Hello Scorsby I had colorectal cancer surgery and the doctor warned me that it would impair sex. At the time that didn't matter, but now I'm feeling it. They said I have a narrow pelvis and cut through a lot of nerves. So now I have no feeling to make it work. I have a permanent ostomy and therefore they sewed me up. It's still not healing all the way. There was an infection. After another stay in the hospital pumped with antibiotics they decided to cut it open and pack it 2-3 times a day. Since I have been tethered to a wound vacuum to try to close up my deep wound.
Anyway, I don't have the pain that you have but it just won't work anymore. And I also had been denied intamicy after having children. (about 27 years) So some of us have been through some frustrating times. Thanks for listening and I am open to talk with anyone.