Desperate for Safe Housing in NY or PA, $700/month

Hi,

I just joined the site since my life is at risk and becoming homeless! I know it's been a while but when I first posted and moved here my health issues went severe including an emergency ileostomy reversal in December 2017, only 7 months moving away from my children never leaving the house except for hospitals so many times over! My main issue is my ex-fiance changed drastically when I became ill he was arrested in Florida where we lived on Domestic Battery against me but I thought he had changed, the biggest mistake I could of ever made and will never forgive myself to going back to him and even did a trial visit for 10 days visiting here and everything was great. Being together for 10 years is a long time but I should of stayed alone! I have only seen my 2 children and grandaughter twice since living here and miss and cry for them each and every day! The purpose of this post is desperate for me to move and tried everything .gov, helplines, searching everyday for places to live and no family or friends to stay with which in my first post all past away! I did sell everything before I left and only brought my memorbilia and personal items with me in which they were in storage now just scattered in this hell hole! I donated everything to the poor and needy as always so I basically have no health or wealth! My computer, ipad, and been through 4 phones already all have virus's due to his porn sites, prostitutiion, viagra orders out of the country and dating sites in which he found a girlfriend last July 2019! We had just moved to another town and he bought a townhouse with his millions of dollars and owns his Mothers house as well. I really don't want to ramble on but I am tired of being scammed on line trying to find a decent place to live on my income, I don't give out any personal information but can always smell a rat! My son who lives in Philly has been trying to help me find a place but it is too expensive and so is NY, I don't know this area since I have be homebound for so long and my daughter in FL and going back there is out of the question due to my health and financial reasons the only really place I know. I pray everyday as always but God has a plan but is taking too long as I don't want to die here as my ex wishes me DEAD!!! I can't just run down the street and rent a place and sign a lease and not going to do it online, I reported all the scams to USA.Gov and Social Security Disability etc. etc. I am out of time and looking for help from any of you to help me in finding a safe place to live, I can afford about 700.00 per month and only need a 1 bedroom 1 bath somewhere in New York or PA, I don't want to stay in NY but don't have a choice I need to be in an undisclosed location away from him, no shelter will even take me due to emergency medical needs and looked into long term cheap motels but really expensive, there is nothing I have not tried or done and it has taken it's toll on me recently was hospitalized again the stress is too much and feel like I am going to die!!! Please if anyone knows of anything for rent you can message me or repsond, I am not looking for a handout or to live with another person I just need a safe enviroment to live and get healthy again and heal myself from all this!

Thank you and God Bless all of YOU!!! Coco620

Wow, Coco.  This just shouldn't be.  I won't begin to advise you except to suggest you reach out to every social help organization in person, on line or by phone.  There's help out there and I think you'll find it soon.
Please keep us posted as things get way better for you.

Respectfully,

Mike

Coco,

It sure sounds like you have been to hell and back, but apparently you are a super strong woman because you are surviving! I am sorry you are going through this! I have no information about assistance or housing possibilities because I am in the South. The only thing I can think of is to see if your local hospital that you use has a social worker, most do. Maybe he or she can offer some suggestions for your area.
Stay strong, girl.

Puppyluv

I already had a social worker according to my primary doctor, nothing is working! Thank you

Where in Florida were you?

I am sorry for what you are going through. But like Pup, I live in the south so I cannot be any help. Surely there is a social service place that can help you. Just look it up online. Hope you find some help soon. Good luck.

Thank you and God bless you. I wish I was still there.

Hi Coco,

Have you checked here?

https://www.hud.gov/states/new_york/renting

Regards,

Bob

Hi Bob, yes I have a 2 to 3-year waiting list! I can't take it anymore. I gave to everyone in need, and I am in desperate need, but to no avail! I feel like an abused animal in a cage and can't get out! When you are wished to die daily, you really almost want to, with no way out of here.

CoCo, I am so glad you broke yourself free of that vicious cycle you were in with your ex. It's one of the most difficult things for women of domestic violence to do. Unfortunately, it left you under duress. I spent most of my life in NY but left for a warmer climate. For your sake, I hope and pray that not only do your circumstances improve but you find your way out of NY as well. It is too populated to provide the resources you need to get back on your feet again. Please don't give up, you will get there.

Hi Coco,

I reached out to a personal friend in NY who works in the mental health field and is pretty well connected. Hopefully, she'll know of any resources for battered women that maybe you haven't tried. I'll shout back as soon as I hear from her.

Regards,

Bob

Thank you so much for your help and warm heartfelt message!

Hi Bob,

Thank you so much for doing that for me. I reached out to everyone, but to no avail. I have never been in so much mental and physical pain. All I have to say to all is that you don't stop loving someone just because you get sick. And for him or anyone preying on the disabled, there is a place in hell for you! He is a vicious, ugly, evil being!! I will keep my prayers going. Thank you, Coco.

Hi Coco,

My friend needs to know where you are located in NY now and where you want to be located in NY. Then she can get right on it. I've got to run to work, but will check back here and forward your info to her ASAP.

Thanks,

Bob

Sorry about your present predicament, hopefully you will find a suitable place soon. If you don't, you are quite welcome to come here for a while. It's quite safe, contrary to popular opinion, some of the highest mountains in the world, lakes and rivers, Alpine scenery. All gratis, of course. Best wishes and good luck.

