Looking for fellow lesbians!

Hi Txess
Finally a comment, thank you very much. I think the rest of these girls may have given up the chase, so to speak. Ok, so we just talk now? So how are you? I too was very surprised at the amount of girls who were in that chat. Yes, I was a very happy lesbian when I saw that I was not the only one in the world lol. Some of them were living very well with their better halves and say that the bag was of no concern. I was separated after my emergency op. I was in that relationship for 18 years. She said she hated it, well that went down a treat and I have been so scared to even think of another relationship after that. How about you? Are you with someone and if so, how do you both cope with it? I hope you chat back
;wytogo

Very sorry @waytogo about your negative and very hurtful experience with your ex! Bah. That is not the kind of person you want to be with. Don't be scared to venture forth into the dating world. I've had relationships since my surgery and they were extremely supportive and positive experiences!! In my experience, women have been wonderful and actually made me feel great about myself and my desirability as a partner!! Go for it!!

Are any of you on Facebook? If so, does anyone with an account want to start a Facebook Group for Lesbian Ostomates? Call it just that (Lesbian Ostomates or Lesbians with Ostomies), so that it comes up in a search on Facebook or Google.

I think it would be great to have a closed Facebook group for us! With a "closed" Facebook group, it comes up in searches, members are public, but all the content (posts, updates, all communication between members) is private.

You can have a "secret" Facebook group, but it doesn't come up in searches, so "closed" is a better privacy option...that way all the lesbian ostomates googling or searching Facebook for others can find it.

If anyone starts one, let us know so we can search for it.

Hi Texas
What a great idea, you are a genius. I do have a Facebook account and I will try my hand at getting one up and running. If or when I do, I will let you know, okay? I am in two closed groups on Facebook regarding FarmVille, so I can inquire about how to do it. Hope to get back to you soon. Way to go!

Way to go....way to go! Let us know when you have it up and running!!

Hi Texas,
I have tried to get one going but I can't do it. I have asked friends and all seems to fail. I am supposed to have a certain amount of people to become members. How damn stupid is that as this is why we want to do it? Sorry, but I will work on another idea. I will let you know when and if. In a couple of weeks, I will be getting a total knee replacement, so I have put this at the back for the moment. Hope that's okay with you? I hope you all had a great Christmas and stay safe. Talk again soon.

Way to go!

Do any of you on this thread have an upgraded account so you can email me? If so, please do, so we can talk about how we can all connect as lesbian ostomates!

Hey there...where did y'all go? Any of you on any other ostomy boards? Like UOAA or C3Life?

I didn't see these replies!! I am not on any sites other than Facebook. I recently met someone that I think will be the one. She doesn't mind my bag at all, it's a non-issue. I am excited to see what happens. I hope you're all doing well!

Hi DJK1983
;I too am on Facebook. I sure hope that this lady is the one for you. I am going okay, I am back on my feet after my knee replacement and now hoping I can get around a bit better in another few weeks. Have a great day
way to go

Hi txess
I am up and running thanks to my knee replacement. A lot of people on Facebook got me through a rough patch, but all is well. That heading you once gave me before I went to the hospital. I hope you had a great holiday. We will have to try to get onto live chat to chat pmsl if you could let me know what time by replying to this. I got over the glitch that I told you about before. Ok, have to go. Oh, by the way, how do I get an upgraded account as I would like to email you. Ok, now I am going lol
All the best, waytogo 3

Hi Texas again.
I forgot to mention a new title for all of us. How about "Gay Colostomy Support Group" or "Gay Ostomates Support Group"? I have been working on it while I was in the hospital on Facebook. Okay, I am going as someone is calling. LOL.
Hope to hear back. Way to go!

@DJK1983
Wishing lots of happiness in your new relationship. I've never had a girlfriend that had an issue with the bag...they were all wonderful about it. 3

@waytogo Sorry to hear about your knee replacement and the rough patch you went through...but very happy you've turned the corner and are on the mend! Answer to your question...you should see "Upgrade" in the top menu bar when you log in, that's where you can upgrade your account.

Nice hearing from you... hope we can connect again soon.

Just wanted to say I love all the support and kindness that is displayed on this forum. I love the Dead too. Not lesbian but acknowledging your courage will allow you to soar!

Debra

Does bi-curious count?

Moonshine,

Of course it counts! There are lots of people who believe (and research seems to support this) that sexuality is not as much a black-and-white/gay-or-straight issue as it is a continuum. I prefer the label queer myself. Although my predominant attraction and affection is for women, I have definitely had meaningful and very real relationships with men, including with my ex-husband.

There also has been some research that shows some women experience a fluid sexual orientation during mid-life, so that a woman who never thought of herself as gay or lesbian might suddenly fall in love with another woman for the first time in her 40s. It happens. (And thank God it happens, amirite, ladies?)

I wish this thread were more active. Or that there were better ways to connect as a community.

Count me in too! Are any of you lesbians from the UK?!

Yep, me too. I had my permanent ileostomy surgery when I was 9 years old due to Crohn's Disease. I'm 41 now and have played every sport available to me as well as been in lesbian relationships since I was 17 years old.

I never felt too much shame about it... except during showers after games... but I hid it well and my friends usually didn't know about it unless I chose to share it with them.

I'm still the same today, happy, free, fun, active, loving, open person. And I'm in what I pray is my last relationship in this lifetime with a beautiful woman who loves every part of me inside and out.

I joined this site in hopes that I could not only meet other ostomates but also to see if anyone could suggest an alternative bag due to my recent development of a skin tape allergy.

I hope to hear back from some of you!

Hey DK,

I've only recently realized that I, too, am a lesbian. I wish I had known that about four wives ago, though.

So, no, you are not alone (in that respect at least).

Have fun and keep that smile on your face.

NT

Count me in!!! I am bi

Most aspects of our life are always somewhere in between things; and, Zizi, I think you are on to a very interesting point. If we break our life into 8 stages (e.g., Erikson's), we might find that our interest in or companionship with one gender may be greater than the same in or with the opposite gender during certain stages or critical times. I use the word gender here because I do not want to paint this phenomenon as primarily sexual. As women age, they do tend to become closer friends with each other. Certainly, men move in similar directions. (Consider all my golfing partners.) I don't think there's much socio-emotional research out there yet on the direction of this topic, but wait. I suspect we ain't seen nothing yet.

PB

Me too

Happy to meet you. Just had my surgery 2 months ago. I finally found my way to this website.

So good to find some peers.

Hiya, I am NB pan/queer. Just had my ostomy installed September 2020.

I have been struggling to reintegrate myself socially but saw your post and wanted to say hi! We are not alone!

Hugs and love to you DJK1983!!!

I haven't bought membership but you can email me at

Hi there!!

Today (24-12-2021) is the anniversary of my ileostomy, four months on problems still seem to pop up. After seven months of ill health brought about by UC, I ended up having emergency surgery.

I'm not a doctor, but I think with the way things are going, I am going to end up needing more surgery to have what remaining bowel there is taken away.

I'm lesbian, reading this thread has given me heart.

There is so much to read on this site, so pleased I found it.