Hi there, my lovely fellow Baggers,
That is the age-old question for all of us, with or without an Ostomy. Is there someone out there for me, someone with the same hopes and dreams, with the same needs, physical and emotional? You can't expect perfection in a friendship/relationship, but to find open honesty and trust in another person is a major addition to anyone's life.
I have spoken with and written to a limited number of people from the site in a personal capacity. Most correspondence has been in regard to Ostomy questions or advice on Ostomy products. A few people have picked up my email address, and I occasionally write to say hi and ask how their lives are going. However, there is one lovely lady who has made a major impression on me and has entered the most private part of my life and mind. She knows all about me (No secrets at all...a scary thought lol!!) and my family and has even spoken to my lovely Sis-in-law while we were on a video call (video calls are so cool!! Love it), who instantly loved my friend.
It has taken quite a while...almost two years!! of writing and texting to get to this point of mutual total trust. At this point, we have a video call a couple of times a week, and I have never had so much fun just laughing and chatting with anyone!! The most amazing thing is that we can have so much to say to each other considering the fact that we have never met in person!! I think there is a freedom to speak about anything and everything when chatting online or by phone with someone you have never met in person, the fear of screwing up almost disappears from consciousness. I guess that at the very worst, the other person will not call again or will delete you from her contacts!!?? I would, of course, be devastated at this point if this happened, but we are so close and know each other so well by now that I am totally secure in our friendship.
The next challenge is the actual face-to-face meeting!!! This is a scary thought for a guy who has not had a date in quite a while (Not telling how long LOL!!). I live in Ireland most of the year but spend several months in the US each year (for my health, the nice dry weather helps). San Francisco, New York, and DC are my usual stops on my visits. My friend lives in Texas, so that presents a little bit of a challenge but not an insurmountable one for either of us. We have set a deadline of sometime this summer for our face-to-face, and we are both like nervous teenagers going on a first date...what if she doesn't like me. Who does the traveling?? Me, I guess, at first. She wants to visit Ireland, and I think we can do that eventually when we are sure that we can stand each other's company for more than a few days.
That's really the question in this situation. As the saying goes... "If you want to know me, come live with me." Will we run out of conversation after a couple of hours? How painful will it be if we just don't fully connect? The connection is made when the first eye contact is made, "the truth will out"!! We have zero doubts at this point, and we are both convinced that our close feelings are indeed real.
I feel only joy when I see her lovely face on my screen, as I said...like a silly teenager all over again haha!!
Whatever happens, we will have fun and will not worry about any long-term commitment.
So I was curious about how many people have found their other half on the site... I can honestly say that it is possible, just keep kissing "Frogs" LOL!! Just kidding!!... The Princess or the Prince is out there somewhere, and you will bump into them one of these days... keep on truckin' and don't give up the fight.
Not sure, but I feel a little insane, so it Must Be Love haha??? If you read this Ms. S... that means You!!
All the best, my friends, and I will update later on how it goes... good or bad. Magoo.