I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
Any death of a family member is sad, but the suddenness and manner of such a dreadful event must make it very difficult for you and your family.
Of course, our thoughts are with you at this time and we all hope that his death was quick and painless and that he can now rest in peace.
I have lost two brothers and a very dear friend to sudden, unexpected and tragic incidents, which have made me contemplate quite often the fragility of life.
Needless to say I have tried to circumnavigate the psychological and emotional trauma of these events by writing rhyme. Each individual has motivated a rhyme to reflect the loss of their specific lives, but some of my rhymes have been more generalised or internalised, to try to come to terms with my own grief.
I will share with you just one of these in the hope that you will feel that you are not alone at this time of bereavement.
What causes us the most pathos
are all the things to do with loss.
The mixed emotions that loss brings
can never bring back long lost things.
I sit around and reminisce
about those things that go amiss.
It is with sadness and with longing
we want things back that were belonging.
Lamenting all those things we’ve lost,
pausing now to count their cost.
Having flashbacks by the minute
of a life with losses in it.
So many things I could have seen
and many things that might have been.
All my wishes and my dreams
lost forever, so it seems.
You know the things a good life brings,
I wish I had some of those things.
But in my life’s reality
it meant these things were lost to me.
Most people try to find someone
with whom they share and have some fun,
but I can say when my life’s done
I had no really special one.
Some of my losses have been sordid,
but I will not get too morbid,
for I still have a life to live
and I have still got lots to give.
I’ll celebrate the good-times had
and will not wallow in the bad.
Losses are psychological
So, I’ll be philosophical.
B. Withers 2012