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PROFILE CHANGED PERMANENTLY

posted by Ritz
Jun 12, 2021 - Jun 24, 2021
  Many of you on here have peeked into my profile and my photos . Have you ever noticed the change in my profile status ? I have removed seeking a relationship and a travel partner for the reasons below. When I joined this fabulous site, I honestly had no idea that it was also a dating site . I did put relationship , but that didn’t mean to me seeking a mate .To me a relationship also means f...
Views: 1047   Replies: 26

Ughhhhhh

by Lotstolearn
Jul 12, 2021 - Jul 28, 2021
Yesterday was rough. Two blow outs. A lap full of sh*t twice. I thought I did it all right. Been down on myself for being stupid since that's obviously the issue. I've been trained in this why am I failning so miserably!?!?


I'm trying to pull bac...
192 views, 15 comments

Ostomy Memories Animal Love

posted by HenryM
Dec 03, 2020 - Dec 09, 2020
W. C. FIELDS WAS EXPRESSING an aversion for innocence when he said: “Anyone who hates children and animals can’t be all bad.” Fields unwittingly was touching upon the very reason that I like animals better than people: their inherent innocence. The company of a good dog or cat, in my experience, grows into a bond that is simply absent with most humans. Even watching a movie, one becomes inured ...
Views: 232   Replies: 16

COVID's not the worst of our problems...by a long shot.

posted by w30bob
Dec 10, 2020 - Jul 17, 2021
Hi Gang,   With all the discussions COVID is producing...........such as do masks work (current day Europe would indicate they do not)......who came up with 6' as the correct spacing for social distancing.......so 5'11" is unsafe....but 6' is fine???  Have you seen those ridiculous face shields they're selling that are open on all sides???  If you smoke....inhale and put your mask on in front ...
Views: 776   Replies: 23

How to deal with stress, depression or thinking you've got it bad.

posted by w30bob
Jul 08, 2021 - Jul 27, 2021
If that's you.....here's what you do.  Head over to your nearest Walmart........even if you need nothing or have no intention of spending a cent.  Walk into the appropriate clothing section for you.....and stand behind a rack of clothes that's facing the checkout lanes.  And just watch.  If you do that for 10 or 15 minutes I guarantee you will leave the store feeling better about yourself.  I d...
Views: 1635   Replies: 28

Ostomy Memories Titters Derisively

posted by HenryM
Sep 09, 2020 - Jan 03, 2021
It has recently come to my attention, on this very website, that some of you – people that I previously assumed were reasonable, serious people – have actually assigned human names to your stomas. Really?? You have named your stoma?? I’ve had this ileostomy since effin 1964, and it has never occurred to me to do such a thing. I must say, with all due respect, that I find this to be perhaps the ...
Views: 997   Replies: 34

I just figured something out ….

posted by Ritz
Jul 02, 2021 - Jul 04, 2021
       How to Have a Smokin' Hot Body  1 ...Have A Body  2- Go to Arizona  3- Walk from target to your car in the parking lot !!! hotter than hot for all body types , instantly 
Views: 253   Replies: 11

Get off my back

by Bill
Aug 03, 2019 - May 09, 2021
GET OFF MY BACK!


Bob recently reminded me
that folks with disability
can fall foul occasionally
of those who think judgementally.


These folks are often ignorant
of anything that’s different.
So, tend to be intolerant
of things which might be lacerant....
1031 views, 9 comments

You Might Be A Redneck- Round Two

posted by fdcaptain971
Jun 26, 2021 - Jun 27, 2021
A few of you commented that you would like to see some more of the "You Might Be A Redneck" (YMBAR) jokes. For those that missed the first round, this is my take on furthering the Jeff Foxworthy routine. As far as I know, these have mostly been born from the deep recesses of my mind. Oh well, hope you get a good laugh, a hearty guffaw, or even a mild chuckle out of these.  1.   If the manager ...
Views: 111   Replies: 6

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Welcome to all the newer ostomates!

posted by Mtnman
Jun 25, 2021 - Jul 11, 2021
  Every once and a while I'll notice some new people and I checked out latest members and wow there are a lot of new folks out there. So I want to say WELCOME! And glad your here.  You have found (I feel) the best ostomy website for support, answers, and truly genuine people who are all on the same journey. People just like you with real life experiences.  If you have questions about anything...
Views: 146   Replies: 6

Holiday

by Ea5ygoing
Jul 04, 2021
Hi all


I am off to Dornoch northern Highlands any ostamate up there first 2 weeks of August would be nice to meetup and chat over a coffee beer or meal


I am going with granddaughter and her mate so could do with someone to meet up with