Hi bow,

Wow, that sounds nice! Can we all come too? Not many mountains here in Maryland, and definitely no Alpine scenery. We've got a few rivers and lakes, but that's about it. Besides, never been to Pakistan, so could be a bucket list item that can be checked off as well. I could grab Warrior, and any other ostomates that'll fit in my car, on the way to Newark International Airport and we could probably be there by Saturday. Which would be Sunday, your time. What do you say gang........anybody up for an old fashioned Road Trip???? Just no playing "Pop the Ostomy Bag" in the back seat or you clean the mess! Do you guys have beer over there? Just checking. Now where did I put that damn suitcase????

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Bob

I am putting my name on the list early, guess I would have to fly to Newark International Airport and meet you there. I would love to travel and I love to fly. LOL

I blocked him as he also sent a message and never responded, but told Bob for the first time in a very long time, I laughed and smiled when he responded to bow. I actually read Bob's response twice. Too funny!! Coco

How about "Burp the Bag"; no mess, but just keep the windows wide open!

Bagger............That's what I love about you.......you're always thinkin'!!! Burp the Bag...LOL!!! You ever get the feeling you're stuck inside someone's really bad dream.......I think that's the life of an ostomate!

Watch out Pakistan..........the Osto-Boys (and Girls) are back in town! Sorry, I just had Thin Lizzy pop into my head when I started replying to this thread.

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Bob

Yes, that was a bit presumptuous of me and perhaps not in good taste. Apologies to anybody who found it offensive, but everyone who wants to come is welcome. You cannot fly from Newark International to here and will have to go to JFK. Seriously speaking, this is a good place to visit and my offer to host everybody stands. Yes, Bob, lots of beer and Black Label and lots of dancing at parties. K-2, the second highest peak in the world, is here and the Karakoram Highway to China, though I doubt anybody would want to go there these days.

I will pick up on the way, Lovey! LOL

Oh boy... I'm seeing the makings of an "International Incident" here... better let my Congressman know what we're planning... just in case.

Bow... thanks for the offer... it does sound like a great travel destination. Any chance you have a Hollister dealer nearby?

Thanks, dude!

Regards,

Bob

Coco for Cocoa Puffs,

I just sent you a PM with some info in it. Let me know if that answers the mail for you.

Thanks,

Bob

Hi guys,

FYI... we haven't fixed the problem yet. So, if anyone else has any suggestions, please post. I'm still making calls, but so far they've all been dead ends. Guess I never paid any attention to how folks in these situations find help... or even if they ever find help. We're all a bit naive about things that don't directly pertain to our situations. And we seem to think there are safety nets for all situations. I'm learning that there are not.

Later,

Bob

Kudos to you, Bob, for trying to help this woman. I can't think of anything else that you haven't already tried. I would think that social services should be able to at least do something. Or a battered women's shelter?

Hi Bagger,

Thanks. As I've learned from my friend, there are always more people in need of resources than actual resources available. And it seems a significant number of folks end up "falling between the cracks". Another friend of mine, who works in the human services industry also used to complain all the time about the lack of sufficient resources to deal with the volume of folks who need them, but like most Americans we only really pay attention to those things that affect us directly. So it was in one ear and out the other with me. Now I see what she was (and still is) talking about. I'm pretty sure the general population thinks like we do.....meaning that there are adequate safety nets in place for any issue. But obviously there are not. Who knows what other social service issues are also inadequate? Probably most.

Regards,

Bob

Hi, it's CoCo. I cannot take this anymore. I talked to my son today when my ex left after he spit in my face and told me to die. I am not and never have been a confrontational person. I hide in my room all day and cry. I don't even have a phone, too many viruses. I just called my carrier. I don't eat or sleep and told Bob in McDonald's that I have diarrhea, vomiting, and look 6 months pregnant at 99 pounds. I am not a baby and have survived a lot of pain, but this is too much for me to handle! He had the audacity to bring his dirty white whore here and went to a hotel. Like I told Bob in private, those who prey on the disabled, there is a place in hell for you! I am just a caged animal, trapped and abused, and he can do whatever he wants to me! I don't wish anyone sick or dead, but I do believe in karma. He will get his day! I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart and soul. If I don't respond, that means I can't. Love to you all, Coco.

Hi Coco,

We're all sorry we can't help more........sounds like you're in hell. Do you have any family (mom, dad, brother, sister, cousins) in this part of the country that can offer you some help? I'd say with the way you feel you should head to the nearest ER to get you straight, but when they discharge you where are you going to go? I'm curious.........when you call the hotlines listed below for the women's shelters near you (Washbourne House and Family of Woodstock)......what do they tell you? I'm trying to understand why they have a hotline if all they can do is put you on a waiting list?? Have you tried calling them recently? Just wondering.........sorry if you've already done all this. Do you want me to call them for you?

https://www.domesticshelters.org/help/ny/kingston

Regards,

Bob

Hi Coco,

Understood. South Philly, eh? The street vendors do sell great soft pretzels every morning........just sayin'. Seriously, have you posted over on www.ostodate.com? Not suggesting you should be looking for a date, but maybe someone over there living in either NY state or Philly might know of someplace cheap to rent, or be of more help than we've been. Just be clear that you're only looking for a friend and maybe you'll find a fellow ostomate in either of those areas that can help. Won't hurt to try, unless you've already been there and done that. And over here we'll keep thinking..........

Regards,

Bob