Hi Dan, sorry you are having a difficult time of it. Everyone comes to this new normal of living with an ostomy in thier own way and time. I have had Rosie (my stoma) for 4 years now, and I can honestly say I am blessed to have her. I am LIVING a very good life. It truly does not do you any good to look in the readies mirror rather keep looking forward to the opportunity of living every day. I do not FB but there is no reason you can't. I don't think FB has a prerequisite that you must share all. You may be physically different now but you are still you. Dan my Mother had a saying it is very true. "There is always some poor bugger worse of than you" I was born and raised in Scotland haha. I hope that you will get the confidence back, from the truly caring people on this site sharing thier strength with you. Good luck and God Bess. Gail aka p.s. That was rear view mirror ha.