Gordon



113 views, 0 comments

I Believe the World is Burning to the Ground

posted by dadnabbit
Oct 09, 2020 - Oct 29, 2020
So, we're being pretty quiet and cautious here about what has happened over the past four years and I fear that we have become a bit complacent, always assuming someone else is going to DO SOMETHING.  I have always believed opposing sides are capable of expressing their beliefs WITHOUT anger towards others' opinions.  However these past five years have proven me wrong. There has been NO attempt...
Views: 776   Replies: 21

The English Language

posted by delgrl525
Oct 02, 2020 - Apr 10, 2021
Hello All, I love the english language. I love that there are so many different ways to express one thought. I love that the process of putting one's thoughts down can be an art in itself. I can't even pretend to be in the same class as some of the talented and learned wordsmiths who inhabit this site (you know who you are) but you inspire me every day and I have fun with it. To that end I wan...
Views: 1240   Replies: 56

Others Understanding Your Invisible Illness - Re-Post

by suzielebrocq
May 18, 2021 - May 19, 2021
Public washrooms are a struggle for many of us at the best of times. Since COVID-19, and with regulations about how many women can be in a washroom at a time (including standing in line), there is added pressure to an already stressful process.



...
152 views, 1 comments

Revision surgery

by Chiquis
Jun 04, 2021 - Jul 05, 2021
I am considering surgery to have my illestomy removed. I would like to know from others who have done this if it was successful or unsuccessful and problems that may have occurred. Thank you

290 views, 10 comments

Stoma location - High or Low

by Prvt-Idaho
Jul 15, 2012 - May 13, 2021
Hello all,

Do any any of you have the stoma directly across from your belly button?

How in this world do you all get rid of the hair around the stoma?

I look forward to the information any of you can provide.
7632 views, 51 comments

Gas

posted by Puppyluv56
May 11, 2021 - May 13, 2021
Hi all,  Soooo, living on the East coast is a bonus most times but due to the Cybercrime on the Colonial Pupeline, there is no gas to be had here. Not sure about the rest of the states on the east coast but I was lucky to be able to fill up last night. Normally would not have gone out on my car but met my husband for dinner so afterwards, seeing I only had 40 or so miles on the tank, I decided...
Views: 274   Replies: 9

Ostomy Memories of Smoking

posted by HenryM
Aug 17, 2020 - Jul 22, 2021
Whatever it was that I did, or failed to do, that brought upon me the ulcerative colitis, determining what it was seemed to mystify the doctors that I saw. It’s psychosomatic, several of them announced. As far as I was concerned, given the pain that I was in, I put that diagnosis on a par with the Monty Python knight who, having just had his arm wacked off, kept insisting that it was “just a fl...
Views: 904   Replies: 24

The Single Ostomate

by suzielebrocq
May 27, 2021 - May 30, 2021
The Single Ostomate



If you are single, you have a bit more of a challenge. Dating is hard enough when you have little or nothing serious in your past. But now, you have a medical past that has affected your body, mind and spirit. It can take some...
928 views, 9 comments

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Stop feeling discouraged … and remember why you have it. - Re-Post

by suzielebrocq
May 18, 2021 - May 20, 2021
My bag bought its challenges. But in reality, it's stopped me from dying several times. That on its own made it absolutely amazing.



It had its off days, but we all do. It's leaked at the worst possible times (during sex, at a funeral), it made ...
160 views, 1 comments

GRATITUDE

by Bill
Nov 02, 2016 - Jul 11, 2021
GRATITUDE.


The worst of times has got to be
when first you find your ostomy.
You can no longer hide away
it’s on your side and there to stay.


It shakes you to the very core
and makes you feel that you deplore
the very thing that helped you to
avoid th...
3823 views, 265 comments

Faith, Hope and Charity

by iMacG5
Oct 20, 2020 - Jul 03, 2021
So what’s it all about? Most of us are born, live any number of years, then we die. So what’s it mean? Did we take someone else’s place? Will someone take our place? Was it mostly fun? Was some of it too difficult or was it a breeze? Some are born...
556 views, 12 comments

Ostomy Memories of the Future

posted by HenryM
Sep 22, 2020 - Oct 26, 2020
“When did the future switch,” wrote Chuck Palahniuk in Invisible Monsters, “from being a promise to being a threat?” That’s exactly the state of affairs into which the USA has been led by the dishonest, corrupt, incompetent, Twitter-souled Donald Trump. We face today the certainty of chaos in November, attended by rightwing violence, and it appears there is nothing that anyone can do to foresta...
Views: 437   Replies: 19

Ostomy Memories of Dreams

posted by HenryM
Sep 06, 2020 - Oct 05, 2020
On a shelf just above my head sits a brand-new copy of THE INTERPRETATION OF DREAMS by Sigmund Freud. It has rested there for months and I’ve yet to muster the courage necessary to pull it down and start to read it. Of course, some night dreams are fairly obvious. If you’re having dreams of committing acts of deviate sex, or violence against others, then I highly recommend that you see a mental...
Views: 442   Replies: 19

Bob's new look

posted by lovely
Jan 25, 2021 - Mar 18, 2021
hey Bob I see you have a new hat I like it and that looks like a nice coat for keeping warm taking care of the aminals, Best wishes and stay safe
Views: 331   Replies: 27

ACCOMPLICES

by Bill
Feb 05, 2020 - May 09, 2021
ACCOMPLICES.


