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Hi again from the North of England
I thought i would start a thread to see what you are all enjoying watching.. sharing info about good television programmes and movies.
I'm currently loving the new series called Pluribus.. it's very well written. The main premise is that a signal is heard from space.. when it's played it 'infects' everyone on earth apart from around 14 individuals that are so ...

LONE WATIE, THE INDIAN PLAYED BY Chief Dan George in the great western “The Outlaw Josey Wales,” had an unforgettable line: “Endeavor to persevere.” In other words, keep trying. Be persistent. Keep on keeping on. That’s exactly what I’m presently doing by trying, with the limited amount of enthusiasm that I’m able to muster, to like salad. It’s supposed to be healthy, and I can ...

Some ostomates have revealed here that their partners left them after ostomy surgery. Mostly women fewer men. A 2009 US study of people with cancer and multiple sclerosis found that 20.8% of the female survivors ended up divorced or separated while only 2.9% of the men did. A Texas lawyer: "As a divorce lawyer I can tell you that when sickness comes a lot of men don't stick around. They loved ...

KIND OR UNKIND CHOICES.
(HEALTH CARE)
I listen hard to people’s voice,
for what they say may show a choice
between what is kind or unkind
within the workings of their mind.
In the past, I have more fully
written rhymes about the bully,
who, of course, I’d always find
were the ones who were unkind.
But nowadays, I seek out those
who have deliberately chosen
to think kind thoughts and do ...

G-Day Ostermates,
Just thought I would introduce you to a Tiger Snake that I nearly stepped on.
It turned into a good photo shoot.
Regards IGGIE

Howdy Everybody,
I've had my colostomy since last December.I'm very appreciative to be here.
Looking forward to learning more about my new digestive system from somebody that's already been through it.
Txcateyes

SOME PEOPLE JUST HAVE TOO MUCH MONEY. The list of well-known celebs with over-the-top car collections is lengthy. Many own multiple exotic and pricey cars that cost so much most people couldn’t afford the gas for one of them. Why would someone own two Ferraris, a Bentley, a Rolls Royce, and a Jaguar? (Simon Cowell) Who needs 100 cars? (Floyd Mayweather) The list of car collectors includes Je ...

Hey all!! Hope you're all well and had a great year!
It's Christmas time again and everyone seems to be in a rush, no time to look around or have a moment to appreciate just being alive.
I can say I've finally taken a moment today, I've been to the Christmas market in Birmingham (UK) and loved it.
I'm not a Christmasy person but it can be pretty. Also the food is just
As you can see by my bri ...

I' m hetty and i live in co.mayo but be born in the netherlands i'm now 17 years in irland whit my husband .i have a ostomy sinds 3 years and last year they remove my left kidney but but i'm fine.my hobby's crafting card making embrodery crochet and my horses on same weekends we still staying whit oure chipvan to events.

All right everyone, let’s have a little fun… I am curious if anyone else has named their stoma. Mine practically demanded to be named with all the talking, sass, and backtalk it makes.
So I am asking everyone what do you call your stoma?
My stoma is called Kraken, because it has emerged from the depths.
Let’s see those names!

THERE ISN’T ANYONE on this website who hasn’t benefitted from the professional experience and expertise of a nurse. I would go so far as to say that there have been occasions when I relied more on a nurse’s knowledge than that of the attending physician. A nurse is a living example of the combined value of formal schooling and practical experience. So I was both surprised and disgusted w ...

An 18th Century (Likely English) Microscope / Flea Glass in turned ivory.

Hi everyone, I am making a Christmas Stocking for my stoma who's name is "Stomy". You may think I am crazy, but I talk to my Stomy every day. I am going to stuff his stocking with stoma supplies to make him feel the spirit of the Holidays. I had a cat and she died 2 years ago and I still put up her Christmas Stocking and fill it with a note for her telling her that I hope she is ok and I will ...

