The Big Reveal
As a 26 year old ostomate and single mother of twin boys, Ihave recently gone backout into the dating world with my metaphorical and actual baggage firmly in tow. After endingmy relationship with myboy's father (who could not accept my ostomy and began pushing me to have a reversal as soon as I got home from the hospital), I was left with horribly low self-esteem. I thought surely if the father of my children could not deal with my bag,who could???
So a few weeks ago, I reconnectedthrough Facebok with a guy thatI used to see around town. We've had threedates, and I'mthinking Icould reallylike this guy...Last night I went over to his place and he made me dinner for my birthday.The time had come for meto perform the ostomymonologueI had been practicing sinceour first date. He listened patiently as I told him all about it.Afterwards, he sat in silenceas I pushed through a series of hot flashes waiting to hear his response. I finally asked him what he was thinking, and he said, "Man, that must save you a lot of time..."with a big smile on his face.
I can't believe I allowed my ex's ignorant, negative opinions of my ostomy to get me down for so long. I'm starting to realize that #1: I still got it, and #2: Anyone that is worth my time is not going to judge me because of my bag. Needless to say I had an awesome birthday and I am excited to see where things go from here :)