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Shoud We Just Shut Up?

Posted by iMacG5

We’ve read so many beautiful stories about folks and their pets. So often, the love that went missing or might have never been what was really needed from a spouse, a child, sibling or just a good friend was discovered in a pet. How does this happen? We say a dog is a man’s or woman’s best friend. Why would a dog or a cat or a parrot or iguana or any creature with any number of legs, with or without wings be a better companion than a loving, caring, compassionate human being? A guy told me “That freakin cat is her first love. I’m next, I think”. We say a pet’s love might be unconditional yet our loved ones might work even harder to do everything in their power to make our lives better. They might love us, excuse us, ignore our faults (though some of us may have no faults).Too bad, the cocker poodle gets more appreciation. Maybe it’s a communication thing. Except for the parrot, none of these creatures talk and the parrot only repeats what it hears from talking creatures; probably people and who knows what people might say. Maybe it’s body language. Do iguanas raise their eyebrows when they are surprised or disagree with what we say? Does Puppy frown at us? Does Kitty drop its jaw in awe when we say something really stupid? Certainly, as smart as they may be, they never say something disappointing, disrespectful or flat out dumb. People do; not always intentionally. Usually, most folks try to offer nice replies to others. When one is hurting others usually attempt to offer comfort. Sometimes, one might be hurting so deeply there are just no words to offer comfort. One of the biggest mistakes is the, “I know how you feel” offering, “I feel your pain” or just “I feel yah” can cause replies like “NO YOU DON”T”. And they are so right. Our pain is ours alone. No matter how similar our experience might be to anyone else’s no one knows what we feel and how we feel it.
I’m not sure I’m getting anywhere with this. Spot! Here Spot! C’mear little guy. I need some love.

Mike

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Comments:
CharK63 : What can I say? You nailed it! My little dog is always so happy to see me when I've only been gone a minute. She never makes me feel guilty and she's always by my side. Can never find a person to do all that I'm sure. My only complaint is she's a bed hog. All ten pounds of her gets me in contortions I can barely get up and walk some days! I just love her! ???? Jun 24, 2018
nhtoatlanta : I have to admit, I like my dog more than most people. He's my companion and keeper of my secrets and my heart. Jun 25, 2018
Bill : Hello Mike. A great post, well expressed! I spent a few years studying people and their pets and there were certain elements to the relationship which kept cropping up over and over. Eventually, I decided that these would be good principles to live by as human beings so I made a list, which I called my 'AIMS FOR TODAY: AIMS FOR TODAY
1. To BE – THERE
2. To be CONSISTENT
3. To be HONEST, GENUINE & SINCERE
4. To be NON-JUDGEMENTAL
5. To LISTEN: Empathetically
6. To keep things CONFIDENTIAL
7. To ENABLE & EMPOWER (DIY process)
8. To show POSITIVE REGARD (unconditional)
9. To show RESPECT for INDIVIDUALITY
FEELING & NEEDS
10. To FOCUS CARING (according to my principles)
It occurred to me that there should be no reason at all why humans should not be as good at relationships as other animals and I often wonder on the reason our species seemed to have lost its way in this regard. Best wishes Bill
Jun 25, 2018
Past Member: Loved the line "no matter how similar our experience might be to anyone else's, no one know what we feel and how we feel it." That is SO right on! We're all unique that way. If anyone has a clue how you feel..It's Spot. Pets just know. Jun 25, 2018
iMacG5 : Hey Char, you'll probably be happy to give up a chunk of your bed for all you get in return. Thanks for the reply.
Respectfully,
Mike
Jun 25, 2018
iMacG5 : Hi Bill. I feel like I just took an accelerated course in “Relationships”. Maybe it's just a guide to being the kind of person most would want to have in their lives. I'm going to share your AIMS with family. Thank you from me and all with whom I'll share.
Sincerely,
Mike
Jun 25, 2018
iMacG5 : Hi Nhtoatlanta. I don't share your feelings but you're certainly not alone. Maybe if I had a pet I'd feel differently. Thanks for your thoughts.
Respectfully,
Mike
Jun 25, 2018
iMacG5 : Hey WNL, thanks for your comment. We sometimes refer to ourselves or others as “One in a million” but we're actually about one in 7.6 billion. Maybe we just think too much. Maybe our pets feel more in ways we can't even relate to. I think ascribing to Bill's AIMS FOR TODAY is a step in a super good direction.
Thanks for your thoughts.
Sincerely,
Mike
Jun 25, 2018
dadnabbit : IMacG5
Pets offer us unconditional love and acceptance, something humans are incapable of offering to each other. Even when we screw up, our pets will come and love on us, without passing judgement. Their capacity for forgiveness is unlimited, no matter how often we make a mistake. If only we humans could do the same....
Peace
Jun 25, 2018
iMacG5 : Hi Dadnabbit. I wonder where our permission to pass judgement came from. Permission to forgive is even more difficult to understand. Humans do what humans do or don't do. Beyond being a parent, guiding our children in what we believe to be the right direction, the responsibility and authority to judge and forgive is way more than I want for me. Thanks for your thoughts.
Respectfully,
Mike
Jun 26, 2018


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