Meeting Women with Ostomies: Tips for Getting Started

Marsha, you're a doll! Thank you. I did pay $75 for lifetime membership. You have been through a lot when Crohn's wasn't well-known. I'm so pleased to meet you.

If you find the trick, let me know.

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I think you are more likely to meet a good woman here, rather than at your neighborhood bar.

IMHO

I don't believe 'here' is any different than your 'neighborhood bar.' All women have the potential to be good, just like all men and all neighborhoods. I've met one woman on this site and almost met two others. If you haven't learned already, you'll eventually discover that sharing one physiological common denominator doesn't guarantee compatibility. But as to the original post, whether face-to-face or online, if you don't try, you've got close to a 0% chance of success...

Bob, I really enjoy your perspective outlook and admire you for putting the big picture into layman's terms and a great rationale!
I met a few nice ladies on here far and wide with a bag or two and chatted till the sun came up!
Sometimes it's not the bag that's the problem but the baggage they carry. 😊

What part of Ohio are you from, Crappy, Crapster?

Think I'm a little late to this party?

So I just wanted to add my two cents.

Trying to find a partner on this site can be very easy, but the problem is distance, which has been mentioned before.

I mean, England, Germany, Denmark, Oregon, California—nobody is in the tri-state area on the East Coast. Probably because wbob chased them all away.

I mean, yeah, there are some on the East Coast who say they're interested in a relationship, and you reach out to them and not even a common courtesy reply to say sorry or not interested or even too far. Yada yada. I get this on another online dating site, but not here. Nope. It should be named "flee an ostomate," not "meet an ostomate."

You try to reach out to them, and sometimes you have to click or check all their boxes in order for them to reply to you.

Men, like women, are very choosy.

They don't want to settle.

I don't believe having a bag is the common denominator.

But I have found in the last few years the thing is chemistry.

On the other online dating site, I must have met about five women in the last two years, and damn, I thought I did really well. We had a great time, parting with smiles until the dreaded text came the next day.

"There's no chemistry."

Or the ghosting. Yeah, big thing online.

So don't let the bag be a common denominator.

It's not that important.

I mean, sure, your partner would love the idea that they understand you and the situation you're in, but there's more to life than an ostomy when it comes to dating.

So good luck in your search. It will take time and patience, and try the other sites as well.

Oh, those other popular sites? Some are just window shopping.

Others are attention seekers.

Never mention the bag until it's time to, if you want to. That's how I roll. So far, it's paid off.