Hello. My name is Lydia Eva and I am from Manila Philippines. I am a mother of a 2nd yr nursing scholar and the sole caregiver of my husband whi has global aphasia. I was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis in 2003, and was operated for diverticulitis in the same year. But after the procedure the unbelievable pain in my stomach and midsection got even worse, coupled by big stomatitis, i dropped ...

I am less than a month past surgery and need all the tips I can get. having real problems with my wafer sticking to my skin more than 24 hours.

KIND LANGUAGE.
Within the languages we use
there’s words and phrases we can choose
to portray the way we feel
and our attitudes reveal.
The sort of things that spring to mind
when we think of being kind,
are all those things that help someone
to cope with life and get things done.
Words spoken in encouragement
and those that are benevolent,
will indicate one’s thoughtfulness,
kind rega ...

These are the Horoscopes for the week of December 8, 2025
https://youtube.com/shorts/6IMaSSQAxfQ?si=PGGRAaUH3rlbxeZY

My happy retirement days of lounging on the couch have ended. Mrs B innocently asked me earlier this week to hang a string of Christmas lights behind the garage. Eager to "git er done" and return to the comforts of couch potato life... I broke out the ladder and made quick work of this domestic task. Just as I snuggled back into the cushions.... She... was back. In her hands... more damn light ...

So, this morning I was on the expressway after meeting a friend for brunch, and my bag started to leak at 70 mph. As I reached into my glove box, I thought "You might be an ostomate if...you carry chuck pads in your car!". Anyone else have any ostomate signs?!

Happy Monday guys. Lovely to connect with you and learn from your posts -holy moly this is a steep learning curve !
I apologise in advance for such a gloomy introductory message. I'm usually a bubbly, happy and positive person but my recent life has literally been a sh*tshow.
I'm 11 weeks post emergency ileostomy and split from my partner who I was living with last week. It took me a while to ...

WHEN I SAY “THINGS” I’m talking about items, not ideas, objects that don’t draw breath, inanimate constructs. This occurred to me on my walk this morning when I happened past an old bar-b-que grill that someone had put out by the road to be picked up by the trash collector. I thought, AHA, a dead grill, but then I corrected that description. How can it be dead if it was never actually ...

Just wanted to say hi. Only just registered here. I had emergency surgery in February this year after a severe bout of colitis. They tried treating it with antibiotics for 3 days then things turned much worse so they ended up doing an emergency ileostomy.
I'm hoping to get to know you all and get some advice etc.
Hope that you are all as well as can be today.
Tony

I'm curious — has anyone here been pregnant with a stoma? How did it go? Was it extra challenging, or just another one of those “figure it out as you go” adventures?
My main worries are the usual suspects: keeping up the energy, the growing belly changing how the appliance fits (because my stoma already has a mind of its own!), and the whole idea of being pregnant after being sick for ...

Hello everyone! I'm a 63 year old mom to 3 adult kids, i got my ileostomy done May 2024, so its been quite the year adjusting. I am STILL overwhelmed and often lost feeling alone. I have my kids to support me but they need to live their lives too. I have a parastomal hernia, that keeps getting bigger and no one can give me an answer on how to fix or maintain it. I am hoping to find love and su ...

Hi all, I am new to the site thought it would be a good place to get advice and meet people who have lived through what I have just started!
I had emergency surgery to remove my colon after a several week fight with Ulcerative colitis and like many of you awoke to this new strange addition to my life.
I am 1 week out of hospital after being in for 4 weeks, lost 16.5Kg from a fit 70Kg down to ...

Dear Flabagale,
I have a problem and it's bad,
Bringing me down and making me sad.
But tis the season to be jolly,
With trees alight, and lots of holly.
They say there is no room at the inn,
But that's the problem - there's no room in my bin!
Full of pouches and lots of sh17,
But bin men on strike and my maid has quit.
Oh Flabagale, do help, what should I do?
Have to go now, coz I need the loo ...

USP - WAIT, WHAT! Not the postal service?

