfectly.Its all in the attitude,and things DO get better.And I would wait a while till you go into a spa.I have and it was fine for a little while...Like all things in this lifestyle, everything in moderation.Hang in there...chin up as they say. ok, take care.... Cool  Tarababy
Thu Oct 09, 2008 7:33 am
Hi all I am newish

I have had my colostomy for just over a year now and I call it winnie as in the the bear  Laughing

I have a hot tub in the back garden and although I dont use it as often as I want or indeed should (electric bill too high) I dont have a problem. Once out and showered leave your bag for 20 mins or so and then change it if you feel you need to.  

Not sure how I would feel if in a public spa though.   Embarassed
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Thu Oct 09, 2008 7:52 am

I have had my ileostomy for years. I take a quick shower or a long hot bath. No problems. I always change the bag after as I dont want a wet soggy one on. Now and again I take it off while in the shower but not often because it starts working! I dont go swimming as I cant swim but have many times been in the pool in the past, no problems, I even had swimming lessons but failed to learn! As for sex chance would be a fine thing at the moment! Haha! Seriously its been more of a problem for me than partners I have had but its not stopped me but I do feel ugly . I wonder if its different for a woman if her man has a bag. mmmm. Its early days for you yet, just take your time and recover first. Love can overcome many things, but you have to find it first and let it grow.
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Mon Oct 13, 2008 12:24 am
I recently purchased this item on ebay.  It works wonderfully,   I have not tested it with intimacy, But I would be willing to bet, it  is better than anything else available.
Thu Oct 16, 2008 8:22 am
I can relate to not being comfortable... have a colostomy 51 years old... and dont think I will ever be intimate again.

I am new here... hence the late reply.
Thu Oct 16, 2008 8:26 am
AnnieDevon wrote:
Hi all I am newish

I have had my colostomy for just over a year now and I call it winnie as in the the bear  Laughing

I have a hot tub in the back garden and although I dont use it as often as I want or indeed should (electric bill too high) I dont have a problem. Once out and showered leave your bag for 20 mins or so and then change it if you feel you need to.  

Not sure how I would feel if in a public spa though.   Embarassed

Ha!  I have also given my stoma a name... its "maxie", had mine for almost 2 years
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Thu Oct 16, 2008 11:09 am
Smuggy925 wrote:
I can relate to not being comfortable... have a colostomy 51 years old... and dont think I will ever be intimate again.

welcome smuggy, i dont think i would give up so easily. if i can manage to
"bag some booty" surely everyone else can too. personaly i just use one of those waist wraps like some folks use when exercising. put on a small pouch and the wrap. if your uncomfortable turn off the light. woman on your back, raise your legs. man on your side and slide in close. everything should be lined up.... so batter up and lets win this ball game!!
man grab both ankles and adjust them legs{hers} to suit you, now hold em there.. woman better reach back and grab that headboard cause daddy is bringing it home!! now see how easy that was.... any questions?? Wink
Mon Oct 20, 2008 1:28 am
AWE!!!!! well you just get right to the point Mr Mild,no wonder I like you Very Happy ...And, I'm with you.There is no reason in the universe for ANY OSTOMATE, to not be getting laid whenever possible..Ok, even I know it takes time to adjust, but go steady till you get the confidence..And trust me, you will wonder why you have held back and made yourself go without it.Nothing wrong with some good clean fun between consenting adults...whether they have any extra's or not...Oh and a naming it ,can help for the healing process...Mine is 'Billy the bag'...'Wally the wafer and 'Stanley the stoma...and you see....this is the only way I'll get to say..." I'm in bed with 3 guys at once ".... Shocked....hehehehehehe Cool
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Tue Oct 21, 2008 5:51 pm
hey miss T, was begining to wonder if i scared everybody off with this post. thank goodness i didnt mention the live chicken & weedwacker trick.  Wink  Wink
Tue Oct 21, 2008 8:50 pm
MMMMM!!!! I think maybe you could email me that one..lmao.A good way to get my attention by the way G, thanks.I'm still around, just busy with working and the normal run of life in general.Too buggered to do much by the time I get I have a read and, put a word in occassionally.
   Wondering how many out there in the cyber-world know about Melbourne Cup Day here actually... I dont normally let people know when my birthday is, but every so many yrs it falls on Melbourne Cup Day...And that's the day a HORSE RACE stops the nation at 3pm, so I am going to Party!!!!..Thats  P-A-R-T-Y!.....Champagne breakfast....then see what evolves from there....Knowing me it could be a fun day.And not having to work for two days after that...the hangover could be painful.I'll be taking a gamble, so wish me luck....wouldnt know a good horse if I fell over me they are all beautiful, but that wont win me a small fortune will it...
    later G, take it easy, and oh if you feel you should share the other story, I say go for it... Cool
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Wed Oct 22, 2008 6:44 am
well happy birthday miss T Very Happy !! not sure if someone so young and innocent can handle the live chicken & weedeater thing.... maybe when your a little older. Wink  sounds like the Melbourne Cup Day is simular to the kentucky derby we have here. heres a drinking tip just incase you havent heard it
                                 beer before wiskey.... mighty risky
                                 wiskey before beer..... never fear
easy to remember and very true.
Wed Oct 22, 2008 8:06 am
AWE!!!!  thanks G..but if I have at anytime let you think I'm sweet and innocent.....then I. am not on the ball as much as I'd like to be...(hehehehehe) ....Think your forgetting also what my career was and some of the 'scenes' I was exposed to... Shocked Sheesh!!! now I know why I have so much grey.....and yes your right about your Kentucky Derby to our Melbourne Cup.
And as far as the beer? you can drink all of that....dont touch for the whiskey...bring it you guys say, 'on the rocks please'.But I'm starting with a champagne breakfast at where i work...they are used to me going in dressed different and sexy, and I wont be the only one, lots of ladies will be all tarted up.Getting ready to go to the races...Thats when a video-cam is them all dressed up and most looking absolutely gorgeous.all putting on the airs and graces and being lovely ladies.Little pinky in the air as they drink or eat at the' ladies day race' ...Lots of hot sun and warm champers......5 hours later just sit back and watch the fun as they ....what would you call it? fall(pour) out of the gates to stand on or in the gutter yelling and screaming or sharing their days drinking with the footpath....lmao...nicer way to say it, could have said throwing their little tummies up. Twisted Evil Ahh..alcohol..wonderful invention.....Anyway guys...take it me I can handle it.. Cool .
Wed Oct 22, 2008 2:19 pm
Hello Everyone. My this feels strange. I have lived with my ostomy for 14 years now and am ok with how I am. But why is it that everytime I get close to a man and finally get the courage to tell him, he suddenly disappears? Are men really that shallow?
Fri Oct 24, 2008 12:06 am
Hi there newcomer, love the nickname by the way.....I know from first hand how shallow people/men can be, like all of us...But I believe that being honest right up, within first or second meeting.If the guy has come back a second time, its time to share.He's interested enough obviously, so now you make what you have a bit stronger, and let him know your telling him something in confidence... so, if he likes you, that will impress him, that you trust him enough to share something so personal...Bingo, here comes a 3rd date etc.....if they dont come back, then at least you know, either way...The ones who stay are worth the wait.And your ego will love you for it.Most I have told...have said it doesnt make me who I am and we get on with whatever we are doing.....Give it a try, you just never know....cheers and good luck....Tara    Cool
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