Hi,¬†¬† My name is Marsha, and after reading your post, I knew I had to write to you...to reassure you that there's a way ( despite limitations) to be sexually intimate with a partner again.¬†¬† I've had my ostomy for 50 + years, so I went through the dating routine way back then.¬† I ended up marrying a man with an ostomy also, and we had a satisfying, good sex life, until we divorced after 24 1/2 years. due to other issues.¬†
In the last 20 years I've dated some, but nothing serious, and sometimes years¬† went by, without an intimate relationship.¬†¬† I went through my "changes", and noted the changes in my body ( vaginal irritatiion during decreasing periods, and spoke to my doctor about the dryness.¬† She put me on some meds a few years ago....but they didn't agree with me and caused more irritation.¬†¬† Over the last 6 months, I've been in an intimate relationship with a guy who had prostate cancer last¬† year, and has had issues of Erectile disfunction.¬†¬† With some medication ( for him) and some nice lotions ( for us), we have created a really nice and satisfying ( but yes...different) relationship.¬†¬† Somehow, it's not all about intercourse and orgasm ( which has become difficult for me)¬† but more about meeting our individual emotional and sexual ways that work for us today.¬†¬† When he says mournfully " I used to get so @#%,¬† I smile and say....and my boobs use to stand up.¬†¬† It is what it is now....and we're enjoying what we have.¬†
Check with your doctor, about the ocassional bleeding.¬†¬† I get irritated, and bleed easily....as do several of my friends.¬† For some meds or supplements work....for others not.¬†¬† And as I've gotten more comfortable in my relationship.....i seem to get "wet again".¬†¬† He teases me because I told him I've been like "sandpaper" inside...¬†¬†¬†¬† Best of luck to you.
Sinhead. Sounds like your op was the same as mine.+ I had my appendix burst aswell.. my vagina has been burnt away with radiotherapy & ¬†appendix op didnt help either! ! Its impossible for me to have sex.i hope your not in the same predicament as me!! Good luck xx