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Fri Sep 02, 2022 8:48 am
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Moving to Massachusetts a few years back I wasn’t sure what to expect neighbor wise.
When I lived in Washington state I had no idea who my neighbors were and it was honestly probably best that way I lived in my mother’s townhouse that I inherited the payments on when she passed away. It was a lovely home but it had an HOA that was constantly in my business no love was lost between myself and that meddling HOA.

When I moved my only request was that we not look at or entertain the idea of looking at properties that had an HOA. I had pretty much 48 hours to look and find a place I liked before I left for Tokyo/Osaka for 8 weeks.

I found a lovely home 3 blocks from a private beach about 35 miles south of Boston so close enough but not too close to family and a place to make a living. The realtor for the seller was not at all fun to deal with but my realtor took all that stress off me, I made an offer and we were off and running, I set up a POA with my sister so she could sign the closing paperwork if it hopefully got that far.

Lucky for me it did, I got a lovely home close to the beach and no dreaded HOA. Well come to find out there is a neighborhood association, to pay for that private beach and public meeting space called the COOP, I was not pleased to find this out after the fact. Until I found out the cost $200 a YEAR, not $400 a month that I was paying in WA. 

When I got back from Japan and started moving in it was like something you see on TV or in the movies, neighbors were stopping by introducing themselves welcoming me to the neighborhood exchanging phone numbers and generally just being amazing people.

I feel as though I hit the neighbor lottery when it comes to my neighborhood, people looking out for each other and taking care of each other. 
When I got home from the hospital this time I had at least 4 neighbors stop by to see how I was doing and demanding I give them grocery lists. 

The old saying goes “fences make great neighbors” while true in some instances I’ve found that just being good people make the best neighbors. I wouldn’t trade my neighborhood family for anything. It’s not all puppies and kittens but compared to where I moved from it’s my own little slice of heaven.

The slang term for Massachusetts residents is massholes, if my neighbors are what a masshole is I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I’m very thankful to be surrounded by these folks with family nearby as well. 

Other than the health bit, it’s the best move I’ve ever made and I love my home and the people who surround it.

Very very thankful for these folks, my toddler buddies next store, the seasonal folks and the year rounders. I pulled that winning lottery ticket on this joint! 

Fri Sep 02, 2022 10:42 am

That is so wonderful for you Paul! I also have an awesome neighborhood and am very grateful for it! ❤️❤️❤️

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Fri Sep 02, 2022 12:50 pm

Hey Paul - very nice write-up about your neighbors.  So good to hear positive comments these days about neighbors as it isn’t always the case - sometimes quite the opposite.  We have been very lucky in our lifetime of always having great neighbors - in fact, we are still good friends with former neighbors in Phoenix (from the 1970’s and other friends/former neighbors scattered around the US where we have lived.  As the saying goes “old friends are gold, new friends are silver”. Currently we are in a neighborhood of silver friends now and most of them have that color hair as well ! 🤣jb 

Fri Sep 02, 2022 1:42 pm

Love thy neighbor…. 

Fri Sep 02, 2022 2:57 pm


AlexT wrote:

Love thy neighbor…. 

Same girl during football season !  oven gas on high 😝

Fri Sep 02, 2022 4:13 pm


Justbreathe wrote:

Same girl during football season !  oven gas on high 😝

😂😂😂

Fri Sep 02, 2022 4:24 pm

Hi Paul,  Neighbours are so important!  I'm so glad you lucked out.  Who your neighbours are can have a huge impact on your quality of life!  I remember growing up in a neighbourhood where we knew all our neighbours, everyone was friendly, we looked out for each other, we even socialized with some of them.  This was a neighbourhood in a big city too, which is surprising in today's world.  Now, we don't know any of our neighbours, seriously, we might smile and say Hello, but that's about it.  Many of them don't speak English, which is a barrier, but it's more than that.  People just keep to themselves now.  It's a different world I guess. And sad in so many ways.  

I'm glad to know that communities like the one you are in still exist!  

Terry

Sat Sep 03, 2022 8:58 am

Hi Abe i,m glad for you, thats a peace of mind that you dont have any quarrels while battling health issues, i on the other hand have renters next door on one side and a house falling down from lack of maintenance on the other of which i,m constantly battling rodents from and this week there was a domestic a couple houses down with cops coming from all directions for it, so not a good neighborhood any more. 

Sat Sep 03, 2022 10:39 am


ron in mich wrote:

Hi Abe i,m glad for you, thats a peace of mind that you dont have any quarrels while battling health issues, i on the other hand have renters next door on one side and a house falling down from lac...

Ron, 

thank you so much for the kind words, just hearing you speak of your neighborhood  is why I’m so content with mine. 

I hope it doesn’t feel I like I’m rubbing it in as that was the farthest thing from my intention.

Like is said, I pulled the winning lottery ticket with this joint! 

Sat Sep 03, 2022 11:25 am

I have great neighbors too, nice and quiet. 

Mon Sep 05, 2022 7:10 pm

There are a lot of great neighbors here in Massachusetts. If you really want to see where the term Masshole came from just drive on route 128. You'll never have to wonder about that name again.....

Tue Sep 06, 2022 11:34 am

I live next to a cemetery so the neighbors are quiet and pleasant to be around.

Tue Sep 06, 2022 11:40 am


kirbyfivefivefive wrote:

I live next to a cemetery so the neighbors are quiet and pleasant to be around.

It would be a little creepy if they weren’t. 😁

Tue Sep 06, 2022 3:59 pm


AlexT wrote:

It would be a little creepy if they weren’t. 😁

LOL

Tue Sep 06, 2022 4:44 pm

I live in an HOA since '09 and every year the members change. We own a nice backyard and our immediate neighbors are nice. No more HOA in our next house. Congrats on finding a good group of ppl.

Tue Sep 06, 2022 4:48 pm


Elzie wrote:

There are a lot of great neighbors here in Massachusetts. If you really want to see where the term Masshole came from just drive on route 128. You'll never have to wonder about that name again.....

My whole family is from Southie so I’ve seen it  and I’ve driven rt 128 so I totally get it. I just got super lucky buying where I didn’t know anyone. I actually like most massholes and I was called an asshole so often on the west coast I fully embraced the term with the move. I was a bit to blunt and straightforward for quite a few folks out west! 

Tue Sep 06, 2022 4:49 pm


subwmn wrote:

I live in an HOA since '09 and every year the members change. We own a nice backyard and our immediate neighbors are nice. No more HOA in our next house. Congrats on finding a good group of ppl.

Thank you so much and congrats on having good immediate neighbors even with an HOA! 

Tue Sep 06, 2022 4:51 pm


kirbyfivefivefive wrote:

I live next to a cemetery so the neighbors are quiet and pleasant to be around.

The jokes write themselves on this one, isn’t it great having good quiet neighbors? 

Wed Sep 07, 2022 1:26 pm


kirbyfivefivefive wrote:

I live next to a cemetery so the neighbors are quiet and pleasant to be around.

Are you in Portland?

Lone Fir cemetery?

Tue Sep 27, 2022 9:26 pm


ron in mich wrote:

Hi Abe i,m glad for you, thats a peace of mind that you dont have any quarrels while battling health issues, i on the other hand have renters next door on one side and a house falling down from lac...

Just moved to my current location for 2 years now.. 1 guy warned me about walking my dog alone in the evening.. well. That did it for me. Bought some firearms and took some classes for protection and I don't walk outside my home anymore. Glad when we finally buy a home soon after all my health issues are cleared up. Not the best of neighborhood but saved ourselves nearly 300.00 a month until we find us a home. 

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