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Hi I am an Australian-born American. I have lived in New York since 1968.
I have been married to my Norwegian/Welsh wife for 47 years. Still very much in love. So lucky.We have three children and five grandchildren. Our oldest son passed away last year from liver failure. He was a beautiful boy.
My wife and I spend 50% f our time in NY and 50% in Key West.
Our business (retirement really) is in Key West. We own a hotel/resort. We have a great GM. He does the heavy lifting very well. We're good friends. Our kids and his kids are good friends too. Its a family.
I am a deprived (CD and UC combined) fine food and wine fan and major travel fan.
Got to see as much as I can before I can't go anymore.
Yesterday, I was told that I will need to have surgery and be on a colostomy bag permanently.
I've been fighting against this eventuality for 37 years. Not a bad run.
I cried when I was told, but I am climbing over that HUGE wall of acceptance now and want to know what my best options are with bags, bands, swimwear etc.
I love being active. Swimming, sailing and surfing.
I need your help and recommendations and your experiences with different bag types. Which are best for water, sport etc. Flushable, disposable, drainable?
My colon is essentially gone already. Maybe 8-9" left. That was removed about 7 years ago. My colon was pre-cancerous so it was a prophylactic decision. Based on what I've read tonight my stoma will be higher rather than lower and my stool will be more like a liquid. Sound right?
My wife and I will be very grateful for your help.
Another major question. What kind of food CAN'T YOU EAT? What foods cause problems? What are those problems? Hoping I can eat properly after this. Not sure if that's so.
Thank you for your thoughts and contributions,
God bless.
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