|collie123 wrote: |
I really appreciate your response.
The world is changing in ways we have all yet to understand.
I have had my ursotomy for 4 years and I am still coming to terms with the changes to my body and how I deal with 'Enigma'; I never know what she is going to do!
I have always found the site to be useful and exceptionally supportive; so I was really taken aback by a post which was hardly subtle in its implied 'racist tones' / assumptions; why else would you mention the colour of the father and then label an entire race. I am black. I am 61. I find that in my twilight years- I draw the line at offensive remarks. My husband was white and we had 34 wonderful years together. I have taught and continue to do so. I am retraining as a counsellor. One thing I have learnt is that words matter. Words can damage. Words make a difference. That is my rant over!
I welcome political dialogue but I will always call out language and behaviour that I believe to be unacceptable.
I hope wherever in the world you are that 'you and yours' are well- as we say in London.
I have been very quiet in the last 4 years but the orginal post -drove me to say something - since my silence would have conveyed acceptance and that is not the case!
From London, UK.
I am from another London on the Thames - in Ontario, Canada. Alike in name only, I can assure you!
I am glad you responded, and glad to hear that you intend to make your voice heard, although I am dismayed that you consider 61 to be your "twilight years"! I am 63 and am nowhere near my twilight! However, I understand, and agree with what I think your point is - that as we age, we are increasingly less likely to remain quiet when we feel the conversation would benefit from hearing our position. Having lived through a lot, that is our prerogative.
However, I have not reached an age (and hope I never do) at which I can say that I have nothing left to learn. The older I get, the more I realize how little I knew when I thought I knew it all. Age confers humility, if one is lucky enough to realize it. So, I have things to learn from you, and I invite you to seize upon any teachable moment you spot in anything I say, or omit saying.
I am guessing, but I think that the majority on this site have either an ileostomy or colostomy. Most of the comments I see are related to one or the other, so someone with urostomy experience is a valuable asset on this site. Four years of living with one is a world of experience to someone who just woke up with one. I am sure your experience would be so helpful to many who are struggling - I hope you will make your voice heard in that way too. We are, all of us, human beings trying to make sense of the hand we are dealt.
I hope you and yours are well - we say that in this London too. I hope to read your comments - on anything - very soon. Take good care.