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Oral Sex And Colostomy Bag

Posted by cadet19

Does it bother you when you are giving oral sex and the partially full colostomy bag is banging against

your face?

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Jul 04, 2014
cadet19 : If anyone can comment on that, I would appreciate it.
Jul 04, 2014
cruznby : well my new wife dosent seem to mind, but a bit of discretion must be taken, and hygeine is a must, never thought Id be answering a question like this, but what the hell !!!!!
Jul 04, 2014
DH : well,where a pouch cover and don't act like your colostomy is a handicap.My husband is still as up close and personal with me as before i had my colostomyand i think it's because i don't act like its a handicap.But it is a good idea to make sure your bag is empty before hand.
Jul 05, 2014
Zywie : While it's been awhile since I have had the pleasure - I would not like it at all. But, there are so many products out there to keep this from happening. You and your partner should check online for ostomy products. I think the one most look at is called Ostomy Secrets - but there are a few. Plus I read one woman uses tube tops (covers it up and keeps it in place) which aren't expensive and you can get at any wally world or the like. Kudos for you going at it anyway!
Jul 05, 2014
bookguy : Seems only reasonable that you wear either an emptied bag or a new one in such a situation.
Jul 08, 2014
gordonc : just suck it and see!!
Jul 09, 2014
WAB : plan if you can......as well food passes quickly with stoma....so do not eat before having sex........hard to do but possible....if you can irrigate..irrigate ..irrigate ...solves problem completely......nothing passes until next irrigation.....I can usually go 2 days with out irrigating...and you can have..sex any time you want......lol......also buy these hernia stretch bandages.....they come in 5 inch widths......can be stretched and tightened........bag stays secure.....
Jul 10, 2014
garfish : bella bands
Jul 13, 2014
nwcurtis : tape it up.
Jul 13, 2014
moonshine : LMFAO.....ya know I have an illeostomy bag and they do sell lingere or dude briefs with pockets....would you mind my bag hittin u in da face??????
Jul 16, 2014
garfish : watch out what you tape up or you won't have any fun
Jul 17, 2014
MrBillYTO : I like Moonshine's answer. In the end, would you want a partially full bag hitting you in the face? Maybe but most likely not!Theoretically, you have 2 hands...use one of them to hold the bag away from your partner's face. Just sayin'...
Jul 20, 2014
nskeeter99 : i ware a belt. So make sure mine is empty clean, then tuck it up in the belt so out of the way for most sex things
Jul 20, 2014
garfish : you know what men like most about oral sex. the 5 minutes of silence.
Jul 20, 2014
Zywie : @garfish LIES !!!!!!! (made me laugh again tho)
Jul 21, 2014
ron in mich : when it gets to oral about 30 seconds is about it :)
Jul 21, 2014
garfish : small nuggets of worthless wisdom ;)
Jul 22, 2014
Sven : My mate doesn't seem to mind when my grip slips on it, but otherwise I make it a point to hold my bag away from his face. Absolutely no negative impact on his love of giving oral.
Jul 23, 2014
moonshine : i like the pocket/wraps from ostomy secrets. if you can find someone who doesnt care go for it.
Aug 04, 2014
maryj4me1 : I have the same problem with my feeding tube. I was so embarrassed the first time with my husband. Of all people your spouse. My tube hangs down way low, and I use my dressings to hold it up. Just as when I swim, I used a colostomy bag to put my tube in and then seal it to my stomach. It took me 40 years to wear a bikini and I made my mind up that I was not going to be embarrassed to wear a biking on the beach, so I wear that colostomy bag and I wear it proud, I figure nobody knows me and if my family doesn't have a problem with it, I don't either, and after 35 operations and for almost 51 years old, if my husband thinks his wife looks damn good in a biking, I am gonna wear one!!!
Aug 04, 2014
Zywie : Hell yes! Sounds like a plan to me.
Aug 05, 2014
gordonc : oral sex is just superb!!
Aug 06, 2014
Zywie : My reply was for mary's attitude about wearing a bikini for her husband - since I can't edit I thought I'd put an addendum. I been gettin a lot of winks since my post on August 4th. Yikes! :/
Aug 06, 2014
garfish : whatever turns your crank, so to speak
Apr 26, 2018
suugaahh : I never had any problems with oral and having a stoma bag. I usually fold mine but it has never been any nuisance at all when I have oral sex with a man since we are being very open here
Apr 26, 2018
suugaahh : @Zywie haha loving your replies ???? no wander your getting winked at haha
Jun 14, 2018
freedancer : My thoughts are that you put on a new bag before intimate contact and see if one of those wraps to hold the bag in place will work for you.
Jun 14, 2018
Victor61 : Jez,,,, i simply wear a t shirt and lie flat on my back when receiving oral, i then tuck my bug under my t shirt, I dont really have to as my partner loves me and my bag, when in hospital for surgery, the first thing he wanted was to get to know my wee bag and even empty it, he also christened it dolphin, due to the funny noises it make, its fun having a bag and a life,
Jul 13, 2018
BrooklynBlast : Why not just lie flat and let him or her do the work? That's how I like to give or get.
Aug 10, 2018
Immarsh : I'm seeing the same guy for about 4 1/2 years. He had no problem with the bag, and regardless of our postions, if it gets in his way...he just moves it. I've tried folding it, and taping it, and that works just as well, but he says it's not necessary.... Of course, I either empty, & rinse or put on a new bag, when we're going to be together, but depending on time, it often " starts to fill....and makes all those noises. But then...he " farts" for real. WE just laugh... If I'm on my knees, the " flapping annoys me, so I'll tape it up.. Was thinking of buying, or making a band. Haven't gotten to it yet. I have my ostomy for 50 plus years, and it's never been an issue, with the right guy.
Apr 09, 2019
honestabe : Go to amazon, buy 6” stoma support belt for $30 if really bothered by the bag! Have different women partners ! Usually they don't even know about the bag or could care less! Put on new bag and go have fun!
Jun 09, 2019
w30bob : You guys are all cracking me up! I got a feeling I'm really going to like this site and all you folks. The stuff you read online..........priceless!


