Thank you kindly for you support and great advice. I did get some great freebies from every company, however, they were all really the same. Could you please explain why you like the one piece, rather than the two....I have heard this a lot. I just feel completely overwhelmed, but, I never even thought about a , going to look into that. I would appreciate any thoughts that come to your mind and got a really big smile about your comment on my name, very cute. I wish you the best and thanks again for the great ideas....until we speak again...leslie
Leslie,
That's a great nickname. It brought back a great memory of my daughter.
I certainly don't have all the answrrs. I just know what works for me. I wish I had this kind of resource when I got started. My first few months were pure misery. I'll share what I know now because I'm a firm believer in paying it forward.
When I was first educated by an ostomy nurse she explained to me that two piece was the best option for me so I could easily change bags w/out changing the seal around the stoma. Back then conventional wisdom was the less you change your wafer the less irritation to your skin. Apparently the first few months your skin goes through all sorts of adjustments because of the adhesive/sweat glands getting accustomed to a lack of air and plain old wear and tear.
So I bought in to that mindset and tried all kinds of systems. Different thickness and flexibility of wafers/adhesives/ring sizes and precut as opposed to cut your own size.
Over time by process of elimination I found the right size (your stoma will get smaller even if only minimally) and the right style of wafer. The right skin barrier also helps alot. BUT, the one problem that remained was the 'blow up' or off depending on how you view it.
I was using a 1 inch pre cut convex wafer with a regular sized ring and a 12 inch bag with a clip. I tried a belt to help keep it on and it didn't work. I tried an elasisized waist support (actually a back support product) but that didn't work. Then I tried a one piece convex and that made all the difference for me.
In my case I have a stoma that sticks out and points down but the skin at the base of the stoma curves inward. Imagine placing a raspberry on a toasted marshmallow. The weight of the raspberry would make the top of the marshmallow cave in a little (I know it's not a great visual but it's all I have for now). On top of it all I have an inconsistent output.
A convex precut opening of 7/8 works for me now with a skin barrier and Adapt paste. This gives me a snug fit around the stoma. The one piece works for me because my output is inconsistent and usually looser which means it comes out sporadicaally. The one piece with a snug fit is safer in my opinion because there is little to no chance of separation of the seal.
The two piece, so I was told, was originally designed for people with a colostomy and a consistent, solid output. That way you could change the bag every day and only have to change the wafer a coupe of times a week. With that kind of output you don't have to worry about collection of the output around the wafer whcih can lead to a deterioration of the seal.
Most people with ileostomies have loose stool which comes out when it wants to (like when you're lying down or sleeping or just wearing tighter fitting clothes). When output collects where the ring and the bag connect you have a greater chance of seepage when you don't have an airtight fit. With a proper fitting one piece and a tight barrier at the base of the stoma (the convex generally fits tight at the base of the stoma along with paste for an airtight fit) there is almost zero chance of a leak and a blow out, in my humble opinion.
I hope that helps Leslie. Again it may not solve all your problems but I hope it gives you a little perspective.
As for being overwhelmed I'm sure as a mom of 2 you get that feeling a lot. Please do yourself a favor. Don't try and solve it all at once. You're going to solve each issue as it arises just like you have with your kids. This is a big deal and until you get past the first stages of dealing with your newly adapted body part there will be plenty of challenges. There are a lot of great people on here with great advice and can help fill in the gaps.
I only hope in some small way I can help as well. Feel free to contact me anytime about anything.
Be well,
Michael
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