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Having a urostomy makes me a little shy when it comes to relationships so many are looking for Mr. Perfect. Unfortunately I'm not Mr. Perfect. My wife of over 20 years passed away last August 19th and she left an emptiness in my that I firmly believe, and believe me when I say, she would want me to be happy. It is my firm desire to meet someone that is caring, honest and wants and more importantly needs to have someone that will be there for her.

Being some what retired, I say somewhat because after my beloved wife passed away I felt and my physician felt, I needed to go back to work so that I could take things off of my mind. So I took a temporary position with Hewlett Packard Enterprises downtown Indianapolis processing Medicare & Medicaid claims. While this currently keeps me busy, I'm actually not wanting another career. I retired almost 10 years ago from AT&T and we were fortunate to be able to travel extensively.

Most people don't understand but in our home, there was one word that was seldom used and that word is "NO". I like to be spontaneous and if and whenever the mood struck us to do something, we were always ready to go. In the winter, if the weather was bad and we felt the need to get out of it, we could and would just pack up and head to Florida or San Diego, California.

To be completely honest, while sex was not necessarily a major component of our relationship, affection, closeness, honesty, mutual respect was. If you can remember when you were young the passion from just making out, from holding each other so closely that it felt as if you were one, from cuddling together on the sofa or in bed at night, those are the things I miss most of all and am hoping to be able to find again. For two hearts to beat as one. For someone that can accept me as I am as that is what you can expect from me.
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