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Hello world.
I've been on this site a few years, trying
to help or give advice where I could.

It's very true if/when u look me up, I was/am a very lonely
guy in many ways.

Most folk on here have many physical issues and many
wonder why their husband/wife left.

I will tell you all straight, it's so fckn hard lookin after
someone,it's almost like two lives are melting away, 24hrs a
day, no sleep over 2hrs to make sure her bags were
fine, morphine et.c et.c

Give a thought to (me unpaid) carer/family folk, it was so
hard from my point of view. I did it because I loved

Briefly..Nov 2007 My friend Sue was hit from
behind while walking her dog, by a DUI guy, she
suffered a smashed right leg a head and other
minor injuries.
2 total knee replacements, due to the first
botched replacement breaking through the side of
her shin and skin, 2 days post op, the leg
was useless.
Sue was totally bed bound.


Next a bad stroke.

Next aggressive bladder cancer, radical cystectomy
hence urostomy bags.

Next diverticulitus, multiple fistulas, resulting
in the colostomy bag.

Next colovaginal fistulas from the remaining part
of her colon, from botched surgery. They were not
prepared to try and fix this because of her health
ie 3 colostomy and 2 urostomy hernias.

Sue was about 64, to make things worse her son, 45
Died a few months back, sudden heart attack.

Last but not least she was just diagnosed
with a terminal auto immune liver disease.

I'm sure I've missed plenty

I hope lifes rich and infinately varied tapestrys treat you all well,
don't forget, it's a two way street.

Now I am the loneleist guy, Sue died about 8am bst yesterday,
totally unexpected. She looked like she was asleep and
warm when I kissed her goodbye.

I rains, it pours, diluvial lol

Best wishes folk,
steve, for my beautiful friend Sue

Bill : Hello Steve. Thank you for sharing your story, sad though it is. I wish you well in the process of grieving as I feel sure this will be no less of a personal strain than the past has been. There is little that other people can say to help in these situations but It does seem that you have experienced the sort of love for someone else that offers an anchor for more positive thinking once the mourning process has settled down. I hope that you can hang on to all the positive aspects of your relationship and eventually move forward to a position whereby you can look back on all the good times. Best wishes Bill Oct 23, 2018
Puppyluv56 : Steve, hugs to you and thank you for sharing. Please feel free to reach out to us! We care! Praying that your grief eases and your happy memories prevail instead of sadness! Puppyluv Oct 23, 2018
Chrissandra : Steve, you surely did your thoughts are with you... Oct 28, 2018

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