Since posting my blog titled 'The Cards We Are Dealt', I've had some inquiries about advice
on how to deal with depression, etc. I am by no means an expert, but here are some things
that helped me. And I'm asking others to post what helps them as well. Thank you.
I would say the first step is to go see a therapist. Talking to someone really helps. I am
fortunate to have a very good friend who is a counselor, and we talk weekly. Also, you
may or may not need medication. Do not be ashamed if you do need it for a while.
It can make all the difference in the world.
Make your surroundings light and airy and happy. Plants are wonderful. Crystals are
wonderful, bringing in positive energy. Find happy music. Get rid of that sad, sappy
stuff. LOL It is okay to go through your living space and touch each object and ask the
question 'Does this bring me joy?' If it doesn't, get rid of it. If it is something you
cannot part with, put it in a 'memory box', seal it up, and put it in the attic. Bring in
more items that bring you joy. For example, I have this beautiful pottery mug with
a cute little smiling bee on it. I love that bee. She is so happy. So I drew a few more
of her on my wall above my stove burners and above my kitchen sink. So now when
I cook or clean up, there are those happy bees. I smile.
Limit watching the news and other 'downer' TV. Watch happy, funny movies, shows.
I watch stand-up comedy all the time. If I am doing housework, I either put on happy
music or stand-up comedy. Do some internet searches to find what resonates with you.
Don't isolate yourself. Volunteering and giving back to your community is a wonderful
way to meet and talk with people. I love gardening, so I help with the community garden
every year. I also grow my own vegetable gardens and always have way too much, so I
donate to our local food bank. Animal shelters are also a great place to help out at.
Those poor little creatures need so much love and caring.
Adopt a pet. They have so much love to give. And you will be needed. You will need to take
care of him/her and love them.
Expand your mind...be creative...take up new hobbies...there are a ton of classes online now.
Or if you are fortunate to have a community center. Maybe there are painting classes or
something that interests you there. And if you can do something that 'gives back', all the
better. There are a lot of people in this world a lot worse off than we are.
My final suggestion is to have some sort of spiritual practice. I am not religious, but I am
deeply spiritual. If your current religion/spiritual practice is not helping you, then it is okay
to explore and find something that does. You can start with nature. Watch birds at your
feeder. Look how small they are. Amazing how they can fly. I don't do just one thing...
I do lots of different things. One thing I do that does make a big impact is I practice
gratitude daily. Just giving thanks for all the good, all the blessings, all the miracles in my life.
Remember the power of your words. It is so important to put only what you want after the
words 'I AM'. Here is my mantra I do several times a day. Sometimes all day long if I'm
having a hard go of it.
I put my hands on my heart and say:
I Am Healed.
I Am Loved.
I Am Worthy.
I Am Whole and Complete.
I Am Grateful.
I Am Grateful.
I Am Grateful.
And like I said in my post 'March is Colorectal Cancer Awareness Month', I don't believe
we go through pain and suffering for no reason. I believe the Divine helps us change
direction and gives us knowledge so we can help others. Through our own experiences
we now have the empathy, the compassion, the understanding of what others
are going through.
I believe something good comes from all our pain. I met all of you, which is a very good thing.
BIG BIG Hugs