Surprise, surprise….how do I not already know this?!!!
“We are too soon old and too late smart.” This is often in reference that by midlife, we come to a realization that we know very little about the world”. Jon Douglas
Perhaps, Jon, I am just now realizing, this fact in my 80’s !
I find it is so difficult staying in tune to today’s wor ...

I have an ostomy a year ago..:I feel sad because i dont know if its going to be reversible yet…I feel alone and sad most of the time…I dont want to share this with my friends and need someone to talk about it all

I’m a 76 year old woman and I had emergency surgery at the end of July and woke up to a ileostomy and a vertical appliance. I’m still trying to find this best appliance to wear and position. My incision wasn’t healing properly so I had a debridement on Halloween and woke up to the appliance being horizontal. I found that position comfortable but extremely difficult to empty. I later watc ...

Here are 3 more I put together...
Boy, they look a bit moth eaten lol naughty Paint Shop Pro!

Dateline: Huntington Beach
Local authorities are considering a ban on movie theater popcorn sales to well known Ostemate, Beachboy.
Sewer systems around the city suffered massive stoppages last week.
It's alleged, against common sense and civic responsibility, the "boy" munched a large tub of this forbidden delicacy at a local movie house. A day later...... sewers began to malfunction and oper ...

Dateline: Huntington Beach, CA
MaO ace reporter Warrior details the gastro adventure of Ostemate, Beachboy. Deciding to "throw caution to the wind" he consumed a jumbo popcorn and a rather large soft pretzel with mustard at a local movie house. Warriors report: The day after.
To ensure this gripping story is more "real," sound effects and commentary will be added in parentheses.
Reached at his ...

Credible reports are pouring in about the recent disappearance of Ostemate BeachBoy. Last seen entering a honky tonk bar with Noodles Malone and Flabby. In the hours since.... BeachBoy has vanished. Noodles and Flabby denied comment and remain, tight lipped. Concerned fans around the world held protests demanding: FIND HIM.
To maintain social equilibrium, BeachBoy AI has been released. The aut ...

Telling em, like she see's em.... Our gal pal with the gift of gab and blab... it's Flabby time.
Dear fabulous Flabby,
I'm a silver fox with a petite ileostomy and just passed menopause. My hubby Herbert, bless his heart, still wants to get frisky between the sheets, if you know what I mean. But I had to tell him, "Honey bunch, all that huffin' and puffin' is wearing me out. I need a little lu ...

Ahoy Osties! Weasel here. Beachturd is sacked out on the couch. Opportunity knocks!! I catnapped his cellphone. Time....now..... for.... revenge.
This morning is a glaring example of abuse I suffer; I'm expecting a full bowl of kibbles. What do I get? A half bowl!! What am I?? An alley cat!
Then I curled up on the couch for some shuteye, got comfy... And Beachdufus starts petting me! What do ...

With a deft touch and soothing wit... its Flabby. Let's peruse this week's letter.
Dear Flabagale,
Oh! Do I have a dilemma! I'm a 22 year old lady with a dainty colostomy. I live with my mom, Gertrude, in a small, old house.
Yesterday I met friends for lunch at Ticcky Taco. Normally I demure from eating beans. But, Flab... they looked yummy. I couldn't resist.
That night mom & I were streamin ...

This is the conclusion of this 4 part tale of envy, a shadowy fortune teller, and the old saying: "Don't wish for something too much, ya just might get it."
Sidney Bloodworth awoke in a warm comfortable bed, a little sore from the softness. Staring at the ceiling, he tried to make sense of where he was, and what the heck happened. One minute he was snoozing in his alley.. then poof! Here.
Plum ...

Just back home to Bournemouth, England on Wednesday, 8th November '23 after a 17-day holiday trip to Tokyo, Yokohama, and Osaka, Japan, and Bangkok, Thailand, and via Shanghai both ways for my flight stopovers, but only 4 hours each time.
Been with my stoma for nearly 30 years, called Stumpy, like a tree stump, all over the world and maybe it's just me, but I've never had any problems with any ...

