I should start off and say that I do not have an ostomy, however the girl I am dating does.
She has been open about it, pretty much since I met her, this is a few months ago now. She is a fantastic girl, and I am head over heels for her. I am also fairly certain this goes both ways.
We do have fairly good communication going about feeling, and about the operations etc.
She is absolutely gorgeous, smart, funny, you name it... but also very self-concious about the bag and the ileostomy, both how it looks and the fact that it at times makes sounds... neither which bother me in the slightest.
However it makes it difficult for her to fall asleep around me as she is worried it will make sounds, I also think that she possibly puts up a bit of a wall when it comes to intimacy, possibly more so when it is more active...
Like I said, I wouldn't wish for another girl in my life... and all I want is for her to become comfortable. I understand that this is difficult, I also understand that I can't REALLY understand since I have no experience of it myself...
so, I was wondering... any advice on how I possibly can help make her feel comfortable? Anything I can do except to be understanding and give her time?