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Hello fellow ostomates.
In this blog I have taken the unusual decision of posting 4 rhymes at once. This is because they seem to make a neat and appropriate ‘set’, focussing on one subject.
The book (B. Withers Against Covert Bullying - 2nd edition 2021 was published on 31/12/21 and I am re reading the rhymes for the sole purpose of looking for motivational concepts which are the opposite of bullying.
‘Survive and Thrive’ struck me as a one of those subjects and, apart from the first rhyme, which starts off comparing ‘abusers’ with ‘sickness’, the rest of the rhymes are much more about the sort of things we ostomates have to cope with in a life occupied by chronic (sometimes life-threatening) conditions.
It seems a pity to close the book without sharing them with you all, as the writing of such stuff has been of some help to me in the process of striving to survive and making the most of what we’ve got.

Best wishes



While most abusers are not thick
they may-well be described as ‘sick’.
So, victims suffer ‘sickness’ and
this concept helps them understand.

Abusers are a blight we fight
because we know it can’t be right
for things that harbour malintent
to generate our discontent.

Bullies are like a sickness where
the problem’s there, but does not care,
as long as it maintains control
over our body mind and soul.

A sickness, like abusers will
attempt to make their victims ill
and undermine their self-esteem
by bruising them and being mean.

The damage that the two impose
will not be what their victims chose,
but will be alien to them
and something we can all condemn.

When sickness strikes, we take a course
that can identify the source
of the problem, and be sure
it points the way towards a cure.

This is the way that we all strive
to live our lives and to survive
the onslaught of chronicity
and effects of toxicity.

But once we get the hang of it,
we can control this ‘sickness’ shit.
It’s then we start to feel alive
and suddenly we start to thrive.

                                               Be Withers 2021


‘Survive and thrive’ is all about
sorting all your problems out,
then finding ways to make a life
free from past troubles and from strife.

Sometimes there is no easy way
to keep past problems all at bay,
but then you need a plan of action
to guide, and act as a distraction.

Productive plans, I often find
are those that fill the active mind
with stuff that seems important to
that inner-side, deep down in you.

Sometimes it helps to make a list
of all those things that make you pissed.
So, you can know what to avoid
and not slip back into that void.

But once that list has been achieved
of all those things that make you peeved,
the next list should be positives
to overlay those negatives.

Write down the things you’d like to do,
and all those things you’ve wanted to,
then, you resolve to get them done,
patiently, and one by one.

Tick each item as you go
so, in your mind, you’ll always know
that you are making progress and
the future lies within your hand.

Each time you score a simple goal
it shows that you are in control,
and life will be as you desire
without the hassle and the mire.

                                             Be Withers 2021


It’s not enough, to just survive,
or do the stuff to stay alive.
For, I believe we all should strive
to do our best in life, and thrive.

When trauma hits us in the face,
that is, of course, the time and place
to focus on survival and
make sure we get the upper-hand.

There’s lots of things that we can do
so, we survive and we pull through,
depending on the cause of it,
someone will know a cure to fit.

At times when life hangs by a thread
and you feel you are close to dead,
get help from those who know, and friends,
and you will see that first-phase ends.

But once the trauma’s over, we
should not ignore PTSD.            (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder)
For stress can grow, and be a pain,
to haunt us time and time again.

This stress creeps up on us with stealth,
destroying what is ‘mental-health’,
and making everything much worse,
akin to folk-law, gypsy’s curse.

PTSD is in the mind,
so, all we need to do is find
a sure cure for this as well
and there are plenty I know well.

Then, once these things are in control,
we can climb out of that dark hole
to live our lives productively
and think much more constructively.

                                                    Be Withers 2021


Sometimes we’re lucky and we’ll meet
someone who’s landed on their feet
by sheer determination and
the fortitude to make a stand.

These people are an inspiration
and without equivocation
deserve our praise and admiration
for their own emancipation.

Anyone, of any age,
can decide to turn that page,
and change their lives from a bad place
to occupy a different space.

But many people don’t do this
and find their lives will come amiss
because, whilst they are still alive
they miss the point and fail to thrive.

I know a centenarian
who’s an humanitarian
and altruistic in her stance
so, thriving isn’t left to chance.

This lady’s a pleasure to meet,
as she does not bow to defeat,
but takes life’s problems one by one
and makes sure everything gets done.

Manifesting independence
with immense self-confidence,
this lady is a role-model
without a need to molly-coddle.

She’s an example to behold
of someone who is brave and bold,
showing that she has survived,
but more than that, she’s also thrived.

                                                  Be Withers 2021



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