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Im a 53 yr old mother to a 20 and 17 yr old daughters and a grammy to a 3 yr old grandson and a newborn. I loved to go fishing and picnics, spending an afternoon going to wineries. Used to camp old style but now I kinda like the rent a cabin/RV camping better, lol.

I had my colostomy surgery 4/17/20 and am not used to it or doing to good with it yet. Radiation for cancer treatment totally messed up all of the perianal tissue.
**** had the "barbie butt" surgery 8/11/20 so ostomy is permanent and right now trying to deal with the new pain and sitting again. The surgery left me with a huge hunk of meat hanging down looking like I have not changed my diaper in days under my pants and yet I don't wear one. I have a huge scar running down right front side of my body and in closing where the took the skin and muscle from it moved my stoma right in the middle of my stomach.

So I guess I'm here to find people to talk to and help me learn to deal with my ostomy and live a normal life. For now I deal with unbearable pain in the perianal area and a herniated stoma.

And if a deeper relationship happens on here I wouldn't mind that either. But after a friendship develops first. l recently kicked out my so called boyfriend of 5 yrs. He's on many dating sites and seems to have never stopped trying to and meeting other women yet will look me in the eyes and say I love you. He will lay in bed next to me and be txting the other women telling me to behave when i get upset. Needless to say my self esteem is not very good especially now having the stoma and third butt cheek.

if God has someone else for me i hope he's kind ,loving, playful, likes the outdoor stuff like fishing, RV type camping lol
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