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In my life so far I have had a very broad range of interests and have taken part in almost every kind of activity and sport that has become available to me. Sometimes this has been via a process of participating whilst enabling others to take part in their own chosen activities.
I like to listen rather than talk and if I feel the urge to say something it usually gets documented as a chapter for a book, or if it's too complex or emotionally charged, it will invariably end up as a rhyming verse.
Inventing things gives me a buzz but being pragmatic I need an obvious problem to address before the motivation emerges. Dealing with other people's problems has been my life's work but I am now officially retired and now just do a variety of voluntary work. I like riverwalking, nature and animals but have a somewhat cynical view of the human-animal.
I am married with two children and two grandchildren.
Someone has asked me if I was 'famous'. I would like to reply to this in verse:


Noblest of nobody's never can
Raise themselves to head of clan.
For if they do achieve this aim
They are someone once again.

A novel nobody is who I am.
A something, a nothing, a hologram.
A feeling, a concept amidst a malaise.
There-nowhere, never-forever, always.

If you wish to have no fame
Nor exploit for personal gain.
If you care, you share my aim
So may also share my name.

B. Withers. 1992

Since acquiring a stoma, I have an interest in what others are communicating about their experiences. It's not so much that I want to talk to people but to 'listen' in the form of reading about their experiences.
I have difficulty with forms such as the profile for this site in that truthful answers would be "none of the above" However, the format does not allow for this so some information might be misleading.
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