Reply to Beachboy
BeachBoy,
I feel for your response here - and empathize with what you express.
Naturally, I am a very private person - certainly about one's own physical challenges - and like BeachBoy, historically, have been unable to express my personal feelings, so far as my medical life - wellness and illness - is concerned in a manner that I feel they may be fully - as in empathetically - appreciated. Even for those of us who have a collected similar list of events within our medical history, we all deal with them differently.
It is only relatively recently - within my 69th year - [And I self-view myself as 30-something, and always will] - that I have found it necessary to actually take on a very different state of being - and that has actually been 'propelled' out of necessity, i.e., I have needed to follow a route whereby the circumstances of my medical experience, specifically with medical trial procedures, have caused me to not bury myself in a passive 'abandoned' state.
Sometimes there is a need for a very different stance going forward.
There are many of us here that are very strong people, and able - for the most part, to "move mountains" when we are called to do so... BUT and there is a very big BUT, we actually take on a state of being as a consequence - and although we may "look OK" on the outside - often we are near to crumbling within.
And indeed are in that very place of 'doom as we are trapped in the descending aeroplane 'going down'.
So much can be said about compassion, and there IS empathy among us... BUT at the end of the day when we are within our own selves - even sometimes, when we have loved ones who do care - it is US - the core "little me" and our inner love for ourselves, that, when we finally allow love for ourselves, which, ever so gently, and ever so gradually, allows our simple little us within to keep body and soul together... It's only THEN when the unforeseen propels us from our comfort of the 'usual' and makes room for ourselves.
Even now, after many, many circumstances which have called to me to be more open to learning to 'love myself' - even NOW I have so very much to learn.
And maybe like BeachBoy, I actually have a big challenge to openly talk about the real impact of accepting the ultimate of weakness because I have always been so strong - no matter what!
In my humble opinion, THIS is where the real learning takes place... from within our most vulnerable self - we begin to truly know ourselves.
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Best wishes to all, in whatever state of being when reading folks' thoughts...
There are only good thoughts worth transmitting...
So here I send my best thoughts
Jayne