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Posted by Angelicamarie, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 7:55 am

I woke this morning so full of love.  Thinking of those that were placed in my life that loved me.  Which definetely helped me become the person I am.

Deaths: there so many kinds of feelings that follow after a death. Each one is different and yet take a piece of me each time.  Thirty nine years ago, I lost my son. "Oh My" I feel that lost

as it was yesterday. I'm thanful to live. but nor will I never forget those that are gone. I'm now facing yet another death- a marriage of 34 years, not counting the time we dated.

We as ostomates experience death- when we lose our organs. I read your posts and I feel your pain, you not alone.  Also a different feeling-yet a loss.

Listen this is not a goodbye,  just  expressing what I feel.  I want to thank those that have touched my life in so many ways. I thank you for your friendship and guidance.

As we approach the holidays, enjoy your families, friends etc. (Embrace Life)

Take Care


Reply by Pirrip, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 8:19 am

Love is the answer, now what was the question?

Reply by Angelicamarie, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 8:35 am

Pirrip.... yes yes yes!!!

Reply by ukmaninusa, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 9:18 am

You brought tears to my eyes this A.M. Bless you Angelicmarie, you're loved x

Reply by Puppyluv56, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 9:59 am

Good Morning Angel, 

i am sorry for your loss! I too have lost a son and a marriage and know the pain of both! Something that stays with you all of the rest of your life. You are an amazingly strong woman and I wish you the best! 

Reply by Angelicamarie, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 10:19 am

ukmaninusa.. Thank you!! May god Bless you also!

Reply by Angelicamarie, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 10:22 am

Puppyluv...Thank you,  I also have a living daughter.. I’m blessed. Never do I want to leave her out. For that’s my baby too... (Smile)   I had to read that again, “oh” dearest Puppyluv my heart goes out to you! I too am sorry for your loss!


Reply by xnine, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 11:37 am

Stay strong.

Reply by Angelicamarie, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 11:42 am

Thank you!. Just emotional today, but so very grateful.

Reply by bowsprit, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 12:07 pm

Well done as usual, Angelica Marie. Greetings from far away. What, no songs to listen to this time. 

Reply by Bill, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 12:19 pm

Hello Angelicamarie.

Thank you once again for a very poignant post. This time it resurrected feelings which I felt I had well under control for many years. However, whilst we may control many of the outward symptoms, it is much more difficult to contain that which is still active and alive under the surface, remaining oh so ready to jump out at us with any chink of that emotional door opening.

I have written a number of verses in my efforts to document and make sense of personal loss but there is still much to express in this regard, except that the revisiting and the nostalgia seems just as raw and painful as when it first happened. I'll share just one of poems I wrote in 2012 trying to get my head around this subject, although the painful event was way back in the 1960's it took me that long to feel I had the strength to face the issue in rhyming form.

Best wishes




There is no other loss I knew.
Can compare with the loss of you.
Your loss was way beyond belief.
And nothing could displace my grief.

‘Twas because you meant to me.
Everything that could ever be.
When you were there things were just right.
You were my sunshine’s ray of light.

I knew right from the very start.
You’d found a place within my heart.
Although I did not let you know.
I did not want to let you go.

Your unconventionality.
And your great personality.
All those things you did and said.
Feel lost forever now you’re dead.

One thing I miss as I recall.
Is the way you could enthral.
I miss having you close by.
I miss the twinkle in your eye.

I do not think that it was wrong.
That when you went I cried so long.
I felt I was no longer whole.
And nothing would my heart console.

It was an unexpected shock.
And certainly my greatest knock.
A personal catastrophe.
Now part of my biography.

There’s bound to be a personal cost.
When someone close to you is lost.
It’s hard to tell what that will be.
Until they’re gone and then you’ll see.

B. Withers 2012


Reply by Angelicamarie, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 1:15 pm

Biil.. Thank you, that was beautiful.

Reply by Angelicamarie, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 1:32 pm

bowsprit... I’m so sorry,  I didn’t see your comment . Thank you my friend, no not today. (Smile)

Reply by bowsprit, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 2:07 pm

No problem, the somgs can wait for another day. If I may quote Kahlil Gibran : If you would indeed behold the spirit of death, open your heart

wide unto the body of life. For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.

Reply by Angelicamarie, on Sat Nov 17, 2018 2:14 pm

bowsprit...Wonderful thanks for sharing.!!!

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