So I was bored as hell and randomly reading about shows I don't watch when I came upon a review for the HBO show Girls... and the comments section was one of the most horrifying things I've seen in my life (short of, like, those pictures of starving kids that people post all over Facebook). Apparently Lena Dunham takes her clothes off a lot in that show—of course she does, it's HBO—and the fact that she's somewhat overweight (I guess) is enough to make people suggest that just seeing her naked is a major violation of their rights. According to people online she is a "gross fat bitch", her male costars are all "way out of her league" and her tattoos are enough to make one's eyes bleed. Seeing people say such awful things about a completely normal looking woman makes me want to cry and/or intentionally seek out mean people just so I can chuck things at their heads, because can you imagine what they'd say about me if they knew that I had the audacity to think that another person might occasionally want to see me naked, or at least not really mind it? (Note: Okay, I am aware Dunham is more than occasionally naked on her show, but so is every female on HBO and people rarely complain about that and phrase it very differently when they do.) Oh, and Lena has pretty small boobs, which she must have done deliberately just to be offensive to men [sarcasm]; well, mine are even smaller thanks to me all but starving for most of my adolescence. I guess I'm completely fucked, or rather not because "nobody wants to see that", right? Please note, this is not self-pity; this is anger. I've actually never been rejected based on my physiology because something in my personality isn't really conducive to relationships in the first place—the closest I've come to having one was with a guy who would try to kiss me in between reminding me how much better I'd look with makeup. He was before the ostomy, but if it had scared him away I'd actually have been glad because what a creep. No, my issue here is that people existing in their natural state, with whatever is natural for them, can somehow be considered an affront to people who have to look at them. Regardless of what it is that makes them not quite good enough. You know, we were morally outraged as a culture because they were photoshopping models, but nobody quite suggested we should have average looking people in ads—the implication was really that we should have women who are so beautiful that they don't need to be photoshopped. I'm gonna stop here before I start having to form paragraphs. I just needed to rant about this, and complaining to the people I know in real life would have meant dropping my "I don't care that I've got an ostomy" façade. If I did that, they'd get all awkward around me again.
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