Jun 11, 2019
Ink_Heart : Why would you have sexy time with a full bag? Maybe put a new one on for your special moments
Jun 11, 2019
w30bob : Sorry Ink.......not all of us have the kind of output that allows us to do what you suggest.

Cadet........my hat's off to ya brother! It's a great question I'd never ask in a forum of strangers, but would like to know the answer to. And the way you asked it sure didn't beat around the bush. When I first read the question I thought.....oh this dude is gonna get his butt thrown off this forum for sure.......and figured the moderator would step in and nix the whole deal. Then I started reading the replies and realized it was a real question and folks were ok with discussing. I guess I haven't fully acclimated and assimilated myself to the wacky world of ostomates. Carry on Professor.......I'm a learnin'.

Jun 11, 2019
honestabe : Thought it was very good question! Oral is good!
Jun 11, 2019
kstyle : I have been laughing for the last 10 minutes literally out loud! Loved every response! Most learn everything becomes second nature as time goes by. I can't wait to see more responses or even a better more candid follow up question! ????
Jul 27, 2019
warrior : this thread started in 2014. there was lapse of about 4 yrs. ya never know what kind of post you will find. but they say the truth is best said in jest. depending on your wafer, appliance, there is a tiny round pouch available from conva teck, i could look up the part number... i use them for showering. i would say its about a two inch round flat cup cake bag used specifically for those intimate moments. there will be banging here but no head to bag that's for certain. my two cents worth.
Apr 07, 2021
bcarter54 : I've had a permanent Eliostomy for almost 11 years.. 6 years ago I saw some Velcro dots in the crafts dept and immediately I thought that will work great with holding my bag up and out of the way! It's been a game changer for sure.
Apr 27, 2021
dac : If you irrigated, you would never experience this, if, of course, you have enough colon left to irrigate.
Apr 27, 2021
dac : Done
Dec 26, 2021
stolencolen : Well this was a lesson for me!
Feb 03, 2022
AlexT : I knew I liked this website for some reason. ????????
Feb 03, 2022
jerry.butcher : Good Read!