The topic at hand is about whether drinking wine can benefit digestion and appetite for people with an ostomy. One person is curious about how wine affects others with an ostomy, as they feel that a glass of wine helps relax their intestines, aids in food absorption, and stimulates their appetite. They are seeking to hear about both positive and negative experiences from others.

Here are some insights and advice shared by others:

1. Many ileostomy patients find that moderate wine consumption, about one glass, does not cause any problems. Some even feel relaxed and do not experience digestive issues.

2. Red wine might increase stoma output or make it pass quickly. Eating before drinking can help some people manage this effect.

3. Some people report intolerance to wine:
- Experiencing an instant headache from any type of wine.
- Feeling like wine "goes through me like prune juice."
- Hard seltzer, a carbonated alcoholic drink, caused immediate vomiting for someone five months after a total colectomy.

4. Carbonated drinks, such as beer, hard seltzer, tonic, and soda, can cause gas cramps or burst pouches for some ostomates. However, others drink them without any issues, so tolerance varies from person to person.

5. Some suggested alternatives and personal favorites include:
- Gin & tonic, with a wide range of gins available.
- Aperol Spritz, made with Aperol, Prosecco, and a splash of soda water over ice.
- Captain Morgan rum & Coke, known as "Captain and Coke."
- Bourbon with water.
- 7-year-old Havana Club rum from Cuba.
- Australian wines, especially Chardonnay, with boxed "goon" wine noted to be tolerable.

6. General cautions and viewpoints:
- Alcohol can be metabolically stressful and may act as a "poison" in excess. Some people choose total abstinence after struggling with alcohol use.
- It's advisable to start with small amounts, observe personal reactions, and make decisions based on those observations.