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Are there any lesbians on this site?

Posted by DJK1983, on Mon Apr 23, 2012 7:31 pm
Just seeing if there is anyone like me out there!! Smile
Reply by 61smiles, on Mon Apr 23, 2012 8:22 pm
Me, me! I have my hand up.  You're the first one other than me that I've known of.  Glad to meet you.  I hadn't been in a relationship since 1991 but I still had hpoes until I got deadly (literally) ill and ended up with a permanent ileostomy.  Let's wish each other luck.  Or maybe you're lucky enough to already be in a relationship.
Reply by Grateful1952, on Tue Apr 24, 2012 10:18 pm
I, too, am a lesbian...  

I had a colostomy 9/21/11 so I am still adapting.  I don't think I'll every be happy about it, but I have learned to deal with it.

Have not been in a relationship since 2002.  Not looking for one, but certainly wouldn't mind being friends.  Should be more for us women.  Maybe we can start something.

I admire your courage 61smiles and compassion for caring for your 90 year old Mother.  No easy task.  As an only child, I took care of both of my parents until the end, so my heart goes out to  you, but there are many rewards and you'll never reget it.

God bless....
Reply by DJK1983, on Wed Apr 25, 2012 8:03 am
Yeah!! So we do exist! Smile I had a temp iliostomy about eleven years ago and have had my permanent one for a year and a half. I don't love it by any means, but I deal. I wish you both the best of luck. Thank you for writing!!
Reply by Grateful1952, on Wed Apr 25, 2012 2:41 pm
Indeed we do exist in every facet of life.  You are still young and have a lot more living to do and have a good attitude.  It will take time but I think you will find the right one...one who cares and has patience and can look at the "whole" woman you are.  Don't settle for anything less....

Best wishes to you love.  Wishing you the very best.

Thanks for writing back!!
Reply by Zizi, on Tue May 01, 2012 2:26 pm
Chiming in to say that, yes, there are queer girls here, too. We're everywhere!

61Smiles, I've had a urostomy since I was 9 y/o, way back in 1978. I honestly have never found it to impede my ability to have a relationship. The bigger problem for me has always been my own self-consciousness, which gets in the way of emotional connectedness. It's a lifelong project to let it go, but every stride I make is worth it.
Reply by DJK1983, on Mon May 07, 2012 9:46 am
Hey Zizi! Glad to hear we are out there! I haven't had any problems dating since I acquired the bag either. It is only a big deal if you make it I suppose. I just didn't know any lesbians with bags, so I wanted to see if there were any. Smile I'm glad to know I'm not alone. We should have a scholarship fund or something. Haha!
Reply by andsoitis, on Tue May 22, 2012 3:29 pm
Hey, so glad someone asked the question! Yes I am a lesbian not in a relationship though. I have been wearing my colostomy now for 3 years. I am not even dating, I have been in hiding all my life almost after colon cancer I decided to be who I am I've never been happier I wish you all luck in your relationships or if your looking! I would like to have an intimate friend.
Reply by Lolamax, on Sun Jun 03, 2012 6:13 pm
Hi DJK1983,

I'm assuming you were born in 1983. Wow!  I had surgery and became a permanent ileostomate in 1982!  Good grief!  I am a happily married Lesbian!  However, I only had the courage to come out when I was 32!  (So, you, at age 29 - are way ahead of the game in the bravery department as far as I am concerned! Good for you!)

I have been with my love since 2000!  We are very happy and my ileostomy has NEVER been a problem in our relationship! She loves me for me!

*I'm fairly new to this site, but I'm sure there are lots of lesbians out there in ostomyworld!

Nice to meet you! Smile
Reply by robbin, on Mon Jun 11, 2012 10:41 pm
Yes there are Lesbians with Ostomy's! So where did you all go? Let's chat sometime.
Reply by Zizi, on Tue Jun 26, 2012 1:59 am
Would love to chat sometime with you guys, and any other queer gals on the forums. I actually find this forum difficult to navigate and not very user friendly - especially if you are not checking it daily. (And I would check it daily if it were more user-friendly....)

And we are not allowed to post contact information that would allow us to connect on other social networks that are more user-friendly.

Don't get me wrong - I think this is an amazing service, and I am so glad that it's here. I just wish a few things were easier and more convenient to use.
Reply by DJK1983, on Tue Jun 26, 2012 10:31 am
Hi, everybody!

I am glad to hear that we're all mostly doing well. Smile I really haven't had any problems with my bag and dating. I just don't make it a big deal, and so nobody else does either. The woman I'm with, who I hope to marry in a few years, doesn't mind at all. In fact, she thinks it's funny a lot of times. Smile I know that my bag is always there, but it just has so little to do with ME, that I don't even worry about it. I figure, I never got a girl with my sexy stomach (or lack there of) before, so a bag really won't matter all that much. Wink I think to some extent, we are lucky to date women, as they're typically more understanding of things like this. It also makes us more empathetic to other peoples' ailments. Anyhow, it's all good, and that's my point. At least we're all still kicking. Don't get me wrong, there are days when I hate it, and I get irritated by different things about it, but for the most part, I'm glad to have my bag. That's all for today I suppose! Smile
Reply by waytogo, on Mon Jul 16, 2012 8:10 am
hi all you lesbians Zizi,DJK1983,robbin , and you all.
     i am from down under and i am new on here so when i found this topic i thought i went from hell to heaven, so it makes me feel yeahhh not the only lesbian with a bag. i was with my love when this happened and she and i just never happened after it so i am not very confident in meeting anyone else. not right now, but would like it if we could all have a chat thing going on to swap stories and  just chat. anyway ladies good to know you all. now i wont be a stranger as it has taken me a long time to even get up the courage to get on here.  hope to chat soon      waytogo lots love to you all
Reply by waytogo, on Mon Jul 16, 2012 8:18 am
hi andsoitis
   waytogo here     wow what a duet lol hope to have some chats with you  i am going to be a regular visitor from now on , and is nice meeting you and the other lesbians wow. i will go to bed soon with a smile on my dial and that has been missing for a long time now, so thank you all so much   hope to chat soon
        waytogo
Reply by txess, on Tue Jul 31, 2012 2:43 pm
*Raising my hand* Count me in.  Woot!
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