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My sister's home...from DLS

dls
Posted by dls, on Tue Jan 28, 2020 1:23 pm

My sister came home a few days ago. No special diet, no restrictions...she is so happy.  She can just 'sit down' as if nothing happened.  Life is good.  For partners of those afflicated, my brother-in-law did every single pouch change, and worked with the Docs when she needed a different appliance.  Confession: my sister told me that she would be truly handicapped had she married her husband earlier...he did everything for her, she wants to take care of herself as much as possible...ah, true love.  When I was ill, my late Richard was the same...if I did anything alone...he'd be right there in case I needed 'help'.  As different as we are my sister and I have found the same sort of mates, although totally different men in everything from education, wealth and personality...we both married men who love (loved, in my case) us deeply.  Our parents really did somthing right.  Thank you for your prayers, good wishes and encouragement...I read them to my sister...Thank you from my sister Marie, and me, old dls.  (Marie is older by five years).

Reply by Bill, on Tue Jan 28, 2020 3:40 pm

Hello dls.
Thank you so much for your post(s) updating us on your sister's return home and her gradual recovery. It is so good to hear stories where things go right both in relationships and in surgical procedures. I hope the reversal is entirely successful and I am sure there will be many folks on here who will be watching this story closely and with more than a little envy at the prospect of someone like your sister finally getting her life back to 'normal' (whatever that is!)
The prospect and concept of your sister’s ‘recovery’ reminded me of a rhyme I wrote some time ago, which I will share with you below: Just in case your sister enjoys a bit of rhyme.
Best wishes
Bill


RELEVANT TO RECOVERY

What’s relevant to recovery
Is relevant to me.
This obvious discovery
Is just how it should be.

Let’s think and use some logic
To analyse this theme.
Let us be more specific
And tell of what we mean.

To recover implies returning.
And getting something back.
It’s health for which we’re yearning
Or getting back on track.

Returning to ’my’ normal state
Is not what I would seek.
For ‘normal’ was an awful fate.
Ominous, cursed and bleak.

I wish to stay away from that
Which made me what I am.
Bullies, bastards, cads and rats
Are those from whom I ran.

I don’t need all that gamesmanship
Abuse from head to toe.
Nor poisonous relationships
They do not help me grow.

I need a safe and peaceful place
A space where I can be.
Loved and liked with warm embrace
And friendly company.

It would be good alongside this
To have someone to trust
When life’s not right and goes amiss
Support is then a ‘must’.

A ‘good’ professional near at hand
Is worth their weight in gold.
As long as they can understand
And listen to what they’re told.

Experience, knowledge and some skill
To help, not hinder me.
I do not want to get more ill
Because ‘they’ cannot see.

I’m not a ‘subject’ to report
On what is bad and wrong
I want ‘appropriate’ support
To help ‘me’ move along.

When chaos and emotion reign
I need a safe abode.
I need to know I can stay sane
When in a crisis mode.

What is my life - I ponder death
When living seems futile.
I try & try with every breath
To make it seem worthwhile.

To recover is to live
And try hard not to die.
It combines the take and give
It gives reason back to why.

I need to stop and think and plan.
To find what works for me
I need to work on who I am
And who I want to be.

I want to change and I will work
To achieve my goal.
I do not wish to go berserk
I need some self- control.

Can you help me in this task?
This is my brief request.
It does not seem like much to ask
It could be your best bequest.

With your power, skills and wealth
And your' prized profession.
You could help my mental health
And help avoid regression.

I want to stay self-organised.
I want complete control.
I want my life more harmonised
In heart and mind and soul.

                                 B. Withers 2007

 

dls
Reply by dls, on Tue Jan 28, 2020 4:23 pm

She does, as does her overly attentive husband...printing it out...all coyright respected...thank you Bill.

Reply by Puppyluv56, on Tue Jan 28, 2020 8:19 pm

So glad to hear your Sister has done so well! There is a lot to say about good care! I know you were worried about her! She seems to come out on the other side of the Ostomy world in perfect health! 
My husband would only go so far! Lol pouch change is not something I am willing to allow anyone to help me with nor would he "volunteer" to do it for me! 

Just sayin! Both of you are lucky ladies with your husbands. 
Was both of your Husband choices similar to your Father? 
I think we all look for someone like our Daddy! Mine was the best and I, the typical Daddy's little girl, went everywhere with him. Golfing, fishing, you name it. Same thing with my Husband. We do everything together but both have interests outside that we do with friends. 
puppyluv

Reply by lovely, on Tue Jan 28, 2020 11:47 pm

Happy your sister is doing so good. She is very blessed to have such a helpful husband. Hope she has continued sucess.