The Paterson enquiry has
damned the medics this time, whereas,
in the past they’ve covered up
and never really looked close-up.


This profession has been the pits
for supporting callous twits
who clearly have little regard
for what goes ...
452 views, 4 comments

Better today

by Lotstolearn
Jul 14, 2021 - Jul 15, 2021
Hello folks. These last couple days have been full of activity. Home health care nurses have been by to assess,. Got out of the house to get my t3.... What an adventure, and what a garbage system. Insurance really is not an assurance of anything h...
133 views, 8 comments

Wounded But Not Broken

by suzielebrocq
Jun 25, 2021 - Jul 04, 2021
Sometimes my fallibility and humanness catch me unaware. Being chronically sick for so long, was such a source of shame that at times I don’t allow myself to feel. It is only when my body says ‘enough’ that my brain follows suit and recognizes it ...
496 views, 9 comments

IT'S GOOD TO TALK

by Bill
Nov 01, 2011 - Jul 13, 2021

IT’S GOOD TO TALK.



Whilst I was at work today.

I met a man along the way.

He did so want to talk to me.

And tell me of his ostomy.



Because this man is wheelchair bound.

Few proper listeners can be found.

Most people do not h...
3222 views, 29 comments

Membership Reflection

by Primeboy
Jan 19, 2014 - Jun 04, 2021

I just renewed my membership in Ostomates and am starting my fourth year here.This transaction led me to reflect a bit on the value of this community to me personally.



I am sure many of you feel, as I do, that we arefortunateto havethis sup...
2026 views, 23 comments

This is a non-political post

posted by kmedup
Dec 30, 2020 - Jan 13, 2021
The year 2020 has been an unpredictable ride through world politics, the pandemic, numerous protests and many more difficulties that had made living life quite hard for most. Let us embrace 2021 with much-needed hope and happiness. Just, K.  




Views: 418   Replies: 21

National Nude Day!

posted by Maried
Jul 14, 2021
Today is National Nude Day.. enjoy !
Views: 230   Replies: 6

When this is over ...

posted by kmedup
Oct 28, 2020 - Nov 03, 2020
When this is over may we never take for granted: A handshake with a stranger Full shelves at the store Conversations with neighbors A crowded theatre Friday night out A routine checkup The school or work rush every morning Coffee with a friend The stadium roaring Each deep breath Life itself When this ends may we find: That we have become more like the people We wanted to be We h...
Views: 652   Replies: 25

Anniversaries

by Bill
Jul 17, 2021
ANNIVERSARIES.


As anniversaries I fear
roll regularly round each year,
they tend to make me pause awhile
to ponder if they are worthwhile.


Are they for me to celebrate,
or are they there for me to hate?
For they are just another way
to contemplate tha...
223 views, 3 comments

Stop focusing on ‘just’ surviving and start thriving - Re-Post

by suzielebrocq
May 18, 2021 - May 19, 2021
Changing our behavior is difficult. If it was easy, we wouldn’t find ourselves making the same New Year’s resolutions year after year. Starting diets and falling off them within weeks. Picking up our mood and then feeling down the following week, ...
154 views, 1 comments

I Don't Want to Live Like This

by tessa
Nov 04, 2019 - Jun 03, 2021
I hate my urostomy. When I found out the doctor removed my bladder for a little 0.6 superficial nodule without a root and the rest of my bladder was totally clear, I realized he lied to me. How could a cancer doctor do this. I want him investigate...
743 views, 10 comments

May - Date Your Mate Month

by suzielebrocq
May 18, 2021 - May 23, 2021
So May is National Date Your Mate month.


Did you know that? Me neither.


Sometimes I look around the web for special holidays, national days, days in history and such for funny, obscure or interesting ideas for date posts.


Well in doing this rec...
478 views, 3 comments

Why do people have to ask that sex question?

by DH
Oct 16, 2012 - Jun 18, 2021

I have had several people ask if my ostomy affects my sex life? What they are really asking is does wearing a sh!t bag turn your husband off? I guess it's normal curiosity. But I feel like telling them it's none of their buisness. Of course the...
11676 views, 86 comments

Accepting Your New Normal - Re-Post

by suzielebrocq
May 18, 2021 - May 19, 2021
Sooner or later, most of us arrive at a point where life seems to have become too big to cope with. Most people don’t know this about me, but I hit rock bottom a number of times during my illness, and I struggled to understand and make sense of my...
189 views, 1 comments

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