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I have a bend in my legs from spinal meningitis at ten months of age. I learned how to walk the way that I and it's never really held me back. Thank you to everyone for your kind and thoughtful words about my previous posts. There's a special place in my heart, spirit and soul, that belongs to this ever wonderful community. Your struggles, your triumphs, your courage, your compassion, your ins ...

An early 20th century stereo view (3D photo) of a tourist and guide at the Great Wall of China. You can see this in 3D by "Free Viewing" (a technique where you train each eye to isolate and see the corresponding image). There are easy ways to learn how on the web.

I’m a Stones girl, a major blues fan, and plenty in between so I make great use of my APRS (Audio Pain Reduction System).
But now that Stanley is hanging around all the time, a few of my faves hit me in a totally different way. I’m sharing the most recently altered from a song that’s actually a commentary on current events.
What kinds of music do you enjoy and what songs haven’t remai ...

Hi everyone, I am making a Christmas Stocking for my stoma who's name is "Stomy". You may think I am crazy, but I talk to my Stomy every day. I am going to stuff his stocking with stoma supplies to make him feel the spirit of the Holidays. I had a cat and she died 2 years ago and I still put up her Christmas Stocking and fill it with a note for her telling her that I hope she is ok and I will ...

Hi again from the North of England
I thought i would start a thread to see what you are all enjoying watching.. sharing info about good television programmes and movies.
I'm currently loving the new series called Pluribus.. it's very well written. The main premise is that a signal is heard from space.. when it's played it 'infects' everyone on earth apart from around 14 individuals that are so ...

Hello guys,
Thanks for having me. I’m after some advice as I’ve not been to a spar before let alone with my bag. Any tips on keeping my bag stuck to me? Thanks in advance x

I grew up in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan and one of the things about living in the "frozen tundra" was that a number of my friends were over the top when it came to doing crazy things on the water in the summer and the freezing cold in the winter. This guy carries it a bit further than my winter camping buddies did. I lived in Marquette for a few years and learned to respect Lake Superior. ...

Hi my names Rachael I’m 48 i have a gothic side to myself I have 23 tattoos and fell asleep getting 2 of them done I live alone if you would like to chat come say hi I’m also very open and honest about myself some people call it over sharing but I have to be as I have things that can’t be missed lol and no I’m not a pirate

How as the dating scene been for everyone else yes including sex I had a partner before my operation but after the operation some vile vile words came out of his mouth I won’t go into detail and bore everyone but it knocked my self confidence and the way I looked at myself I’m now very wary of letting someone else see me in a sexual way

Hi,
First post on here so, please be gentle. I was wondering, has anyone found a way of keeping that darn bag out of the way when they are having one of their most intimate moments? I've used techniques such as holding it under a t-shirt, etc... What do you do? It just plain can get in the way sometimes...
Thanks in advance.

IT IS AXIOMATIC that old age generates nostalgia. I recognize that there are times when I find myself thinking fondly of the so-called ‘good old days.’ We all suffer our sentimental moments of reflection when wistfully recalling a past time in our lives that calls up fond personal associations. My good fortune was growing up in the Fifties, an idyllic time also known as ‘the Eisenhower y ...

The place: Movie theater next to South Coast Plaza.
The movie: A classic... Grease
The crime: Popcorn... medium bag.
Stoma be damned...
Pray for his bag...

Hi. I had joined a few weeks ago but I deleted my account. I’m really struggling mentally with my stoma.

KIND PASTIMES & WIN-WINS.
Kind people are attracted to
the sorts of things that people do
where nobody will sense a loss
and nobody’s viewed as a boss.
Within the win and loss type game,
it seems to be a crying shame
that there is always someone who
seemingly has less value.
So, kind folk go for positions
where there are no competitions,
and people help each other to
achieve the things they ...

When I look back on everything I went through since I started on this ostomy journey I have to laugh. Not saying I still don't get a little overwhelmed with what I went through. 13 surgeries, several abscesses and MRSA will do that to you. But I tend to focus on the funny side of it. I can tell you the exact moment I lost all dignity and nothing would ever bother me from that point on, and yes ...

So, this morning I was on the expressway after meeting a friend for brunch, and my bag started to leak at 70 mph. As I reached into my glove box, I thought "You might be an ostomate if...you carry chuck pads in your car!". Anyone else have any ostomate signs?!

I am looking for a few female who is not afraid of being intimate with someone who has an ostomy.

Hi it's Jennifer today in Australia our government implemented a ban on social media ban for children under 16, including tik tok, YouTube, Instagram, a total of 12 platforms in total. This ban is an effort to cut down online bullying, scamming, unrealistic expectations from influencers, deep fake blackmail etc. Understandably kids will start working their way around it, but this is an evolvin ...

