It has really struck me, reading many of the posts of many Ostomates. A husband or wife decides to leave. Wedding vows are spoken as part of the wedding ceremony. At the time most of us are younger and distracted by the wedding itself. I really didn't give alot of thought to the vows.
For richer or poorer, in sickness and good health, forsaking all others, till death do us part (hope I got it correct).
I watched a video of my wedding. And really listened to the vows. When we are young and healthy... we don't think about the day when your mate might get sick or disabled.
I'm working past 65 and plan 3 more years. I could have retired years ago. Only so my wife has excellent medical care. I would never just leave her when and if the going got tough. I took my vows. Everyone should think hard about them before and after marriage.