Have you thought about joining a ostomy support group?
And, surgery can change things, like turning on/off switches inside of us. I had heard of that with women having babies but my taste buds and blood pressure did weird things after my surgeries.
Getting professional help, support, more or the correct, helpful kind of friends is part of progress. Doing nothing is likely the worst thing you can do
Good luck! Keep talking about it. There are solutions. Loren
hope you start feeling better man, and theres quite a few regulars in the chatroom. There always willing to talk and have alot of interesting information their willing to part with.
Dont for once think that your alone through all of this as your not, many of us have gone through or going through it right now! and i am one of them going through it, i had my surgery on june 30th and i couldnt be happier that i feel alive again, but there just seems to be something nibbling away inside that makes me tick and i have good days and bad ones, i have spoken with my GP about it and she has put me onto a low dose of antidepressiants and has also refered me to get some counciling, as it always helps to talk with someone who isnt close to you, its also hard to talk with family about whats bothering you! i met with my surgeon on Monday to arrange my next surgery as i am having the rectum removed i havent been sleeping for weeks leading upto that appointment but now its over and i know when its going to happen im sleeping again, and its good, but i then get teary i am more teary when its that time of month but that is normal. I just take each day as it comes and at the momant i am having more good days than bad, but i need to slow down as i am doing to much i have to keep occupied otherwise thats when i get depressed i start thinking about how close i was to death, but i have been given this 2nde chance to live. i am only 22 and was diagnoised with bowel cancer 1 week after my birthday.... i had emergency surgery on the 30th June. My hospital and Surgeon are just great i couldnt have asked for a better group and even my Stoma Nurse every situation or problem i have she will always try to solve for me:)
I hope you get better and i promise there is really a light at the end of the tunnel, but for now its just a bloody long tunnel at that!
Keep your chin up, we all thinking of you.
You say "The dark funk is back." and "Very frustrated that I feel like I have lost control of my life and nothing seems to be "right"." and "...but between my ears I am a mess.".
Those three statements illustrate how close you are to a simple shift that will connect you to the experience you want to feel — I'll contact you so we can discuss a few "shift" strategies.
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Three - what is the 'simple shift' because I could do with it too? !!
I wish I could hit a few keys on this keyboard and have the perfect words appear on the screen so that everyone who has not experienced the "simple shift" could understand it after they read those words; however, words cannot accomplish such a feat anymore than they can transfer the taste of a one-of-a-kind flavor to someone who wants to taste it.
Fortunately there are a few ways words can help — I'll contact you to clarify what I mean.
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