Hi, My name is Marsha, and after reading your post, I knew I had to write to you...to reassure you that there's a way ( despite limitations) to be sexually intimate with a partner again. I've had my ostomy for 50 + years, so I went through the dating routine way back then. I ended up marrying a man with an ostomy also, and we had a satisfying, good sex life, until we divorced after 24 1/2 years. due to other issues.
In the last 20 years I've dated some, but nothing serious, and sometimes years went by, without an intimate relationship. I went through my "changes", and noted the changes in my body ( vaginal irritatiion during decreasing periods, and spoke to my doctor about the dryness. She put me on some meds a few years ago....but they didn't agree with me and caused more irritation. Over the last 6 months, I've been in an intimate relationship with a guy who had prostate cancer last year, and has had issues of Erectile disfunction. With some medication ( for him) and some nice lotions ( for us), we have created a really nice and satisfying ( but yes...different) relationship. Somehow, it's not all about intercourse and orgasm ( which has become difficult for me) but more about meeting our individual emotional and sexual ways that work for us today. When he says mournfully " I used to get so @#%, I smile and say....and my boobs use to stand up. It is what it is now....and we're enjoying what we have.
Check with your doctor, about the ocassional bleeding. I get irritated, and bleed easily....as do several of my friends. For some meds or supplements work....for others not. And as I've gotten more comfortable in my relationship.....i seem to get "wet again". He teases me because I told him I've been like "sandpaper" inside... Best of luck to you.
Sinhead. Sounds like your op was the same as mine.+ I had my appendix burst aswell.. my vagina has been burnt away with radiotherapy & appendix op didnt help either! ! Its impossible for me to have sex.i hope your not in the same predicament as me!! Good luck xx