I am sorry you have been hurt dear xoxoxo............. Ostomy or not.........missing limbs, scars, wheelchairs, fat, thin, short, tall, one eyeball, three heads,......green skin and Alien Antenna sticking out their noggin'.......doesn't matter......a Cheater is a Cheater........
.....no one is perfect but this sounds like one of those situations where some people thrive on living that way and getting their new exciting 'fixes' that way, ..... for some, it can be an addction.....sadly..........and I have never been fully able to decide if they need therapy or a good swift boot sunk deep up their butt........but the most important thing for yourself is to move on.
Forgive if you wish, but then allow the anger, pain and humiliation to pass honey because it only destroys yourself inside, and obviously that is no good and it allows that person to continue to hurt you in the form of an extended emotional wound.........March onward along your own path and know that someone new is always going to be waiting for you, someone who is right for you........not everyone Cheats.........sometimes it is difficult to keep that in mind, but it's true.
Always take the time you need to gather yourself back together........Center Yourself......and as I recently again had to remind one of my girlfriends, and literally took her by the hand and pulled her out of her house to have some fun and lift her out of her depression, (and having the slightly crazy goofy sillyness about me I begin to actually clownishly sing to her while making faces LOL) ...remember little Blue Fish from the movie Finding Nemo........ "Just Keep Swimming" .....lol........... Seriously hope this vid shows up so you know what I'm talking about..........lol
Getting hurt is no laughing matter..........but the symbolism is there, in 'getting yourself back on track' and again in a happier state of mind after ANY upsetting crap life hands out, ....gotta have a little humour once in awhile...........trust me, I've really been through a battlefield with lousy stuff too xoxo........just keep swimmin.
(...there's lots of fish in the sea
~Love from your Doe
I used to be handsome, thin, athletic and all those things you mentioned. I've always been a dirtball, though, when it has come to having sex with as many good looking women as possible. To my way of thinking, though, it's just DNA's way of making more DNA. I can't help it if I'm just along for the ride.
I would suggest, though, that a lot of the problem is the person (you) doing the choosing. It sounds as if you are getting a lot better at that, too. Remember, practice makes perfect. I wouldn't worry too much about the bag turning any man off. In fact I would encourage you to use it in an attempt to rule out the ones you wouldn't want anyway. Does that make sense?
As long as you ride motorcycles and look as cute as you do you will continue to attract a LOT of men. But only a small proportion will come even close to your expectations. Don't let that keep you from looking. You WILL find him, I guarantee it!
I am hoping you are happy, healthy and doing very well!!
|Spiritual Living wrote:|
|Thanks for the advice and kind words, Doe. After being alone for a while, I'm more discriminating on who has those traits of being a cheater and have grown wiser because of it. I don't regret the times I had because it made me stronger and wiser as who has the "cheater traits" and fun times during those tough lessons learned. Love your profile. It's great when we can connect with other ostomates, especially about the dating dramas we all deal with when it comes to intimacy and rejection. Just beginning a new relationship and am terrified to 'consumate' the relationship due to fear of rejection, but I'm a pro at it so here I go again...wish me luck!.|
|Spiritual Living wrote:|
|Guys, especially the thin, athletic and handsome ones, why do y'all cheat after being intimate with a female ostomate? Am I just meeting the creeps out there?|
I hope this hasn't happend to you too many times. I'd like to say you're just having bad luck. Cheating (along with lying) are some of the wrost human traits we can have. It completely destroys trust and reduces personal integrity to ashes.
I can only suggest that you date for a while before having sex with someone (if you're looking for a long-term relationship), that way you know that they are sticking around for other reasons and aren't just looking to "hit it and quit it".
Well, thin, athletic, handsome men know that they can be slective with women and can get away with acting like jerks, which a less atractive man can't do (this same rule applies to attractive women).