Hi, Joe.
Good news that there's nothing physically worrisome - it's just that your body is still responding to your new ostomy and to depression. So glad you saw a physician!
Now that you're home, you can focus on your healing and improving your mental state.
Others on this site are giving you great opinions, and I'd like to chime in:
Seriously consider continuing to see your counselor/psychiatrist. Ask about "alternative", non-prescriptive supplements to help with your depression, and its effects. There are over-the-counter (OTC) herbal supplements & teas - even foods that can help combat depression. (In that same vein, there are some foods that should be avoided.) Light activity can help the body and mind. Ask your counselor about helpful at-home mental activities: journaling, reading, puzzles (jigsaw, crosswords, etc.), explore different types of creative artwork or hand crafts that can redirect your mental energies and focus. Even listening to various types of music can improve one's mood.
If your counselor is averse to non-prescriptive OTCs, and insists on further exploration of prescriptive remedies which may have unwanted side effects...? I would consider seeing another mental health professional with "more tools in their toolbox" - more modalities to help alleviate depression. There are "light boxes", dietary changes, biofeedback, OTCs, hypnotherapy, meditation, stress-reduction techniques, etc. that may be worth investigating. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) is a wonderful resource, also. www.nami.org
If you do decide on OTC supplements, please consult with your psychiatrist, general physician and/or pharmacist to help ensure that there will be no harmful interactions between any OTCs and current prescriptions. ("Time-release" supplements - prescription or OTC - may need to be avoided; with a shortened GI tract, now, waiting for a substance to be released into your system will probably mean most of the substance ending up in your ostomy appliance, wasted.)
Bone broth is a light, but nutritious option when the GI tract, stomach is sensitive. Ritz is right: warm it, and SIP it. Your small intestine is likely still adjusting to its new duty of taking in more fluids. Sipping (almost all non-caffeinated) liquids throughout the day will give your stomach and small intestine more time to take in fluids for rehydration. On the other hand, gulping will pretty much just wash fluids through to your bag. Your GI tract needs time to adjust, so please be patient with it.
Easily digested foods may be a good idea at this time since your stomach is unsettled. The bone broth, soft-cooked eggs, low-fiber foods like white toast, white rice, chamomile tea, low-acid juices and soft fruits...? Anything your stomach can tolerate will be good. Reintroduce questionable foods slowly into your diet.
Your body is going through a lot right now, Joe. Light activity interspersed with rest throughout the day is a great idea. Slowly build up your activity over time. You're fatigued, and depressed, but a little activity will help both. Your energy levels and stamina may be low, and that's to be expected considering how much healing your body is doing - and that takes a lot of energy.
Joe, you're fortunate to have some support at home. When it comes to your wife and her expectations... You know your wife and both of your personalities & tolerances better than anyone. No one heals from traumatic surgery at the same rate. If a joint appointment for you both is needed with your counselor/psychiatrist, and/or your surgeon to help impress upon her your need for rest during your recovery, consider it. Too much activity during recovery can be detrimental, and a hospital is to be avoided, if at all possible, during this pandemic.
Each of us ostomates has had our challenges pre- and/or post-recovery. Take it slow, be smart about your choices, see your medical team when you need to (don't wait on a homecare nurse's approval - you know when something is not right with your body!), and continue communicating with the MAO membership. By now, you certainly know that there are many caring souls in the MAO community with experience able to offer helpful advice, tips and support.
Take it one day at a time, Joe. And let us know how you're doing. Ostomy recovery can be a long haul, but it's not a trip you have to make alone.
Lily17