Master of art, science, and boozing... It's Flabby. Let's see what da Postman delivered this week.
Dear Frumpy, I had a strange occurrence last week. My hubby, Willard, brought home another vintage vinyl record for his collection of 60's Folk music. Just between you an I... I'm not a fan. Willard couldn't wait to "toss on" that old album and fire up the HiFi. Was Simon & Garfunkel's "The Sound ...

SOME PEOPLE JUST HAVE TOO MUCH MONEY. The list of well-known celebs with over-the-top car collections is lengthy. Many own multiple exotic and pricey cars that cost so much most people couldn’t afford the gas for one of them. Why would someone own two Ferraris, a Bentley, a Rolls Royce, and a Jaguar? (Simon Cowell) Who needs 100 cars? (Floyd Mayweather) The list of car collectors includes Je ...

Need to try and be more active in the social aspects of life, but find it such a struggle........but today I managed to get to a reggae festival for a couple of hours.

Hello everyone,

My name is Shirley and im new here. Just wanted to say a big hello.

Every morning when I enjoy my big cup of coffee I scroll through this site and this warm feeling just overwhelms me.
I never post anything (too shy and it feels like I don’t have anything of interest to share tbh) but I sure read a lot of posts from you guys and they are so informative, supportive encouraging and so so full of love and a big dose of humor.
I feel like part of the best fami ...

LONE WATIE, THE INDIAN PLAYED BY Chief Dan George in the great western “The Outlaw Josey Wales,” had an unforgettable line: “Endeavor to persevere.” In other words, keep trying. Be persistent. Keep on keeping on. That’s exactly what I’m presently doing by trying, with the limited amount of enthusiasm that I’m able to muster, to like salad. It’s supposed to be healthy, and I can ...

KIND PASTIMES – ALMOST ANYTHING.
Looking through the many pastimes
to include in ‘kindness’ rhymes,
it’s not been how one might expect
in every facet and aspect.
Because in every pastime there
are some people that seem to care,
then there are those who do kind deeds
which cater to some selfish needs.
Some only do kind deeds each year,
perhaps as Christmas time draws near,
then when t ...

WHEN YOUR WORK REQUIRES YOU to use a computer, but that computer misbehaves, your Information Technology (IT) gurus explain that it was “a glitch,” which is the standard description any IT professional provides as an explanation when things go haywire.
The Internet’s the favorite of the mob, I’d say, / And life’s a bitch. / But never fear, IT is on the job: / “It’s just a glitch ...

I forgot how much dogs love to go into the bathroom with you ... I mean, ALL the time.

I'm currently pet-sitting a good friend's senior dog that is now deaf. Hand signals, treats, and loving strokes used to be the only ways to her heart.

UNTIL she discovered that I didn't close the bathroom door all the way ... after all, it was just the two of us in the house, right?

Well, now after s ...

Some ostomates have revealed here that their partners left them after ostomy surgery. Mostly women, fewer men. A 2009 US study of people with cancer and multiple sclerosis found that 20.8% of the female survivors ended up divorced or separated, while only 2.9% of the men did. A Texas lawyer: "As a divorce lawyer, I can tell you that when sickness comes, a lot of men don't stick around. They lo ...

Hi all, I am new to the site thought it would be a good place to get advice and meet people who have lived through what I have just started!
I had emergency surgery to remove my colon after a several week fight with Ulcerative colitis and like many of you awoke to this new strange addition to my life.
I am 1 week out of hospital after being in for 4 weeks, lost 16.5Kg from a fit 70Kg down to ...

KIND OR UNKIND – WHO’S TO TELL?
How can we know when someone’s kind?
How can we tell what’s on their mind?
How can we differentiate
between what may be love or hate?
Unless we read what’s in their mind,
there’s no way we can tell they’re kind,
for motive’s what we need to know
and motives often do not show.
Kindnesses should at least consist
of those people being honest,
with m ...

was wondering if anyone here has “heard” or even “seen” a blues band called?..

“Holy Groove”

https://youtube.com/@holygrooveofficial?si=WQiBPa_n-x5ryhD5

..i’m not even sure if they gig!

i’m in the UK, am a practicing Christian, a lover of all music and..

cannot stop listening to to theirs as specially “Ecclesiastes in Blues” :-)

apologies, i’m a newbie here a ...

Hello everyone! I'm a 63 year old mom to 3 adult kids, i got my ileostomy done May 2024, so its been quite the year adjusting. I am STILL overwhelmed and often lost feeling alone. I have my kids to support me but they need to live their lives too. I have a parastomal hernia, that keeps getting bigger and no one can give me an answer on how to fix or maintain it. I am hoping to find love and su ...

Howdy Everybody,
I've had my colostomy since last December.I'm very appreciative to be here.
Looking forward to learning more about my new digestive system from somebody that's already been through it.
Txcateyes

I love to fish . And I love serving God . And like to play cards. I have been married for 48 years and have 5 wonderful grandchildren..

