Personally, i am here for friendly correspondence because talking with other ostomates helps me cope. Meet-ups are not off the table, but they are not required.
|Well I have chatted with a couple of people, but have yet to land a date. I thought I was articulate, pic was ok, profile short and sweet. OH WELL. RAY.|
Fella, I think that you will find that this is not the best site for dating...........
We all assume... there has to be a REALLY big benefit to use this site as a possible "relationship" catalyst, because of the "physical common denominators".
The truth is........... it does allow you to feel more comfortable and tends to prevoke a (possibly false) sense of safety and ("as yet", un-earned or deserved trust"), when opening yourself up to "total strangers". Talking from experiance, if a person was a B-Hole "pre-illness", most likely....they're still B-Holes .....(UGH!!!!)
I'd never say "give up" on the possibilty of a "REAL" love connection, as you are a very attractive man......................but I would recommend you try and keep it as close to home as possible. Long distance relationships are VERY difficult under the best of situations.
Most importantanly, "Don't Limit Yourself". I've had the best relationship with "regular ole people" who see "me",..... NOT me, with a bag. The one ostomate I've dated, turned out to be MUCH more judgmental, "in EVERY respect"......so keep your options open my friend.
Oh and "Welcome to our Community" Hope you're well. It's very nice to meet you and I wish you only the best in your search.
Obviously something big in common, which helps. I could never go on a date with someone else, especially only for the second time, have multiple blow outs and leaks one right after the other, and expect anyone else to really understand. Made for the most interesting date I've ever had, her too.
We both have ileostomies, hers is Stella, mine is Studley They get along well. Someday we'll write a book about our experiences so far. It's been a great couple of years and there are many more to come.
Our ostomies obviously help in understanding each other but when you truly find the one part of you that has been missing all your life, anything else doesn't really matter. The right person is out there for everyone. If it is meant to be it will happen, they will come to you when you least expect it. Good luck, Stella, Studley and Jack(the dog without an ostomy)!
I have not met anyone. Hmmm! I was sure hoping too. Nice to meet u Ray.