I'm a 32-year-old newly married man. I have had UC/Crohn's since I was 10. 8 years ago, I developed colon cancer. They caught it super early, thankfully, and did a subtotal colectomy.
Since then, I've been mostly okay. Much better than before cancer. They took all my large colon and attached my small bowel to my rectum. I have had a couple of abscesses, the last of which has turned into a fistula that I've tried to heal for the last 2 years with meds alone. The fistula is painful and drains regularly. The worst part is all the drugs I need to take just to barely manage it. Cipro 2x a day, Flagyl 2x a day, Mesalamine 3 a day, Budesonide (steroid) 3 pills a day, and a Stelara injection every month, which pretty much wipes me out for a week.
I can feel myself start to give up hope. The constant need for painkillers is leading me down a road I'm sure you can imagine as well.
I'm really struggling if I should pull the trigger or not, if I'm sick enough to warrant the ostomy. I know I am tired of the drugs and pain and constant doctors and prescriptions. My wife is fully supportive of the surgery, encouraging almost. I worry mostly about my self-image. I've seen on here you guys get wraps which conceal it all. That seems nice.
So, this would definitely be elective, just needing some advice please!