Reply by britathrt60, on Wed Jan 29, 2020 1:57 am

So glad to hear of your Sisters successful reversal...best wishes for continued health and well being.

 

Reply by britathrt60, on Wed Jan 29, 2020 2:00 am
Bill wrote:

Hello dls.
Thank you so much for your post(s) updating us on your sister's return home and her gradual recovery. It is so good to hear stories where things go right both in relationships and in surgical procedures. I hope the reversal is entirely successful and I am sure there will be many folks on here who will be watching this story closely and with more than a little envy at the prospect of someone like your sister finally getting her life back to 'normal' (whatever that is!)
The prospect and concept of your sister’s ‘recovery’ reminded me of a rhyme I wrote some time ago, which I will share with you below: Just in case your sister enjoys a bit of rhyme.
Best wishes
Bill


RELEVANT TO RECOVERY

What’s relevant to recovery
Is relevant to me.
This obvious discovery
Is just how it should be.

Let’s think and use some logic
To analyse this theme.
Let us be more specific
And tell of what we mean.

To recover implies returning.
And getting something back.
It’s health for which we’re yearning
Or getting back on track.

Returning to ’my’ normal state
Is not what I would seek.
For ‘normal’ was an awful fate.
Ominous, cursed and bleak.

I wish to stay away from that
Which made me what I am.
Bullies, bastards, cads and rats
Are those from whom I ran.

I don’t need all that gamesmanship
Abuse from head to toe.
Nor poisonous relationships
They do not help me grow.

I need a safe and peaceful place
A space where I can be.
Loved and liked with warm embrace
And friendly company.

It would be good alongside this
To have someone to trust
When life’s not right and goes amiss
Support is then a ‘must’.

A ‘good’ professional near at hand
Is worth their weight in gold.
As long as they can understand
And listen to what they’re told.

Experience, knowledge and some skill
To help, not hinder me.
I do not want to get more ill
Because ‘they’ cannot see.

I’m not a ‘subject’ to report
On what is bad and wrong
I want ‘appropriate’ support
To help ‘me’ move along.

When chaos and emotion reign
I need a safe abode.
I need to know I can stay sane
When in a crisis mode.

What is my life - I ponder death
When living seems futile.
I try & try with every breath
To make it seem worthwhile.

To recover is to live
And try hard not to die.
It combines the take and give
It gives reason back to why.

I need to stop and think and plan.
To find what works for me
I need to work on who I am
And who I want to be.

I want to change and I will work
To achieve my goal.
I do not wish to go berserk
I need some self- control.

Can you help me in this task?
This is my brief request.
It does not seem like much to ask
It could be your best bequest.

With your power, skills and wealth
And your' prized profession.
You could help my mental health
And help avoid regression.

I want to stay self-organised.
I want complete control.
I want my life more harmonised
In heart and mind and soul.

                                 B. Withers 2007

 


Bill you aced it again with your great wisdom in rhyme ...cheers!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Reply by Bill, on Wed Jan 29, 2020 6:16 am

Thanks Ange. It's always good to get positive feedback.

Best wishes

Bill

Reply by Angelicamarie, on Wed Jan 29, 2020 8:38 am

dls, that's great news it's good that everything worked out.

Take Care,

Angelicamarie

Reply by currentsitguy, on Wed Jan 29, 2020 5:06 pm

Before my reversal, from day one I was pretty determined changing the wafer and bag was something I had to master for myself. I never, ever got past the serious ick factor, but it was just something that had to be done. After all, if we were out in public and something went wrong I could hardly expect my wife to accompany me into a restroom to help me.

dls
Reply by dls, on Wed Jan 29, 2020 8:46 pm
currentsitguy wrote:

Before my reversal, from day one I was pretty determined changing the wafer and bag was something I had to master for myself. I never, ever got past the serious ick factor, but it was just something that had to be done. After all, if we were out in public and something went wrong I could hardly expect my wife to accompany me into a restroom to help me.


Thiswas my brother-in-laws decision.  My sister nearly died andhe  just wanted to relieve her of as much anxiety as possible...she awoke from surgery with her little surprise...there was no indication that a colostomy would be necessary. She was shocked. As it was only six months, he just wanted to take good care of her, and he did.

Reply by Puppyluv56, on Wed Jan 29, 2020 9:07 pm

Thank God there are good  men in this world! Your Sister is a lucky woman! 
Pup

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