Advice for the lovelorn and just plain stupid... Flabby at yer service. Looking through the mail bag, this one with the stamp upside down caught my gimlet eye.
Dearest Flabby gal,
I met the most wonderful man. Winston is tall, handsome. Mild manned and sexy as a Ferrari. Zoom..Zoom! Oooh I can't believe my eyes and luck. He's even good about Blondie, my ileostomy.
Last week he asked how I deal ...

I've had my ileostomy for 3 years after a bout with colorectal cancer twice. I was interested in meeting people in the same situation that I'm in. I'm curious about how people date with in Illinois and how people treat them knowing this.

Why Care?

You say “You don’t know me, so why would you care?”

Because, in a sense, we ARE one
In our own ways we face the same challenges
loss, heartbreak, insecurity, loneliness, more

and at times
we feel the need for someone
to approach our darkness
at just the right moment
bringing with them the Light of Caring
and Hope
and Unhesitating Friendship
as if a gift from God

We are ...

THERE AREN’T MANY THINGS in my home office, not counting the memorabilia displayed upon the walls. The simpler I can keep my life these days the better, as complications only serve to make my peaceful retirement, um, complicated. So, I have an L-shaped desk with shelves over it and a desk chair. For those days when I have spent too much time sitting, I have an antique stand-up desk (where I ...

Cruising to the beach after our "torrential" rainstorm. At least that's how our local news put it Visibility was cowabunga!
Ocean Channel next to my house. Favorite hangout of birds and shopping carts.
Coots scooting by a submerged cart.
Conviently located across Pacific Coast Highway from the beach.Santa waiting for a customer at Pacific City outdoor mall.
Catalina Island
Seldom seen, j ...

KIND GESTURES 7. (keeping going)
I’d like now to compile a rhyme
to capture this moment in time,
when most of us are in lockdown
and ‘normal’ things are upside down.
I’d like to pay a tribute to
those folks who work to help us through,
for without them, things could be worse
and I might be riding in that hearse.
Doctors, nurses and ancillaries,
all acting as auxiliaries
and standing b ...

GRETA GARBO ALWAYS MAINTAINED that her most famous quote – “I want to be alone.” – was a misquote. She claimed that what she actually said was: “I want to be let alone.” Being a famous person with worldwide recognition, she was likely tired of the constant inconvenience of harping reporters, photographers, and fans. But even those of us without fame appreciate quiet times alone wit ...

Hi

first time on this site.
I have had my Ileostomy for 7 months now. My stoma usually expands and contracts throughout the day. We have had hot humid weather and I have had blow out after blow out from adhesive failure. The upper part is still expanding and retracting, but the lower part has stopped retracting since the heat, making bag changes challenging. I am trying to stay in the air ...

Hello everyone,

My name is Shirley and im new here. Just wanted to say a big hello.

When I look back on everything I went through since I started on this ostomy journey I have to laugh. Not saying I still don't get a little overwhelmed with what I went through. 13 surgeries, several abscesses and MRSA will do that to you. But I tend to focus on the funny side of it. I can tell you the exact moment I lost all dignity and nothing would ever bother me from that point on, and yes ...

WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT IT, living into one’s eighties is really an amazing accomplishment. I just turned 83 and I never expected to make it this far. I suppose I’m like Yossarian in Joseph Heller’s great novel Catch 22. “He wondered often how he would ever recognize the first chill, flush, twinge, ache, belch, sneeze, stain, lethargy, vocal slip, loss of balance or lapse of memory tha ...

I'm feeling proud of this exotic looking vegetable that I just harvested from my garden. Anyone grown one of these before? When I bought the seedling, it was labelled 'cauliflower', but I don't think so! It seems to be a variety of broccoflower. Steamed some, then served it with a little butter and fresh squeeze of lemon, delicious! Sort of like cauliflower, but sweeter. I've got ...