KIND OR UNKIND CHOICES.
(HEALTH CARE)
I listen hard to people’s voice,
for what they say may show a choice
between what is kind or unkind
within the workings of their mind.
In the past, I have more fully
written rhymes about the bully,
who, of course, I’d always find
were the ones who were unkind.
But nowadays, I seek out those
who have deliberately chosen
to think kind thoughts and do ...

G-Day Ostermates,
Just thought I would introduce you to a Tiger Snake that I nearly stepped on.
It turned into a good photo shoot.
Regards IGGIE

Hey all!! Hope you're all well and had a great year!
It's Christmas time again and everyone seems to be in a rush, no time to look around or have a moment to appreciate just being alive.
I can say I've finally taken a moment today, I've been to the Christmas market in Birmingham (UK) and loved it.
I'm not a Christmasy person but it can be pretty. Also the food is just
As you can see by my bri ...

I' m hetty and i live in co.mayo but be born in the netherlands i'm now 17 years in irland whit my husband .i have a ostomy sinds 3 years and last year they remove my left kidney but but i'm fine.my hobby's crafting card making embrodery crochet and my horses on same weekends we still staying whit oure chipvan to events.

All right everyone, let’s have a little fun… I am curious if anyone else has named their stoma. Mine practically demanded to be named with all the talking, sass, and backtalk it makes.
So I am asking everyone what do you call your stoma?
My stoma is called Kraken, because it has emerged from the depths.
Let’s see those names!

THERE ISN’T ANYONE on this website who hasn’t benefitted from the professional experience and expertise of a nurse. I would go so far as to say that there have been occasions when I relied more on a nurse’s knowledge than that of the attending physician. A nurse is a living example of the combined value of formal schooling and practical experience. So I was both surprised and disgusted w ...

Hello. My name is Lydia Eva and I am from Manila Philippines. I am a mother of a 2nd yr nursing scholar and the sole caregiver of my husband whi has global aphasia. I was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis in 2003, and was operated for diverticulitis in the same year. But after the procedure the unbelievable pain in my stomach and midsection got even worse, coupled by big stomatitis, i dropped ...

I am less than a month past surgery and need all the tips I can get. having real problems with my wafer sticking to my skin more than 24 hours.

KIND LANGUAGE.
Within the languages we use
there’s words and phrases we can choose
to portray the way we feel
and our attitudes reveal.
The sort of things that spring to mind
when we think of being kind,
are all those things that help someone
to cope with life and get things done.
Words spoken in encouragement
and those that are benevolent,
will indicate one’s thoughtfulness,
kind rega ...

These are the Horoscopes for the week of December 8, 2025
https://youtube.com/shorts/6IMaSSQAxfQ?si=PGGRAaUH3rlbxeZY

My happy retirement days of lounging on the couch have ended. Mrs B innocently asked me earlier this week to hang a string of Christmas lights behind the garage. Eager to "git er done" and return to the comforts of couch potato life... I broke out the ladder and made quick work of this domestic task. Just as I snuggled back into the cushions.... She... was back. In her hands... more damn light ...

Happy Monday guys. Lovely to connect with you and learn from your posts -holy moly this is a steep learning curve !
I apologise in advance for such a gloomy introductory message. I'm usually a bubbly, happy and positive person but my recent life has literally been a sh*tshow.
I'm 11 weeks post emergency ileostomy and split from my partner who I was living with last week. It took me a while to ...

WHEN I SAY “THINGS” I’m talking about items, not ideas, objects that don’t draw breath, inanimate constructs. This occurred to me on my walk this morning when I happened past an old bar-b-que grill that someone had put out by the road to be picked up by the trash collector. I thought, AHA, a dead grill, but then I corrected that description. How can it be dead if it was never actually ...

Just wanted to say hi. Only just registered here. I had emergency surgery in February this year after a severe bout of colitis. They tried treating it with antibiotics for 3 days then things turned much worse so they ended up doing an emergency ileostomy.
I'm hoping to get to know you all and get some advice etc.
Hope that you are all as well as can be today.
Tony

I'm curious — has anyone here been pregnant with a stoma? How did it go? Was it extra challenging, or just another one of those “figure it out as you go” adventures?
My main worries are the usual suspects: keeping up the energy, the growing belly changing how the appliance fits (because my stoma already has a mind of its own!), and the whole idea of being pregnant after being sick for ...

Dear Flabagale,
I have a problem and it's bad,
Bringing me down and making me sad.
But tis the season to be jolly,
With trees alight, and lots of holly.
They say there is no room at the inn,
But that's the problem - there's no room in my bin!
Full of pouches and lots of sh17,
But bin men on strike and my maid has quit.
Oh Flabagale, do help, what should I do?
Have to go now, coz I need the loo ...