Love & Hate - Mean It?
Love & Hate
We so casually use those words and I wonder if we really mean what they imply. I think I learned some stuff along the way to becoming an old man, good stuff and bad. I learned the great majority of folks don’t seem to care a lot about their methods of communication. Phrases like, “You know what I mean” excuse one’s inability to accurately express what one means. Using the “F” word eliminates the need for a larger vocabulary as it replaces adjectives, adverbs, nouns and pronouns. Don’t get me wrong; I use it often. I even blogged about the word. But I do try to use it effectively to appropriately communicate. Beginning a sentence with the word “but”, as I just did, is grammatically incorrect but that violation might enhance communication. I think it’s disrespectful to expect others to “know” what I mean when I don’t effectively tell them. Now I’ll try to get back to where I began. I won’t even attempt to define love. It’s all about feeling; beyond infatuation, beyond pepperoni pizza or malt liquor. We feel it in our entire being yet can’t describe it. It’s probably warm, colorless, odorless and seems to originate somewhere in the chest. It influences our thought process mostly in a good way. We become more tolerant of people or situations that would typically annoy us. I think we become nicer, kinder, more empathic and compassionate. Others might even remark that we’re really nice guys or gals. We can’t make ourselves love anyone or anything. It happens and we just need to be thankful, cherish it and do whatever we can to hold onto it.
Then there’s hate. Again, I can’t describe it. We use the word often. We might hate the intersection, the condition of the road, the way our hair looks, the jackass at the grocery store or any number of persons, places or things we just don’t like. Mostly though, we don’t actually mean it.
I have more to say about these words and maybe some others but I might need some help. It’s really all about communication and what and how we say something to another person might get to enjoy our company or hope we just shut up.